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I am single mama with an 19 month old daughter and I am a full time student averaging 16 units per semester..... I have been doing this without any childcare help and it's affecting my interaction with my dd and well as my ability to be successful in my studies, so I am debating childcare options.<br><br><b>Option #1 Preschool On Campus</b><br>
DD can start in January after she is 2 years old<br><br>
There is a nice "traditional" preschool on campus that dd can start in January after she turns 2 years old. The director is amazing and truly loves kids and would give extra love to my dd if needed. It is a small preschool (42 child allowed max) mostly of the professors children. The facility is not as nice as the local Waldorf school, but still pleasant and very warm. I adore the director and teachers <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/treehugger.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Treehugger">: the downside is that's it's "traditional" in the aspect that though there is lots of "play and creative time" there is "academic time" like singing the ABCs or counting songs and they use time outs for discipline in extreme cases. This option would require I arrange childcare with our occasional babysitter or a local SAHM for the fall semester.... but once dd started she could go there for FREE since I am a student! Also I love the laid back feeling of the parents here, there is no pressure to fund-raise and the community is very "homey" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br><br><b>Option #2 Super Expensive Perfect Preschool</b><br>
DD can start part-time in September<br><br>
This school offers the perfect balance of play-based but not Waldorf and they are very respectful of GD. They have a space available for my dd starting in September but I would be financially dependent on my ex to pay the crazy expensive tuition that he says (but not in writing) that he is fine with. In the past he has been horrible paying things so honestly I don't trust him to pay this but I cannot pay it on my own. The program is outstanding however in addition to the cost as a downside, it is also a very "posh big money" crowd (imagine 4 year olds needing to be reminded that their cell phone ha to stay in their bag while at school). Still I do like the program.... and they have space for dd in September....<br><br>
What option should I go with and why???<br><br>
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I'd go with option 1 because it is sustainable if your XH flakes out. My DH is a total monetary flake... I have found not relying on him for money makes DS's and my situation much more stable.
 

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First. Teachers you love, happy parents and it's free?? C'mon now, that's awesome. The shinyness of the facility doesn't matter a bit.
 

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Option 1. I think you'll be happier with the community there than with Option 2, and it sounds like you can work with them on philosophical disagreements when and if they arise. (Extra bonus: you can potentially draw on the parent community to work on them with you!) The fact that you won't have to rely on flaky ex to pay for it is huge. The "no pressure to fund raise" note on option one suggests to me that there is such pressure for option 2. With 16 units a semester, you do not have time for that, mama, and it would be kind of a pain even if you did.<br><br>
Finally, I think the way you talk about these options answers the question. Option 2 does not inspire you to bring out the tree-huggy smiley, or the little pink face with extra hearts. If you have an option that *does* inspire those things, you should take it.
 

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Option # 1.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Option 1 - my daughter went to my college's preschool and it was one of the most amazing experiences of her life; the interns and assistants are all early childhood ed students at the college so lots of freshness and good ideas based on developmentally sound practice; it was cheap and convenient and the other parents and kids were so cool - diverse, working-class and down to earth; she learned a lot and was really happy; i also think at a certain age, they start to like the combo of play based creativity and more structured learning<br><br>
it sounds really perfect for you and sounds like a great place - and sometimes those really fancy places aren't all they're cracked up to be - it's love that really makes the difference - and, this is just me, but the wealthy factor would REALLY turn me off - if your ex is willing to pay for something get him to pay for a sitter for fall semester
 

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Okay, I am practically weeping at the thought of free (good) childcare--take it! Especially if you're not 100% sure your ex will come through with the funds. Stressing about how to pay for childcare is the pits.<br><br>
Kids care a lot less about "perfect" facilities than we do, too. In terms of "academics," as long as they're not doing worksheets or drilling them, your dd may well eat that stuff up at that point. My ds is like a sponge for anything letter- or number-related right now.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Okay, I am practically weeping at the thought of free (good) childcare--take it! Especially if you're not 100% sure your ex will come through with the funds. Stressing about how to pay for childcare is the pits.<br><br>
Kids care a lot less about "perfect" facilities than we do, too. In terms of "academics," as long as they're not doing worksheets or drilling them, your dd may well eat that stuff up at that point. My ds is like a sponge for anything letter- or number-related right now.</div>
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Actually in the pre-K class they do stress academics more than I desire they do worksheets and give occasional homework.... but still it is not excessive and the child who I met that went to the school really really enjoyed doing "homework"..... even though this is preschool!<br><br>
Still the program is really loving and aside from it being more academic than I desire the other items (facility / time outs) are minor to me. Especially given that it is great child care for an amazing price. Professors add their children to the wait list from the hospital when their babies are born.... so they can start "hopefully" at 2 years old... so I am lucky to even have this as an option.
 

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I agree with others on option 1. You can ignore the academics if you want. It doesn't sound high pressure. Because this is on a campus, there has probably been influence over the years to "be" more academic. Personally this program sounds more "real." I couldn't handle 4 yr olds with cell phones!
 

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ditto.<br><br>
Option 1 sounds better other than the fact that it doesn't start until January.
 

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ditto to everyone... #1 <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I plan on putting my ds in the college daycare too.. I really think he'd love it.
 

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Option #1 Preschool On Campus
 
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