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I have a gifted/Aspergers 7yo DD. She will be going into 3rd grade at our local elementary school this fall. The school has no gifted program. We live in a small community and the options are very limited for schools. Because of her Aspergers, this school is the best option for her as far as SPED services/IEP goes, and learning environment.<br><br>
The staff is very nice, the principal is great, her teacher for 3rd grade is super. They will do what they can to give her advanced work, but in reality it might not be much - I just don't know yet.<br><br>
We don't want to skip her to 4th grade. Because of her Aspergers and that she is behind a little on social skills, we think it is not a good idea socially. Academically it would be good, but we don't want to overwhelm her socially.<br><br>
Is there anyone in a similar situation now or in the past?<br><br>
What have you done to keep your child interested in school when it is too easy for them, and to help the teacher find advanced stuff for him/her to do without seeming like a nag? I'm talking about good people here, but a school system that ties their hands and gives them nothing to offer students in the way of a GT program.<br><br>
Any thoughts? Suggestions?<br><br>
Oh, and homeschooling is not an option - we've tried it and school is better for us.
 

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What about piano lessons or a language class or something else outside of school? If you're happy with the school then I would explore other opportunities to keep your DD challenged.
 

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If she is academically 4th grade, she will be socially more comfortable with those students, don't you think? Otherwise, if you are happy with the school, just make sure that your daughter has a routine set up with the teacher with something to do if she finishes before others so she never gets "bored." Also, you will want to make sure that the teacher understands what it means that your child is twice-exceptional, gifted as well as having special needs.
 

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Could she go to 4th grade for some classes? Or could the 4th grade teacher give the 3rd grade teacher work for her? That way the teacher wouldn't be responsbile for finding more advanced work, it would just be a matter of the 4th grade teacher making an extra copy for your dd...
 

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Is she going to be socially ready for 4th grade in 2 years? The social issues associated with Aspergers aren't going to be out grown. The social issues will be there no matter what grade she is in. If she is held back 2 years she will have social issues, if she is moved ahead 2 years she will have social issues, and even if she stays with her age mates she will have social issues.<br><br>
I would try to keep the social placement question separate from the academic one to a certain degree.<br><br>
You call this your "best" option amongst a limited number of options. What are your other options? It's hard to compare when you only mention one.
 

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I'm trying to stay within a reasonable driving distance for one thing - 30 minutes driving max.<br><br>
That leaves us with two other options - a Montessori school, and a Carden Academy (based on Mae Carden). That is IT.<br><br>
We are not interested in the Montessori school because their approach (at this particular school) is too loose for our DD. She needs more structure and routine.<br><br>
The Carden Academy has a lot of routine, but it is very, very small. We would like for her to be with more students to have a broader experience with many types of people.<br><br>
The local PS, which is 8 minutes from our house, has structure and routine like a traditional school would, and it has about 400 students. There are 3 third grades, each with about 20 children. So DD would have the opportunity to interact with many kids, which is good for her socially in regards to her Aspergers.
 
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