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my midwives keep saying 'oh it'll be easy and quick for you this time if you went natural in only 6 hours w/ your first, even though you were stuck in bed on a magnesium drip for preeclampsia!'<br><br>
i don't want to assume things will be easier (if you can use that word with labor) b/c i don't want a difficult surprise. my water broke at home, so i think that makes things faster. plus DD #1 was only 6lbs 7oz, probably b/c she had marginal cord placement. huge babies run in my husband's family (though small in mine) so #2 could be a moose!<br><br>
how did you births compare?
 

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So far, my third was easiest, and it was definitely fastest (counting from when it got seriously "active", that is....all my labors have been pretty much the same if counted from 1st "real" contraction.)<br><br>
Last time, the active phase began around 3:30 pm, and ds was born at 6:12 pm<br><br>
With dd, the active stage was about 6 hours, and with ds1, it was probably 6 or 8 hours.....hard for me to judge, since I didn't have a very good perspective--it being my first--on what "active" was, KWIM?<br><br>
I certainly hope that this labor is just as easy or easier than the last, but since all my labors have been very similar, I figure I may be in for something totally unexpected this time, LOL! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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My 2nd birth was a bit shocking because it came on so fast, & because the baby was so much bigger!<br><br>
My 1st was a 24 hour labor that I was able to ease into better. My dd was only 35 weeks, and 6lb12oz. I didn't push for long at all. Then, 6 years later, along came her brother. He was a hefty 40 weeker, & 8lb13oz. My labor was only 5 hours of intensity & pushing him out was surprisingly more difficult & ohso much more painful. I pushed for 2.5 hours (although I was on my back! I wish I'd known better back then, I'm sure squatting would've made a wonderful difference). I think I'd been expecting my contractions to come on slowly, maybe I'd get some sleep here & there, & I'd work my way up to the hard labor part, just like I did with my dd. But instead I was hit *WOOSH* with these intense contractions & was pushing only 2.5 hours later. I cried a lot during that whole labor.<br><br>
I wasn't prepared as much as I wish I'd been for my 2nd birth. It was just all so fast, I panicked some which of course made everything worse.<br><br>
Then with #3, I <i>expecte</i>d my labor to be lightning fast & so mentally prepared myself as best I could for that. I planned to think & say positive things, not things like "ouch! it hurts! i can't do it!!" like I had with #2. Instead I said "it's gooooood" over & over. What a difference! Birth #3 was def my "easiest" (even being another 8lb13oz boy- whom I labored & delivered in a squat thankyouverymuch <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ). Although at the time, I went from lying around reading a magazine to instantly being in hard labor, I wouldn't call it EASY <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> , I was just so much better prepared. SO much of labor happens in our heads, y'know? I mean, labor freaking HURTS, but its what we do in our heads that can make such an enormous difference. IMHO. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I have to say both my labors and deliveries have been super easy ones, the both were big boys 8.15 and 9.3 and were only 8 and 6 hr labors. My midwives think that this guy will be a quick one too. My first pushing was only about 20mins and my 2nd pushing was only 11mins.
 

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Not in your ddc, but my fastest/easiest was my second (had three total).<br><br>
I think generally they get easier - both because your body has done it before nd because you know what to expect so may be (assuming your first experience was good) less stressed and more able to relax and work with your body.<br><br>
But your post sounds like you are expecting labor to be worse this time, expecting a bigger baby, etc. I'm reading the Secret so am really into "you find what you expect to find". So I'd go with the "baby will be healthy and labor will be easy to manage" mantra. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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All natural, all pain-free. Time cut in half... except the 7 year gap between 2 & 3 - doc expects #4 to happen in half too.<br><br>
#1 - 89 minutes, 6 pushes<br>
#2 - 43 minutes, 3 pushes<br>
#3 - 46 minutes, 1 push<br><br>
#4 anticipate 20 minutes
 

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My daughter was by far the easiest, but then she was the least medical intervention delivery that I have had so far. I slept through most of the labor, at home in my own bed, barely waking up to breathe through the cntx. My mother listened in and timed the cntx and decided that it was time to go to the hospital, and fully woke me to go. Then things got more intense for the next 2 hours until she was born. However her actual birth was painless. I think that had I been able to just sleep like I was, the entire labor and birth would have been painless.<br><br>
My son, my first-born, was the stereo-typical pitocin induction, meds, meds, meds, strapped to machines, epidural, starting to talk about c-sec, but just "made it" through the allotted time vaginal birth. Eeek! never again!<br><br>
This babe I am looking forwards to quietly, happily, birthing at home with just me and my husband, and perhaps calling the midwife if I feel like it for her to get there in time...if not, oh well, no big loss <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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<b>Labour</b> - My last baby (baby #4) I was so calm and relaxed during the contractions! It was actually fun laboring with my DH - we were left alone at the birth center and that made all the difference! Had it not been for the horrendous pain in the last 15 minutes because DS would not descend due to my abdomen hanging (a painful maneuver was needed), it would have been my dream birth.<br><br><b>Pushing</b> - My second baby. He came out with 1 push, and it actually felt pleasurable.<br><br>
All my labors have lasted about 7 hours each, except for the first (over 14 hours)
 

