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No, I am not trying to hide an actual potato... The Spud is our son, aka Dylan, and I'm trying to find care options for him for the Big Day. I've drafted an e-mail to send to 4 friends who know Dylan and might be willing to help... all of them work, so it would be hard for any of them to commit to a blanket slot. I'm hoping to get a sort of on-call schedule going (I have a scary spreadsheet to organize this... I have scary spreadsheets for most things right now). Can you mamas take a look at this and tell me what you think? Is it clear, is it confusing, would it put you off to get it via e-mail? There is at least one person who I'm thinking that I might call, at least to give her a heads up that the e-mail is on its way.<br><br>
Thanks in advance!<br><br><i>I have a favor to ask. I’m asking a few friends who know Dylan and live somewhat between our house and the hospital if they would be able to act as “on call” child care in the case our best laid plans go awry.<br><br>
Here is the plan….<br>
Our hope is that once I go into labor, we’ll be able to call my sister and mom and they will hop in their car and drive down from Bellingham in plenty of time for us to make it to the hospital. Allowing them time to pick up purses, go to the bathroom, fill the gas tank, and make a Starbuck’s run, it will probably take them about 2.5 hours to get from Bellingham to Seattle.<br><br>
If for some reason, however, we need to leave for the hospital immediately and suddenly, we will need someplace to stash Dylan en route. (If it is an absolute emergency, we might need someone to come to our house, but if we have to have an emergency, we are hoping for a low-level emergency that would allow me to travel via ambulance while Jonny delivers Dylan to his home away from home).<br><br>
Once my sister is able deliver Mom at our house, whoever has Dylan can deposit him there (either when convenient, or in the morning if we have to drop him off in the middle of the night). We’ll leave a car seat and contact information with his caretaker.<br><br>
I’m making this proposition to several people, so I am not asking anyone to make a blanket commitment to taking Dylan any time or day we happen to need it. My hope is to organize an “on call” schedule of a variety of people who are willing to help out and the days and times they are available. My due date (for whatever that is worth) is November 9, and I’d like to have care arranged two weeks before and after the due date (between October 19 and November 25). Are there one or two days that you’d be willing to watch Dylan, or a four hour block here or there, or a whole week?<br><br>
Please give this some thought. I know that this is asking a lot, and PLEASE feel comfortable saying no if you don’t feel like you can make this kind of a commitment. I will completely understand. I would also love to talk about remuneration in the form of baked goods, reciprocal child care, pet care, or cold hard cash – or some combination of these, in addition to my gratitude.<br><br>
I hope it isn’t awkward to send this in e-mail format, but that seems like the easiest way to lay it out in some organized fashion, and to give you the opportunity to digest it without feeling put on the spot by a cold call.<br><br>
Let me know if you’d like me to call you so we can talk about this more.<br><br>
Best wishes,<br>
Erica<br></i>
 

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I think that's a very nice email. You may not even have to get people to commit to specific blocks of time--I'll bet many if not most would be happy to be "on call" whenever you need it. I have done this for several friends in the past and have always been more than happy to do it. Its not like you are asking people to watch Dylan for days--this in only a matter of a few hours. No big deal. I wouldn't stress over it and I'm sure your friends will be thrilled to help. I have always been honored to be someone's "on call" person.
 

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I think that's a perfect e-mail! I agree with Googy, I'd bet you're more likely to get people saying they can do it anytime and the spreadsheet won't be necessary. Maybe just keep a list of when people are NOT available? Like, Susan can do anytime but 10/31-11/1, Kate can do anytime but 11/5-7, etc?
 

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Thank you for reading all the way through and replying! I appreciate your feedback!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/kissy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="kiss">
 

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I also agree that the e-mail is spectacular, but I would bet a couple of people would be willing to be on call at any time. Some people can make things flexible at work if they're salaried and depending on the job. Good luck!!
 
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