[Kindermama]

I never knew MDC had a board like this! I've been spreading all my drama on another board I frequent (some of you might know me already) and unless someone who replies is a stepmama, I just feel downright alone.

Here's some brief history...
Had dd, Kaya (now 6). Her father abandoned her after I ended our relationship. A few years down the road, met Cameron. He was recently separated with an 18 mo old son, Cody (now 3). Six months later, we move into together. Both our kids are with us full-time (planned on marrying this past Jan) Four months later, pregnant! Got engaged in Jan instead. Ellery arrived in March. Getting married next month. How's that for out of order!

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Anyway, Cody's mom abandoned him. She only sees him every 3 months and on her terms. So, my life has been a whirlwind over the past 1.5 years. Enough to give anyone else a heartattack. I've been having a lot of trouble bonding with Cody. Somedays, I just don't think I'm cut out to be his Mama.
I've been pushed into the role and well, it's hardwork considering he's home with my full-time from the get-go...I didn't really have any transition period nor did he..so we still have issues bonding and it's been over a year now. And toss in some pregnancy hormones and now PPD and well...there are days where I want to run away!

so anyway, I'm going to be stopping in here. if you'll have me!

 

[Marlet]

WELCOME!

I understand the no transition thing. I met my husband when I started working for and within six months we were married. He had a four year old from a previous marriage. I got a husband and a four year old SS all within six months. No transition there!

 

[Kindermama]

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Originally Posted by Lizabethian WELCOME! I understand the no transition thing. I met my husband when I started working for and within six months we were married. He had a four year old from a previous marriage. I got a husband and a four year old SS all within six months. No transition there!

finally! I'm at home!!

 

[Jbugz]

I'm in the opposite situation, but I'm sure we have similar issues regardless. I'm the one with the bio kids and DH was thrown into a ready made family and BOY have we had the issues.

I really wish we'd had a place like this to talk to others in the very beginning. We probably wouldn't have made all the mistakes we did...such as him trying to be a disciplinarian before becoming loved...bad move

Glad ya found this section. I know I was really stoked to find it here when I joined.