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I swear, my IL's never look at the calendar or events when they plan things....<br><br>
Right now, they have a family reunion planned. On Facebook, it says June 14 (which is a Monday - not many people will be there during the week because of work, so I figured it was wrong). DH asked FIL today, and he said it is the 3rd weekend...which is Father's Day weekend, and SIL's DD2's birthday.<br><br>
We have already told them we wont be there, because we plan on being out of town, something we scheduled 1-2 months ago. My parents want us to meet up with them in Iowa, at my Aunt and Uncles, for the week. Not sure if we can leave that weekend or if we will leave like that Monday or Tuesday morning, since my parents wont be there till Sunday and I have two hearings scheduled already for that week.
 

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That's annoying!<br><br>
My ILs don't plan events at all... they just expect us to show-up to family events within a week or two's notice. Or they expect to be welcomed with open arms whenever they decide to drop-in at our place (usually on their way somewhere else). Then they get all offended when we say "no" to family get-togethers. Ummm, we live 5-6 hr drive from them... I don't think so.<br><br>
It's tough for me because I'm such a planner. I plan vacations and events months in advance, so I have a hard time with their "spontaneity". DH says they've always been like that, so I'm guessing it's not likely to change.
 

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Thanks, I am the same way generally - a planner. But with this pregnancy a few things have not been as planned out as early as I normally would like.<br><br>
I still have to do birthday parties for my kids. I am glad I waited, because we now have nicer weather, and can go to a park or something, rather than an expensive indoor place.<br><br>
It would be nice if:<br>
1) They would double check dates to make sure they do not fall on a Holiday weekend, as a lot of families go out of town to be with their parents...(ie we have Aunts/Uncles/Cousins in Texas - I am sure they will get together down there for Father's Day and the same in Florida).<br>
2) They would check with others and make sure they are available and don't already have plans. Generally my parents plan their vacations (because they have to put the time off request in like 4 months in advance) about 4-6 months out, or at least 2 months out. My parents asked us about 1-2 months ago to come out when they were there.
 

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My family would totally schedule something like this for that day. Actually, both mine and my DH's family would easily do that. Holidays make sense to them to schedule big things like this. The holiday is the easy excuse to do it. And yes, it'd probably be last minute too. That's just how things run... not that I like it!<br><br>
I got exactly one week's notice to my father's family reunion. Not that it wasn't planned FOREVER in advance as TONS of people flew in. They all just thought my father would tell me. Umm... nope! He didn't! I had already shelled big bucks for something else I was doing that day. Tough, I didn't go, I did my own thing.<br><br>
But it'd be no big deal to say... "Hey, we already promised ...... Sorry it won't work out. Can we try to get together ....." Someone's nose would probably be bent out of shape but in the end it wouldn't be the end of the world.
 

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I am a planner too! I can't stand it when people don't think in advance or plan things out.<br><br>
My in laws plan things the night before. Literally. Which wouldn't be a big deal except they expect everyone to come and get all irritated when people decline, or...don't answer their cell phones so they don't get the message. (oops, did I do that??? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"> ) They recently were planning an 18th b-day breakfast for their youngest son, the night before...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
I'm just glad DH doesn't try to get me and all four of our kids to go along with that kind of planning anymore. There was a time when he didn't see the problem with complying to that kind of request.<br><br>
This is the same clueless SIL "planning" who calls the day before to tell us she has booked a photo appt at JCPenny's for our kids and hers -um six kid-half of them under the age of two-(kids who never see eachother and don't know eachother at.all.) mind you this is over spring break, while I have a house full of daycare kids as well eh heh yeah right! ...we obviously did not attend....<br><br>
She also frequently stops by when in the neighborhood, without so much as a phone call first. In nine years she still doesn't "get it"...We have tried to make her call in advance, and it results in her parking in front of our house and calling to announce she knows we are home and she's coming in. I guess before the car door is open is considered in advance. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked"> DH of course has a little more patience as it is his sister. But me, I don't even answer the door or give her the time of day anymore. It's so rude.<br><br>
Just one of those kind of people that leave a wake of chaos and irritation every where they go and then get offended when people don't like it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
I'm just glad for this birth that DH has agreed not to call his side of the family until I am ready and he knows it will be AFTER the baby is here...perhaps even a day or two later. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> Yay he gets it!<br><br>
God help us all if anyone ever tries to plan a family reunion on that side of the family <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Wow dysfunction!
 
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