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... When have you been able to let the kiddo roam with "adult" stuff? I've pretty much emptied out our living areas to let my DS free range. Otherwise, if there's a bookshelf, the books come off it and are ripped apart. Potted plant, the dirt gets smeared everywhere. End table? Upside down. Aquarium? Spilled. You get the picture. So in order to not yell myself hoarse screaming "no" all day I just took away all temptations. I introduce him to them one by one, but if we're fine exploring it together, he will still cause chaos the moment I turn away. I figure this will get better in time, but when? When will we be able to move our stuff out of storage? When do they get a bit of impulse control?
 

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My kids have been much more able to resist things (depending on personality) between 3-4 and usually closer to 4. Some will say that is late but my kids tend towards spirited and it is much easier for me to just wait until it is not a constant vigilance thing. It seems they are able to resist outside of the home younger than inside the home. The safety and security of home lends itself towards exploration. I try to let my kids be "free range" so we just wait to have temptations until later. The other thing we have decided on is to have things in our home that aren't as valuable so I just don't have to stress as much. Our furniture is all inexpensive from Ikea and our tv is about 10 or more years old. I just don't worry so much if a table gets marked on or a sticker gets placed in a random position. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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something that i've realized with my DS when it comes to "MY" stuff being a target for his "exploration" DS LOVES when i yell NO!!!!!!!!!!!<br>
it maybe that your 2 year old is looking for this same thrilling reaction.<br><br>
i have things like candles, a flashlight of his dad's sitting out where he can see, and even get too it if he should feel the need. these are things that obviously i do NOT want him to play with, but because i've dumped these things onto his high chair, and let him look at them til there no longer interesting, he doesn't seem to reach for those things as often.<br>
currently looking at my VERY MESSY desk i have a remote control for the tv, huge spool of thread, duct tape a clock, a fabric pen ( i don't think he's seen that) child proof lighter (which i just moved) a bottle of tea tree oil so on and so forth... he hasn't offered to touch any of it....<br><br>
another sneaky thing that you can do on your part is make items less apealing. for instance, my son tells me that tea tree oil is ew ew! so i put that smell on things that he might touch that i don't want him too. he knows if it smells like it, he will too and that takes the interest away for him. like the other poster, i have CHEAP things... i have an ikea couch that has a slip cover that someone GAVE me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> so if something does get spilled off goes the cover to be washed. i buy PRACTICAL second hand things that i don't really care if it gets broken, opposed to something that could break in 2.5 seconds. i am proud to say i am a dumpster diver, coffee tables, end tables and such... it was free so if a permenant marker happy face ends up on it, i secretly don't care. although i still teach that its not okay for things like this to happen, and if they do i know it is my fault for forgetting about mr. sharpie <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: (rubbing alcohol takes that off most stuff)<br><br>
i can tell you that it does get better, i am the proud keeper of 4 boys, with repetitive reminders for whatever rules you have (you may want to tape and play like mantra <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">) it does eventually sink in!!!<br><br><br>
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We've got a brand new sofa and two over stuffed chairs and nice marble end tables in storage because I am so scared they will get stained by my little ones. When they older (like next year) we will take them from storage, but for now our old smelly couch is just fine for that exact reason. Oh, we do have a fish tank, though we don't have to worry about it tipping over...it is 500 gallons <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> but they do know they "no touch, no tapping" rule and they are pretty good at it.
 

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Ds loves to explore 'our' stuff but he hasn't ripped books off shelves or emptied cupboards since he was 18 months or so.<br>
I think its because nothing 'safe' is off limits to him. He's aloud to look at anything within his reach as long as he helps put it back.
 

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We have dark-colored, sturdy furniture. We keep a mattress on the floor for him to dive into, much of the time. And we let him pull books off the shelf.<br><br>
ETA it helps that we have had cats for years, so we didn't have anything breakable within his reach anyhow.
 
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