I won't nurse on upolstered furniture that belongs to someone outside of my family (and one couple that we are friends with) after a bad spit up incident on the couch of some folks that we didn't know that well.
I usually don't nurse in front of my father. It doesn't bother me much but it totally creeps him out and I don't see him very often so it doesn't seem worth making a fuss over.
It is interesting how sometimes we feel weirder doing stuff in front of family members than other people. My FIL has kissed dd's head while she was nursing but my own father won't even come in the room.
I bf about everywhere, kind of like the ham n eggs book. I do however limit nursing in uncomfortable situations. Like my family thinks it is wierd so I try to be as discrete as possible. However, with a newborn or a very hungry/tired baby or toddler, I just DON"T care who looks or who is near me.
One time my mother's bf came up to the baby and patted him on the head and THEN noticed I was nursing. He turned red and backed away. It cracked me up (on the inside of course). It just goes to show you how little people really can see when your nursing.
My grandfather thinks it is awful but, he just averts his eyes now. He has gotten over it and chooses not to pick a battle with me. Besides, it would probably be more embarassing to ask me not to do "it". Because then, I would ask him to explain what "it" was, and he would die if he ever had to say breast!
I mostly just give people the "I dare you to say something" look when I nurse in public. It keeps most people far away from me.
One time I was in a resturaunt and we were waiting on a table. Of course my 14 month old was really hungry and thirsty. He was being a pill. So, I started to nurse him. We were on benches and a lady with a toddler (Nick's age) was sitting a foot in front facing me. She kept giving me this dirty go to hell look. So, I loudly asked my two older children to come and stand in front of me so I could nurse the baby. It was very amusing, my kids laughed and stood there gaurding me from this horrible lady. Sometimes, I try to avoid the looks but this lady was so close and making me so uncomfortable, I had to do something. I sure wasn't going to quit nursing!
Oh! I did remember one other situation. The only time I ever breastfed out of sight due to an individual: My great aunt was dying of brain cancer. Her emotions were totally out of control from the tumor location. She had been very supportive of me breastfeeding Roman when he was a newborn. She told me about breastfeeding her twins way back when and how she had so much milk she had to use baby diapers in her bra to absorb all the leaking! Anyway, it was VERY distressing to her to see Roman nurse after he started walking (she "only" breastfed for 6 months), and since she was dying a slow and painful death, and since her mind was going (quite literally), I thought it was best for all involved for me to leave the room to nurse Roman.
i have nursed once in a bathroom; ds was about 7 weeks old and we were in the tub together. i have not nursed in a bathroom since, and won't.
i will not nurse in a moving vehicle, or in anyplace that i wouldn't feel comfortable drinking water. other than that, i will nurse anywhere, anytime. *especially* if there are other moms around who are bottlefeeding or people are eating (restaurants, for example).
if there is no place comfortable to sit in a store, i ask if there is a chair someplace i can use. no one has ever refused me a place to sit before, but if they did i'd sit on the floor. i don't have a problem with it, but chairs are more comfortable.
I won't nurse in a moving car. Of course. Although I did see a lady in a monster truck holding her baby on her lap in a bouncer and smoking a cigarette driving down the road.
I am not allowed to nurse in my parent's living room. I have to go to the spare bedroom. My mom nursed me until I was a year and she wasn't raised like that by my gp. I don't understand.
Basically, it dosen't matter anyway because Jayden will not NIP. He is far too concearned about what is going on around him. I have to take him someplace without distraction and that is usually the car.
As a newborn and young baby I would nurse him in my sling everywhere. Except once there was a really creepy looking guy staring at us he seemed to be a perv and I left the store to nurse.
I won't nurse in the chapel at church, but a mother's room is provided and the sound is piped in back there. In the all-women's meetings it doesn't bother me though.
