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Where should the H&H thread go?

  • Stay where it is - as a thread in the Pregnancy after Birth Loss subforum

    Votes: 3 12.0%
  • It should be moved to a thread in the Pregnancy and Birth Loss subforum

    Votes: 11 44.0%
  • It needs its own subforum

    Votes: 15 60.0%
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After some discussion, it seems that putting the H&H thread in the PAL forum might not be the best place for it. It seems we might miss people who aren't ready to go into the PAL stage just yet, but since it is somewhat TTC related, it shouldn't be put it in the faces of people who aren't ready for that either.
 

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The H&H thread started after my time, but I can see that there's a progression through the boards, from the pregnancy boards to PABL to PAL- even thinking about it. The question really is whether it's too hard for a mama who hasn't yet got her cycles back, or who is struggling with conception the second time around, to be posting on the PAL board, and I can't answer that one.
 

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For me it is a litttle hard to be posting on a PAL forum when I sooo desperately want to be PAL but I'm not there yet. I actually make myself not look at the other posts when I come in to check out the H&H one. It's kinda sad to have to see threads about pregnancy when I'm still reeling from my second m/c and not pg yet.
 

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I didn't like going to the loss forum over and over...I was feeling ready to switch my focus and energy to ttc but still had the concerns and issues of someone recovering from a loss...so I would vote to move it out of the loss forum.<br><br>
Just to be clear though the loss forum was incredible helpful along the way and certainly has it's place. I just vote to give this discussion it's own separate place.
 

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The whole Pregnancy and Birth Loss forum seems to have posts about everything everywhere. There is a lot of TTC threads in the main part, and under the PABL subforum. There are pregnancy related threads sometimes in the main part.<br><br>
I would think it would get more visibility in the main P&BL forum. I would also think it would be nice to have a HH&TTC after Birth Loss forum under the main P&BL forum where our thread could be and all the other threads regarding, but I don't know if they would do that.<br><br>
Honestly I will find it wherever it goes <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
eta: trying to clarify...I think it should stay somewhere within the Pregnancy and Birth Loss forum. Whether it's a thread in the main part, or whether it becomes a sub-category like Pregnancy After Birth Loss.
 

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Now that I think about it, these seem like 3 very seperate stages:<br><br>
1. Had a loss. Not ready to try again.<br>
2. Had a loss. TTC.<br>
3. Had a loss but currently pregnant.<br><br>
Looks like 3 valid subforums.
 

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After visiting the Pregnancy and Birth Loss forum, I am thinking even more that this thread needs its own subforum under the Pregnancy and Birth Loss Heading on the main page. I feel this way for two reasons:<br><br>
1)Those who are new to the "Pregnancy and Birth Loss" forum may find the prospect of TTC again just too painful and scary.<br>
2)Those who want to be pregnant again but aren't quite there yet may find visiting the "Pregnancy After Birth Loss" forum too painful and frustrating.<br><br>
Thus, IMO it does not belong in either the "Pregnancy and Birth Loss" or the "Pregancy After Birth Loss" forums, but rather needs a subforum of its own. (Not to mention that the thread gets very long (70+ pages) and can be difficult to keep up with!)
 

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okay, I voted for putting it in the main P&BL forum, but after reading chesapeake's answer I think I agree w/ her that its subforum might be a better choice. sorry, so indecisive.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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I'm with jmo & chesapeake. And just like rach said, I'll find my mama friends wherever we may end up <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Thanks for all the advice! I'll post December's thread in the main PABL forum and in the meantime, we can petition for our own subforum.<br><br>
Thanks for all the opinions.
 

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As a graduate from the ttc and pal threads I think they should have their own subforum too. If I was ttc after a loss I would NOT want to go to the main forum to read all the posts about m/c's. That's just me. I also avoided the main loss forums like the plague when I was newly pregnant. I really think it needs it's own subforum!
 
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