[1xmom]

The other day my 7 year old dd went to her best friends house to play. She talks about this little girl all the time, they've been friends since Kindergarten, and her mom and I like to sit around and talk and we usually have a good time. Well this particular day, the little girl (we'll call her Jane) must've been getting tired and she and my dd had a disagreement. Well Jane starts to cry and tells my dd that she wasn't her friend anymore and she wanted her to leave. In the mean time Jane's mom told her to apologize b/c that wasn't a nice thing to say. Jane says no and she didn't like my dd anymore. My dd then says to me, "Mom, can we leave now?" and she went to get her shoes. The mother apologized and dd and I left. My dd was so calm and cool, and I could tell she was hurt. When we get in the car, she started to cry (just a little though) and she said "Mommy, I'm sorry we didn't have a good time." I told her that it was okay. My heart was just hurting, however, just seeing how hurt my dd was. We get home and their were 3 phone calls from Jane. When I called back, the mom said she had finally calmed down and wanted to apologize to my dd. However, she was sleep by then so I told her I'd let my dd call the next day. When I talked to my dd she said she didn't want to talk to her for now and I told her that was fine. She could talk to her when she was ready. Two days later, my dd did call her friend and I think all is well again.<br>
It just amazed me how mean kids can be sometimes to each other. Sometimes my dd and her friend get into little spats, but this was the first time she was really hurt and it made me cry for her. My dd had a couple of days to really think about it, and it won't surprise me if they don't stay friends or as close as they have been.

 

[AllisonR]

Actually, I think your post is lovely. The friend obviously overreacted, but tried to apologise. Your DD took the time she needed to evaluate the situation and reply. She didn't just jump right back in, and she didn't hold a grudge longer than needed. They made up, though it may cool off slightly for a while, or more. Sounds like they both acted more mature than many adults. Hugs to both girls.

 

[Lady Lilya]

I'm impressed with your daughter. I don't think most adults have that degree of maturity.

 

[lab]

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Why was Jane crying? What was the disagreement over?<br><br>
Not that it matters. Just curious.......