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My 2 month old does NOT sleep without me. He sleeps fine in our bed at night snuggled right up beside me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">. He will not nap unless he is being held (preferably by me) or in his swing. He does not like the cradle hold in his pouch sling and I can't figure out another hold for him to sleep while I am wearing him so that I can get stuff done and he can sleep without waking easily. And he wakes almost immediately when I lay him down in his crib. (Yeah, he has a crib. A beautiful, handmade with organic everything. It is for show!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> )<br><br>
I really want him to get his good afternoon nap in, but not in his swing (as it is the only place he will nap without me). I really want to transition him out of the swing. He is sleeping a good 3 hrs. there each afternoon and I need some free time while he is napping to clean, cook, etc. Should I let him nap in our bed alone if he will sleep there?<br><br>
Where does/did your infant nap?
 

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My dd has always slept in our bed with no problem. I'd say go for it. You can even try leaving a nursing bra beside him to give him some of your smell while ur gone.
 

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the only place my dd will nap at our house is in her swing. she used to nap on our bed until she decided the swing was better.<br><br>
i don't know what i'm going to do once she outgrows her swing :\
 

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At 2 months, both my babes only napped while velcroed to me, whether I was babywearing, cosleeping during naps, or passed out on the couch, they were in constant physical contact with me.<br><br>
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Even now, at 28 months and 12 months, they don't fall asleep without me holding them (except the occassional night My oldest daughter spends at my parents, but they allow her to cosleep).
 

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At 3 months I have just begun putting my DD in a basinette for her naps. I would always hold her, but decided I needed to start getting some things done. I put her in it after she has fallen asleep on me and then maintain physical contact after she is in the basinette until I'm sure she's good and asleep. She doesn't sleep as long in it as she does when she would lay on my chest. I like free2be idea of putting a nursing bra near them.
 

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DS napped in my arms or in a carrier until about 7 months. At that point, I started putting him down for naps on our bed, with a monitor on do I could hear when he stirred/fussed.<br><br>
If your DS does not like cradle hold in the pouch sling, why not try out a wrap in which you could do a tummy-to-tummy carry? He would be more vertical, but his head would be well supported too.
 

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In our arms, in our bed (with me or DH napping with her<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> ) and in a bassinet, and on a blanket on the floor after falling asleep playing<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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At 14 mo, my dd still only naps while being held or worn (well, she'll sleep on car rides sometimes).
 

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My DS naps in his pack'n play or in my lap, generally. Usually he falls asleep nursing and then I lay him down in the pack'n play sos' I don't disturb him. Its in the same room as me so I can see/hear him perfectly. I'd never dare leave him sleep upstairs in either the crib or our bed. WAY too far away!!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My dd has always slept in our bed with no problem. I'd say go for it. You can even try leaving a nursing bra beside him to give him some of your smell while ur gone.</div>
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yep this works. DD is 4 months and sometimes I'll nurse lying down for a nap and once she's asleep I'll roll away from her and slip a rolled up recieving blanket next to her and then I leave lots of soaked nursing pads near her head where she can smell them. Looks stupid but it generally works. She used to sleep great swaddled in her swing but I've not done that in awhile...she seemed to transition herself out of it and it stopped working so I had to come up with some new stuff.<br><br>
We don't have a crib and she already is too long for the co-sleeper so she can only nap either on our bed or on the couch or while I'm holding her (which is what I did pretty much her first..2 months of life). I'm deficient at babywearing so I've never been able to wear her during her naps<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"> as much as I would be ok with that.
 

