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So I have this friend. He's a good guy, late 30s, steady job, makes decent money as an IT analyst, dresses cute, good sense of humor, likes alternative music. Outdoorsy. Kids and dogs flock to him like no other person I have ever seen, and he loves them right back. He has one daughter, and he is an <i>awesome</i> dad. He's not a smoker or big drinker at all, so not into the bar scene.<br><br>
He'd like to find a nice significant other. A woman who drives a Jeep, he says (not a requirement! more of a type.) Someone who shares his interests and has children herself, or at least likes kids and is not intimidated that he has a child. He's tried the online dating services, and says he gets no response there. He is sure it's because he's a regular-guy dad instead of a flashy single guy.<br><br>
I've not dated in Atlanta for, uh, 18 years? So I am wracking my brain but not really coming up with any fresh ideas for how to meet the kind of girl he's looking for. Why doesn't REI have a dating service? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Any suggestions? Or, any single mamas, or mamas with single friends? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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Sorry, no good suggestions. I didn't know where to find a date even when I was dating!
 

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UUCA has a group called Ens and Outs for REI types, and REI is located conveniently nearby! <a href="http://www.uuca.org/Available/Fellowship/EnsAndOuts.asp" target="_blank">http://www.uuca.org/Available/Fellowship/EnsAndOuts.asp</a><br><br>
Or if he is less liberally religious he should go to some other church ... I thought that was where the hookups all go down. That and Match.com.
 

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Oh thank you for the replies! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
He is NOT religious at all. If it all happens at church, I guess that's why he's not getting the hookups! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> He did try Match.com but got nothing there too. I don't get it, he's a good-looking guy, in good shape, etc. I think he could date people that he meets out and about, if he was not too shy to ask for phone numbers.
 

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Hey, I'm up for a date!
 

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I think he could try <a href="http://www.meetup.com/" target="_blank">meetup.com</a>. Maybe a hiking meetup or such?
 

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How about a personals listing on Craig's List. I have a friend who et a great guy through there. I know you also said that he has tried a dating service but how about <a href="http://www.okcupid.com" target="_blank">www.okcupid.com</a> <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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How about joining a hiking club, or maybe taking some cooking classes at someplace like Whole Foods?<br><br>
I'm probably not much help- DH and I met online in a regular non-dating chat room. That kind of situation works well for shy people b/c you can kind of hide, but still be yourself. I think one reason it worked so well for us is that we were so relaxed b/c neither of us really thought a relationship would happen! We just had fun talking.<br><br>
Can you get him to come chat here? It seems like the couple of male posters we have get a lot of attention. That would be one way to meet a fellow parent!
 

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These are excellent ideas! I knew I could count on you mamas. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I told him about meetup.com, and he did go check out a hiking club on the site. Maybe he'll go.<br><br>
I am going to make him register here! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Okay...so after much arm twisting and threats of bodily harm, here I am...the friend in question.<br><br>
Be gentle.
 

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Oh look! Now you can PM him, gratefulmama2isaac. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> Maybe you'll hit it off!<br><br>
I did not threaten you. I read the GD forum. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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I know threats...that was a threat. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao">
 

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Just pointing out that you have some choice in whether to <i>die lonely and alone</i>... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
Why don't you tell us a little something about yourself? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I'm married in ATL, but I'd recommend joining a couple of clubs. It's hard for women to be approached by someone they don't know, just because it's dangerous nowadays. If you join a club, you're meeting someone with similar intrests, have a chance to get to know them, so you're not a "stranger" and have a built in date every week!
 

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38/M/ATL <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br><br><br>
Single father of one lovely 6 year-old daughter.<br><br>
Enjoy most outdoor activities...hiking, backpacking, biking, etc. Involved in motorsports as a hobby. Work in IT for a local company and am involved in a start-up with a partner at present. Between work and my daughter, I am limited in the time I've had to look for a S.O. for me. Not much into the bar scene...and the people that I'd meet there. Dated a little in the past few years, but nothing really serious. Mostly a bit shy intially. Once I know you for a few minutes, though...it's on. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I agree that you should join a hiking club or something like that. Or a motorsports club, but you'd probably meet a bunch of guys like you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> skybluepink is right, a group setting can be more comfortable for everybody, and it's pretty easy to figure out if there is mutual interest when you see somebody you like.<br><br>
I realize that you want to spend your free time with dd. But if you truly want to find a SO, you will have to find some time to meet potential mates without dd. And don't discount the notion that you are maybe, just a little, hiding behind your 'lack of time' because you're a single dad. You *can* make time. Your daughter wants you to be happy! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Hi Skwid, welcome! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave"><br><br>
I think you need a siggy- look at the bottom of some of our posts for examples. That way, when you leave the FL/GA/AL board, an head to.... oh, I don't know... say the Single Parenting board, the women there will know that you're a man, and get the basics about you. I'd get a few more posts under your belt first though, so they don't think you're just there cruising for chicks. :LOL<br><br>
You sound like an awesome catch, and back when I had a bunch of single friends, I would have had a hundred of them banging down your door before sundown!<br><br><br><br>
I wonder if there are any good activities you could do with your daughter where you could meet other single parents. There must be some sort of clubs like that. The more you get out there, the more of a chance you have of meeting a quality person.
 

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Well. I'm a climber and know a lot of REI type of girls. Go to the climbing gym and start chatting when some of the women. It's an easy way to get to know people. Admittedly, there are more men than women there, but still. It's a start.
 

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I've met you (i think....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">) and I agree that you are an awesome catch! You seemes to make conversation easily, are good looking (I can say that, I thought you looked a little like my dh), and I hear first hand what a great dad you are and how much you love your whole family. You'd make any woman a happy woman! Maybe the hiking/cooking club/class would be a good place to meet someone. Try hanging out at Starbucks or similar kind of place you like. Just smile everywhere you go, you're bound to meet someone that way.
 
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