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All were very hard. My first I pushed 3 hours and I would say she was the easiest even though they had to push my cervix back and manually pull her out. Ouch.<br><br>
My second, I was stupid and got an intrathecal and he was out before I laid back down. But that labor (induced with pit) was so terifyingly painful that it was my worst.<br><br>
My third was an easier labor by far, but she had the head of a bowling ball and I was amazed it ended up coming out!
 

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it's interesting to hear some one else say having an intense short labor was rather difficult (though it sounds like being on your back contributed). most people assume fast is easier, but WOW even mine at 6 hours, there was so little time to rest or even <i>think</i>. i didn't use my aromatherapy, music, birth beads, anything! there just was no break!
 

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Having talked to several mamas who have had super short labors, I've definitely come to the conclusion that there are major pros & cons to both long & short! One of the most common things I hear, & this was true for me too, that after a super short birth, mamas feel like bonding takes a little more time than they felt it did with their others.<br><br>
It was such a bizarre feeling for me, but that is what my experience was. I went from just hanging out with DH & MIL at home, reading magazines & whatever, to suddenly having a baby on my chest. I remember feeling like "WHOA. Who are <i>you</i>??" It was just so <i>fast</i>. I didn't have time to get my mind wrapped around anything. My ctxs came on at 2 mins apart & HARD (I remember saying to my dh "this can't be labor, my ctxs are only 2 mins apart!" lol I was expecting a normal labor where they start 15 mins apart or whatever <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> ). My entire mental focus was just breathing through them & not panicking. Next thing I know there was this KID lying on me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I stayed up all night long with him while everyone else slept, & fell in love, but it wasn't nearly the instant bonding thing I'd felt with other babies. I really had to get my bearings back. I felt like "Whoa. Did I just go into labor??" <i>after</i> the whole thing was done. And that labor was 90minutes from 1st ctx to birth. I can't even imagine what this one will be! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
polihaupt, it is my dream to have pushing actually be pleasurable! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Man I get that buuurrrrn sooo bad. Did you guys watch this video? The one where the woman is ecstatic to push her baby out? If only I could have so much fun while birthing..... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><a href="http://youtube.com/watch?v=Aht0HqI7GSw" target="_blank">http://youtube.com/watch?v=Aht0HqI7GSw</a>
 

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First Labor- 9 hrs. (Not allowed to move, lay on back in bed, got an epi because the pain from not being able to move became so strong. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: ) Pushed for one hour... had a double episiotomy.. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: 6 lbs. 1 oz.<br><br>
Second Labor- 13 hours labor, 6 hours of active labor. Bradley Method, SOOOO much less painful. I actually laughed and talked to everyone until I started transitioning to pushing stage. All natural. Pushed 15 minutes. 7 lbs. 10 oz. His head was almost 15"... so I definetely felt the burn and had total explosive pushing. I remember them telling me "Okay.. slow down, ease it out.." and yelling back, "I CAN'T!". <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> It was only three pushes and the last was strong.<br><br>
Honestly, I feel my second was sooo much nicer and faster. I LOVED not having any of the interventions and being able to do whatever felt comfortable. I think this labor will be quicker and the pushing time will take the same if not less than my last labor. That's the rumor I've heard for subsequent births anyhow... pushing doesn't usually take as long.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fingersx.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fingersx">:
 

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baby #1- 17hrs of back pain, pushed for less than 30 minutes<br>
baby #2- born in the car (no pushing) after 24+ hrs prodromal labor and 2 hrs hard labor- quick & easy with instant recovery<br>
baby #3- about 5 hours labor, felt great immediately and got the flu around 2 weeks later, took over a month to recover<br>
baby #4- 2 hour labor, 1 hour pushing (although if I had a MW they would have broke my H2o and she would have come faster.<br>
baby #5- labored 2 hours in the shower while belly dancing (hey, it works!) and when the hot water ran out I stepped from the shower, fell to my knees with transition nausea and she was born 2 minutes later.<br><br>
Yes- it does get easier every time in my opinion.
 

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My 1st- About 10 hours of early, easily tolerable labor, then 12 hours of hard labor and finished with 20 minutes of pushing.<br><br>
My 2nd- 12 hours of early, easy labor, 6 hours of hard labor and then 15 minutes of pushing.<br><br>
Hoping this one is shorter still....
 
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