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What happened to my cute sweet cuddly mamas boy? Anyone seen him lately?<br><br>
Instead I have a kiddo who now likes to hit, yell "no", lay on the floor and make himself a deadweight when he doesn't want to do anything, and has completely lost his mind. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
We are trying very hard to keep calm, not yell, and just continue with loving gentle corrections but man is this hard. For background information, we avoid saying "no" as much as possible and use "we don't do that" or "please dont ..." instead and we are a no hit/spank family.
 

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Oh my! I was just going to post something about why is 20-months so hard?!<br><br>
My son is doing similar things and EVERYTHING seems to be so hard right now...eating, nursing, going out, staying home! And everything is MORE...more milk, more food, more books...no matter how much we've had or if he knows we've finished the food.<br><br>
He screams for milk when I take a shower even if he just had milk and was happily playing.<br><br>
Mine doesn't hit and doens't make himself a deadweight, but sometimes I wish he did (the deadweight, not hitting) so that he wouldn't be clawing at me the whole time.<br><br>
It is very frustrating for us too as we don't want him to be unhappy but we know he needs limits and boundaries. I'm afraid we are making it worse b/c sometimes I just give in b/c I can't stand it anymore and so what if he has three popsicles in a row and doesn't finish any of them...<br><br>
Anyway, I am no help at all, but sympathetic. I hope you get some responses to help you (and I'll steal the ideas too!).<br><br>
Aubrie
 

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been there done that. still deal with it some days, but overall, he's mostly a nice and fun and kind kid, albeit a bit rambunctious and trying to be physical.<br><br>
for hitting, i have taken to responding with "i won't let you hit ____." if it's a person, i will add "that hurts ___." then i divert attention or ask him to find a different way to play.<br><br>
for "no" i try and phrase things adifferent way or i offer two choices and let him pick.<br><br>
for not wanting to do things, i offer two choices and let him pick. indecision from him equals i get to pick, and then he rapidly chooses the opposite. or sometimes if he doesn't want to get his shoes on (for example...), i will put him in his carseat without his shoes and then he decides he wants his shoes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
regardless of all that happens and all that i say, i feel like i repeat things ad nauseum but i have come to realize that's life with a toddler.<br><br>
you are not alone, mamas. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><br><br>
~claudia
 
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