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up to 6 or 7 month Theo slept on me, or physically toching me next to me on the sofa. he'd sleep and i'd just hold him, sleep, or watch TV, or try to read.<br><br>
about month 6 or 7 whe he started to have more set naps vs awake time -- and not just be all over teh place -- i started to rock him to sleep in his room, and then lay down with him on his bed (a double bed) then roll him next to me, then i'd roll away -- this learning process took a long time and at 21 months it dtill doesn't always work <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
at night he'd go to bed on his bed, then I would take him to our bed (much taller) when i went to bed. Now he goes to sleep in his bed and comes to our bed the first time he wakes up after i have gone bed -- used to be i took him in asleep when i went to bed.<br><br>
when he started to crawl, late, we took the double bed, his beed, off the rails and it is just on a boxspring on the floor.<br><br>
After he could roll over he never slept alone in our bed, till just recently, now that he has well mastered climbig in and out of it alone -- this summer so since 19 or 20 months.<br><br>
I still sleep him alone in his bed, he only sleeps alone in ours if i get up before him -- or if dh and i sneak out after he has come to our bed for a while (45 minutes or so maybe?).<br><br>
I feel safe with him in our bed alone -- but I want him to see it as mom and dad's bad, and Theo's bed as his own -- my Dn at 4 had a hard time moving to his own bed cuz he called momma's bed HIS .,. so he had no need for that new bed. Theo is always welcome, but it is my bed. From day one i called it momma and dadddy's bed and Theo's beds .<br><br>
but whe he was tiny -- he slept on me, or in the sling.... once in a GREAT whiel in the swing. Then i started transitiong him to sleep on teh bed alone. he never slept in a crib at all, maybe 3 x total, though he would -- the first month or so -- sleep in the his cradle downstairs for short times.<br><br>
he has ALWAYS slept better being held. but then again, so do I <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
my son has taken 2 3 hours naps in his entire 21 month life <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> .<br><br>
I would say start a slow transition to the bed, lay with him, then lay him beside you, then move away a little ... just go slow and let him re-settle at each move.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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i keep hearing about this -- babies and tots just falling asleep -- ??????????????? never seen it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I would pay money for it.
 

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Sometimes I will lay on the couch next to her and just watch tv for the half hour she sleeps but most of the time I put her in her bouncer.
 

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My 2 1/2 month old is the same way... She doesn't sleep well in a sling, but I got a wrap and she LOVES it. She likes to be vertical. She sleeps in it when I buy groceries or do anything around the house. I would give it a shot... it's changed my life!
 

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I have really been considering forking out some $$$ for a wrap. they seem so expensive, but I think it would be a better choice. I guess I am heading to babywearing to see if I can find an affordable one.<br><br>
Thanks! It makes me feel like I am not the only holding a baby all day. Not that I mind at all because he is oh so Precious! I do just like a little "me" time to bathe, clean, etc.
 

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I'm usually in bed w/ DD for naps (like now). If we're on the go, she sleeps wrapped on me. My sister thinks I'm crazy for napping with herb<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"> but it works well. Besides, DD nurses in her sleep. I call it nursleeping <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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nak<br><br>
11 mo. always naps in my arms with me in the rocking chair reading mdc on my laptop. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> This can't go on forever, but the second I put her down she wakes. Every day I choose happy, rested baby over tired, crabby baby.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">DD is 9 mos and if I really want her to nap good it means she has to be in my arms.</div>
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my 6 mo son is the same way!
 

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My co-sleeping 9 month old naps either in the swing, his crib (it took a few weeks of increasingly longer naps to get to where he'll sleep for a good nap in the crib), but when he really needs a good long sleep, I either hold him or put him in our bed, sometimes lying with him, other rimes not. When he sleeps alone in our bed, we put a wall of pillows around him so he can't roll off. They have a baby wrap at Babies 'R Us that we like. It's around 40 dollars.
 

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Well, my 8 month old only gets a decent nap if he's in my arms or in the car. He used to sleep in the wrap or Ergo on the go, but now things are too interesting for him to sleep. Honestly though, I've never really put much energy into trying to get him to sleep alone. Everytime I've tried he's awake within 30 min and I'd rather him get a decent nap than learn to sleep alone at this point.
 
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