I think it makes my dad and step-dad cringe a bit, but they're too supportive to argue with me, they just don't look. Any my little brothers for that matter, but they're getting used to it. Training for when they have kids. =)
My LLLI group has some cards in bright pink that have the law about NIP, and I keep one of those in my diaper bag, just in case. The only place I can't nurse by law is in someone else's home if they don't want me to, so I do ask. No one's ever told me no, and if they did, I'd just go out to the car or the sidewalk. Let all the neighbors see instead. =)
Melissa... it will be interesting to chat with your younger brothers years from now. My older sis nursed both her daughters and recalls one bro in particular (younger than her but older than me) who would come walking into a room, notice she was nursing and get a slightly startled look on his face, spin on his heal and retreat. He was 16ish at the time. Fast forward to last year... he is almost 40 and has finally found a bride and they have a baby. His wife is cheerfully nursing. He is proud and supportive. My sister reminds him of his reaction to her nursing 20 years ago. He does not remember. He simply can't imagine that her story is true! He's come along way!!!!
I will do it anywhere. Althiugh last Christmas dh's parents had some friends stop by who were older. When I mentioned that dd needed to nurse their faces went pale so I went to the adjoining room. They were from a generation that didn't bf so I can understand their embarassment.
I am no longer nursing. But sure I nursed in my bathroom. On those growth spurt/frequency days? when the baby just won't let go? it was easier just to stay latched on and go. A sling helps for this!
And I think it is fine to nurse in my own bath tub as well. I loved bathing with the kids (spirited kids need lots of baths for fun and relaxation!) and if the boob was out, someone was gonna get on it! LOL!
Did I nurse in a public toilet? No way, unless there was a separate lounge area with a comfy chair.
I nurse at their extra curricular activities, but at school, they're the new kids, and they've had enough to deal with without being labelled as the kids who get picked up by the lady with the boob hanging out.
I have nursed my daughter while sitting on my toilet at home. I wouldn't do it in a public restroom.
When she got to be about 3, she didn't nurse in public much, but I'd nurse her in some places. But there were times when I just wouldn't. Last Christmas when she was just over 3.5, we were at some friends', sitting in the living room having a discussion after dinner. The children were off running around. Then my daughter came up and started asking to nurse. I told her we would go home if she wanted to do that. I figure that at her age, that was part of setting limits and I had no problems doing that. So we left after that and I nursed her at home. Now if she had been an infant, I would have nursed her there. Or maybe I would have gotten up and gone to a different chair in the room, I don't know.
With #1 I wouldn't nurse in front of my dad. Kind of silly of me to be weird about it, since I'm pretty careful to nurse discreetly anyway. Well, I got over it, so did he.
I've nursed in the bathroom at home, just during late-night-in-bed nursing and if I really gotta go, and baby won't disengage or cries if I try to get up ... well, keep 'em latched on and take 'em with me. Though it's hard to get the pajama bottoms down with one hand as the babies get bigger ... :LOL ... and if it gets to that point, I'm usually in a mad dash, too ...
When ds was smaller, I could see nursing him while I ran to the bathroom, but now he's big enough that I'd have to be much more coordinated than I am to manage it. And we don't have a bathtub anymore, just a shower stall so it's not like he can reach the nursey! :LOL
Lessee...the only place I can think of that I wouldn't BF (besides public restrooms or other nasty places) is in front of certai n work colleagues. Not because I am ashamed or embarrassed...just because it's not worth the consequences as far as office gossip and politics go.
DH is a high school teacher and I won't nurse in front of current students, though I did nurse in front of a recently graduated student this summer!
Like Morgan's Mom, I am just not interested in being part of the HS rumor mill. I know, I know, these are just the people who should see that nursing is normal and okay to do in public, but....
That is pretty much it though.
It was pretty interesting to see how far along FIL had come from when dd was a newborn. When we visited mu ILs when dd was 18 mo, they had a party so all their freinds could meet dd and when I nursed at one point, FIL was the only still looking me in the eye as I stayed a part of the conversation! I do sometimes feel a little bit sorry for those older generation folks!
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