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DD signs "potty" when she has to go (most of the time), and she's good about it in the night, too, if she's awake enough to realize. However, she's also good at doing it quite often while trying to go to bed when she doesn't want to be there. The thing is, sometimes she DOES go, but other times it SURE seems manipulative...she'll sign it, I'll take her (not wanting to mess with her if she really DOES have to go), sit her there, she'll be all happy and chatty and sit there FOREVER and not go)...then I'll take her back and she'll start signing potty again. After a couple times if she doesn't go, I just stop taking her.<br><br>
How and where do I draw the line??? I don't want to stop responding to her if she DOES have to go, but I don't want her to think she can say she has to go potty everytime she doesn't want to do something.
 

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I'm no expert but here's a couple thoughts:<br><br>
1. Can you go more by timing (say she only needs to go once every couple hours, and she just went 1/2 hour ago. Does that mean she doesn't really have to go?)<br><br>
2. Maybe when she signs, take her to the potty but if she doesn't go right away take her off the potty and don't take her if she signs again.
 

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(I'm new to this, see my siggy, so this is just a guess)<br>
Maybe she just wants more attention from you? I've read about babies sometimes BFing when they're not really hungry, but bored, and they always suggest trying something interactive and distracting with your baby like reading a book or playing a game. Of course if you're ECing, she's probably getting lots of attention, so that may not be any part of it at all.<br><br>
And the PP suggestion about timing sounds good, too.
 

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Get a potty for the bedroom. When she signs potty at bedtime, let her use that potty while you sing a lullaby or read a story. When she doesn't go, help her back into bed and sing another lullaby and just stay with her quietly. Keep the lights as low as possible.<br><br><br>
Also consider cutting dairy out of her diet. I *love* cheese, but when I eat it, I get an urge to urinate at night that has no connection to actually having anything in my bladder. UTIs have a similar effect, but are also painful.
 

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Interesting question! I will have to cross that bridge when I come to it but here's what I'm thinking now: pee DD before she goes to bed, whether she signs it or not. That way, she won't have an excuse. Anyway it's a good habit. I always go pee before hitting the sack.<br><br>
I realize that she might sign right after anyway, but at least then you'll have a better idea that it's to get out of bed.<br><br>
I look forward to hearing how it goes. Good luck!
 

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I always took my daughter every time she signed, but it did help a lot to have a potty right in the bedroom so it wasn't a big deal. The phase didn't last long, and it was actually great to have so many opportunities for her to sign and me to respond! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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nak<br>
were in this phase right now too. when she signs after we're in her room for bedtime, i bring the potty in her room and keep the lights off. fwiw, she does use the potty right before jammies. she's so close to graduating, i don't want to say "no" when she asks. however, i must say that i am kinda over it as well as all the other recent bedtime madness. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 
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