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So we’re going to start trying again in a few months. If I happen to get pregnant in August, I’m going to have a May due date. I was due in May last time.<br><br>
Part of me would like to just skip that month if I’m not already pregnant by then, yet another part of me feels like I should just let nature take its course, and not try for anything… just let whatever happens, happen.<br><br>
Also, I was having super crazy baby fever this month, and was *this* close to just saying screw it and seeing what happens, until I typed in my last period and got Dec 2 for a due date if I were to get pregnant this month! That’s when we lost the baby. It would just be too much for me!<br><br>
Anyone else being fussy with dates like me? And don’t mind me, the closer I get to trying again the more I am over thinking every little detail! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I did consider skipping this cycle as the due date is my ex's birthday. But, the chances of actually giving birth on your due date are so low... I decided that I cannot afford to waste a cycle. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I'm due about two weeks before the day my son died. I'm not really thinking I'll go over because I never have, but even if I did, I would be okay with it. It doesn't change anything for me. It might even make it more meaningful.
 

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I'm anxious about my due date approaching (June 11) and not being pregnant again. It would make me due right near when we lost Max. I can't decide if it would be worse to have no baby on that anniversary or to be having one then. I think a new baby will bring healing to our family, so I think we will err on that side (if my body cooperates with returning fertility). Ask me again in a few months....
 

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Emma was born on her due date and when DH and I decided we DEFINITELY would try again (quite soon after her death), it was <i>me</i> for the first time in our baby making history who was slowing things down. I was adamant I didn't want to try again in January. I don't ever want to be due in October again ... I can do so little for my daughter now, honoring "her" month seems a small thing (that's personal BTW, I know so many people who have had subsequent babies around the same time and I can see how the that could be healing and honoring too).<br><br>
In actual fact, waiting was the right choice for us for all manner of reason. I'm TTC after next AF and I'm actually (mainly) excited rather than freaked at the moment. So waiting past her due date (for me) has been a valuable, healing thing. IF (please God, no) I'm still waiting TTC NEXT January, I might feel differently about skipping the month - I haven't thought about that as I cannot contemplate NOT being pregnant again by then.
 

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I'm due ON Dresden's due date.. ovulated the same day (which is very strange for me..I have unusual and long cycles.. so I never ovulate on the same days over the years..) I got pregnant the first try (same as last year) Originally, I was going to avoid the same due date and Dresden's birthday (a week before the due date) but then I figured, why?! First of all, I'll be having a cesarean, early.. so the baby would NOT be born on the same day, no matter what. But also, and especially now that I am pregnant and due the same day... it feels so special to me... it's a way to still connect with Dresden during this pregnancy, since it obviously it will share so many likenesses.. but at the same time realize and cherish this pregnancy as individual. Also, I'm just really thrilled that there is a really good chance that I'll have this baby in my arms on Dresden's 1st birthday.. if that doesn't assist with the healing process, I don't know what would. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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This question has just come up for me.<br>
We are talking about ttc asap! So after I get my 6 week postpartum blood-work done and I think (hope) I just ovulated, my next cycle will be a month from now and we'll probably begin trying. That puts us right back in the window that we got pregnant with Milos (I found out I was pregnant May 23, 08). It feels very hard to go through the pregnancy again at the exact same time of year and to deliver around the same time-Although as long as the baby would survive I'd suffer all this and more for 9 months to have a child. Plus it took us a year and 1/2 to conceive Milos (this adds to the hurt of losing him) so I feel like we have to start right way because i'd be lucky to be pregnant within a the year anyway!<br>
But if you're young/healthy enough to skip a month and that's what feels right, honor your feelings.<br>
And like you say, it's really out of our hands anyway. Mother nature has her own way.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">So we’re going to start trying again in a few months. If I happen to get pregnant in August, I’m going to have a May due date. I was due in May last time.<br><br>
Part of me would like to just skip that month if I’m not already pregnant by then, yet another part of me feels like I should just let nature take its course, and not try for anything… just let whatever happens, happen.<br><br>
Also, I was having super crazy baby fever this month, and was *this* close to just saying screw it and seeing what happens, until I typed in my last period and got Dec 2 for a due date if I were to get pregnant this month! That’s when we lost the baby. It would just be too much for me!<br><br>
Anyone else being fussy with dates like me? And don’t mind me, the closer I get to trying again the more I am over thinking every little detail! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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I'd like to avoid a December birthday since my DD has a birthday a few days before Christmas and it is so hectic that month. However, I don't think I'd intentionally skip TTC in March to avoid a December due date. I think whatever happens, happens. My son was due this week and I'm not sure yet how I would feel about having another February due date. I guess we'll see if I'm not pregnant again by May.
 

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I wanted to get pregnant again right away because I so wanted to have a baby to hold in my arms by the time Gideon's first birthday came around. That didn't work out. I thought of taking off a while to avoid being due around when I was due with him, but I finally decided not to. I figured that no matter when I am pregnant next, everything is going to remind me of Gideon, no matter what time of year it is. I always thought having a child in the early summer would be nice, but I don't want to wait that long. *g* I guess I'm just trying to find the positives in everything. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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to the OP-Very interesting that you mention this. Joslyn was due in Oct and I would very much like to avoid that due date again. DH and I are in spain now due to his work and in late april, we're off to Italy til about December. I would very much like to start trying before we leave (I want to be in the states for my health care) and that would make another Oct DD if I happened to get pregnant as quickly as I did with Joslyn (one month). I don't want to do that. It doesn't really matter THAT much to me, but it'd be a "fresh start" so to speak to have a different due date than last time. I would love to be due in August =)....so I think I will start trying in late oct/november.
 
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