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Which is more benifical?

  • Homeschooling

    Votes: 28 50.9%
  • Go back to work, send kids to PS and save for their college education

    Votes: 19 34.5%
  • other (because there is always an other)

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If you had to choose between the two, homeschooling or saving for college, which do you think is the better choice? We finacially will not be able to afford both, which do you think is more benifical? Maybe this goes in education fell free to move it. Oh and other info, the school district is OK not suberb but not intercity schools either.
 

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Mine are young: 5 (almost), 2 and due in a few weeks. We are homeschooling, but not for financial reasons. I hopes they will recieve scholarships, but I can't predict much about teh next 12-18 yrs, except that it will likely be expensive. They may have to do a mixed bag og higher ed and it is a HUGE consideration for dh if he takes another position somewhere. Right now our children (and me) can get degrees from the school he currently teaches at.
 

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I would do what is best for my kids now.<br><br>
College is a long way away. Its too expensive and does not mean just because you have a college diploma you will have a better job. Personally if my kids want college I would rather they work a couple of years first and then work their way through it. We are (jokingly) trying to encourage our boys to become plumbers. The local plumbers are making as much as lawyers around here.
 

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We do the work/PS/save for college thing. However, I couldn't vote because I don't know that's it's best. It works well for us!
 

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I don't really have an opinion either way, its such a personal choice, but I'll give you some thoughts. I am assuming the difference here is the loss of your income from working while the kids are at school.<br><br>
We talk a lot on this forum about getting out of debt, look around at how many people here are struggling to get out of debt. While I'm all for kids contributing to their college and if loans are the only way to get them there, its not the end of the world and doesn't mean you are a bad parent or anything. However, I would rather not saddle my children with a lot of debt so early in life. Sure, there are lots of other options for them, as others said work for a while or take on a trade, but what career path to take in life is something I want my child to decide for themselves.<br><br>
My husband and I are fortunate in that our parents did pay for most of our college educations (all of his and most of mine), so we started with not only very little debt, but actually even some savings and investments. I think it has made a huge difference in our quality of life at this point. So that is just something to think about - being able to give your children the gift of a debt-free start to life has a lot of merits.<br><br>
It also doesn't have to be all or nothing. You could homeschool the years you feel are most critical, or you could send them to public school for as long as it seems to be working and switch to homeschooling if it isn't. You could also look into possible alternative working scenarios that would allow you to homeschool and earn some income for college savings.<br><br>
For me personally, the choice would be clear, I would choose public school and college savings, but that is 90% because I just do not have the temperment to home school - I am a terrible teacher, I'm impatient and inconsistent. I would not be good at it and it would not be better for my kids than the public school. But that doesn't help you really! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We are choosing to homeschool for right now. College is a long ways off and the community college/distance learning opportunities in our state and relatively inexpensive and great deals. All could and probably will change but we are going to make the best fiancial choices possible right now. We don't live in an area with good schools and the school system cares more about the adults than the kids. This is a problem. Last year I sent her out of district but the schedule wore us all out.
 

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I think college is overrated. I have a BA, my DH is a hs dropout, and he's way more advanced in his career (which he loves) than I am (I don't really even <i>have</i> a career.) I think that self-esteem is the best college prep, and from what I've noticed, homeschooled kids tend to be confident and content.
 

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Public school and college, hands down. But that's just me. I think college (or a skilled trade, which is often nearly as expensive as college) is essential in today's market,
 

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I wish, wish, WISH I had been home schooled.<br><br>
As someone fresh out of the secondary education system I'll say this: it's highly overrated. Society pushes this idea that going to a 4 year college is not only right for everyone but absolutely needed (and it isn't true).<br><br>
Besides, my parents didn't pay for my college. My in-laws didn't pay for any of their kids to go to college. I'm not sure where this idea of parents paying for kids to go to college comes from. Sure, if you're swimming in money, why not? But plenty of young adults are perfectly capable of putting themselves through school in a variety of ways (working, scholarships, grants, etc.). It's even more feasible if you choose an affordable school (or start at a community college and transfer to a bigger name later). Sure, not ALL schools are equal. But a lot of them are closer than people say.
 

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Why not work, and do "afterschooling" with the kids where you can work on subjects that need extra attention or are not covered/offered by the PS? That gives you a better feeling for how your kids are doing in school (you can check progress regularly), and if you later decide that full homeschooling would be better, it will be easier to transition.<br><br>
Even if you only work part time or have to quit eventually to homeschool fulltime, if you stick every extra cent you make working into a good fund, that will be at least some help when it comes time for college.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Why not work, and do "afterschooling" with the kids where you can work on subjects that need extra attention or are not covered/offered by the PS? That gives you a better feeling for how your kids are doing in school (you can check progress regularly), and if you later decide that full homeschooling would be better, it will be easier to transition.<br><br>
Even if you only work part time or have to quit eventually to homeschool fulltime, if you stick every extra cent you make working into a good fund, that will be at least some help when it comes time for college.</div>
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I dont nessisarly always thing the education part of PS is laking. More the emotional, self-esteem building, love of learning and caring that is laking<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Keep your thoughts coming. I've been wreasleing with this chioce for a year or so now and have a year to go till my oldest is old enough for kinderg.
 

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I wouldn't send my kids to public school if you paid me. It just isn't a choice for our family.<br><br>
As far as college funding, we're working the Dave Ramsey plan and although we thought it would never happen, we are going to be saving for the kids' college. Also, I would be happy to work full-time during our kids' college years to help them pay for school as long as they have picked a major and actually know what they want to do with it. I don't want to pay for them to go just to be going to college. I also expect them to live at home to save on room and board, to attend community college during their high school years to start racking up credits, etc.
 

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Homeschooling hands down!
 

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If the school your child wants to go to is local, you might be able to work there and get free tuition.<br><br>
DH works at a university. Our children will get free tuition there, or ina variety of other schools in their consortium.<br>
When I worked at the university , a coworker worked there in order to get free tuition.<br><br>
We are homeschooling.
 

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I didn't vote in the poll but one thing we are considering is private school during elementary school due to the smaller class sizes mostly. I don't know you religious leanings, but prochial school in our area are very reasonable and some have tiny classes. You might be able to work, pay for private school and save some of your salary for college too.<br><br>
In the end, my guess is we will do public school and I will hopefully work PT enough that I can pick the kids up from school and spend the afternoon with them. We may consider having them go to PS for some subects, and HS for math (DH and I are both engineers so we can handle HS'ing math with no problem).<br><br>
A mom in my LLL sends her son to montesorri school 3 days/week and HS's 2 days/week. There are tons of options depending on your work schedule.
 

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I think it depends. what are your kids odds of getting a scholarship if you continue homeschooling them? I would start with wherever they would thrive the most in. then I would evaluate how important it was for me to save for college for them (this is not very important to me so I am focusing on paying for school now rather than in the future because where they are now will shape who they are, not just how smart they are, and who they are is far more important to me than where or if they go to school in the future.)
 

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Hmm, I have never had a potential employer ask me if I was home-schooled. I have had every one want to know if I had a college degree.
 
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