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I'm curious who you want in the room/house/center with you when you are actually giving birth. Last time, I had dh, my mom, my sister, my midwife (acting as my doula because I transferred), the OB, and something like six nurses. It was totally overwhelming for me! I kept wanting to go somewhere else and escape the "crowd" energy. This time I'm paring WAY down. But of course now I have ds, too.<br><br>
So right now, in my "dream" scenario, it would be:<br><br>
dh<br>
ds<br>
midwife<br>
doula (also to help with ds)<br><br>
and MAYBE the dogs (they're big, lovable, but barky brutes, and last time that bothered me, too!)
 

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For family I just want my DH there. If we go the hospital route it will be my family practice doctor (who is also a friend) and the nurse.<br><br>
I just had a friend who had her third baby and she had her DH like she did with the first, but this time included her mom (who took a bunch of nice pictures). It might be the last grandchild and she hadn't seen any of them born yet so they wanted to include her. The birth went quite fast and my friend said it was enjoyable to include her.
 

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DH (and it would be nice if he was there the whole time this time instead of insisting he had enough time for a haircut and run to the bank and FSA), my OB, and one nurse. that is plenty.
 

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With DD, I had DH, MW and the doc. The doc had to be there (midwifery wasn't legal in MO yet) but I would have liked it if she didn't come. I wanted it quiet and calm and I even shushed them all during one contraction. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
This time around, at home, assuming things go well, it'll be DH and DD and a doula for her and the midwife and the birth center apprentice midwife. The doc might come but she doesn't have to now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I hope DD doesn't freak out. I worry about that.
 

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my husband and the midwife & that's it i think.
 

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At my first birth I thought it would be awesome to let lots of people be with me through the process so I had:<br>
husband<br>
mom<br>
MIL<br>
best friend<br>
other dear friend<br>
doula<br>
nurse<br>
doc<br><br>
My first birth went terribly with lots of conflict with medical staff, lots of talking in my room so I decided to make it very private the 2nd time around.<br><br>
I had mom, husband and that's it. I was at a teaching hospital and said "no residents" My mom is a mw and had started her nursing career at this hospital so the nurses were great and respected our wishes and let my mom and husband do almost all of my care. I had a beautiful VBAC. What I learned was that birth, for me, is an intensely private event and I need a calm, quiet and warm environment to do the work of labor.
 

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DH and my MW. Maybe a nurse, but I'd prefer to keep it just the three of us.<br><br>
With DD, I had DH, the OB and 2 or 3 nurses who just irritated the hell out of me. Stop talking about me like I'm not in the room!
 

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As few people as possible. The midwife will bring an assistant and a second midwife, but I am probably only going to want a maximum of one of them with me at any given time. Possibly DH, for parts. The dogs are going to go visit a friend for the labor/birth process - the cat can stay, though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Ideally, I want no more than two people with me (DH and one of the midwives).
 

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DH, mother and father. My parents were invaluable at Nathan's premature birth, and my Dad is a great labor coach, having been at 7 births! (3 of his own kids, my sister's 3 kids, and my ds).
 

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I just want DH and my midwife. I think I would be too distracted by my sons. (Plus the first two times I had to transfer to a hospital--so if that happens someone else would have to be close at hand to take them.)<br><br>
I haven't decided if we'll hire a doula this time. The last time it made DH and me feel uncomfortable. I'm sure there must be someone we could click with more, but I'm not committed to the search yet. We're both pretty private people. I am really comfortable with the homebirth midwife. The only other thing I think a doula would provide is massage. My husband is great at taking care of any other needs.<br><br>
Plus the expense--on top of paying a HB midwife out-of-pocket and having to co-care with birthing center midwives with extremely high-deductable insurance--this birth is already way out of control!
 

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We are also shortening the list considerably, and I am declining medical students or student midwives access to learn from my birth. (My son was born at a teaching hospital aka a fish bowl- nearly a dozen extras).<br><br>
This time (besides me, LOL)<br><br>
Midwife plus her assistant as needed<br>
Husband<br>
possibly a doula
 

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I am bringing DH and my mom. Both are great support. If i hire a doula, and I have at least 6 friends who are doulas at this point, it will be someone who knows my kids, and she will be helping my dad with them, elsewhere. i need the help post partum, not in labor. I will be returning to the same teaching hospital I have gone to before. I had one resident at the twin's birth (c/s) but I had 10 at DD's unmedicated vaginal birth. Hey, it was the second week in July. They were all green recruits to OB, and none of the had yet witnessed an epidural free birth. Nevermind a pitocin augmented labor and natural delivery of an O/P baby. They were all silent while in the LDR, and each came to thank me personally the next day. I wouldn't mind repeating the experience. Frankly I didn't even notice them during delivery. I had more important things on my mind. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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My mom got to be at three of my labors and two of the births. She was WONDERFUL. She simply kept her distance and waited for my cues to put on music, supply cold rags to my head, rub my back, step out to give me a minute to relax alone...... I so wish she could be at thsi birth but she lives so far away now......<br>
So I don't have a clue. it wou be nice to have a couple choice girlfrined sthere but they all have little ones of thier own i worry would be a distraction. I am planning an unassited homebirthand have always had lovely fantasies of a solo unassisted...... so that will probably be it for me. But I won't tell anyone IRL that or I am SURE CPS woud be called!
 

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For labor...DH and doula. For birth...add in a midwife and nurse (I don't have a choice on a nurse or two at a hospital birth, do I?)
 

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This is my first so I don't know who I'll want with the midwife.<br>
DH for sure but I might want my mother too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> and maybe my best friend with two kids, she swears it's easy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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I'll have my dh, OB, and however many nurses (it seems like there are always at least 2). I'm usually left to labor in relative peace (my labors are fairly short, by the time I go to the hospital I only have a few hours left before delivery). My body does the pushing (I can't stop it) and by that time I could care less who is in the room!
 

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Ideally it would be DH and the midwife with a friend and DD either in the room or the family room outside the delivery room at the hospital. I am not sure what to do about a support person for DD because MIL really wants to be there and I would feel awfully guilty having someone else there for DD and not allowing her to be there, but she really adds a lot of stress to my life, and I don't want that there for the birth.
 

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I'm having a homebirth and the people who we anticipate having there are DH, DD, midwife and midwife's assistant. I'd prefer to have it be just me, DH and DD as long as possible. Our 2 dogs will most likely be there, but in another room or the basement. We also will have a friend on call in case DD needs someone else to watch her/take her elsewhere, although I think she'll be fine and I'll be fine with having her there.<br><br>
For my first birth, also at home, every single person in my large family wanted to be there, but it worked out that it was just me and DH all the way until the pushing stage began (which was great, I loved the privacy and being able to labor undisturbed!), and when DD was born it was just DH, me, midwife and midwife's assistant.
 

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We're homebirthing it will most likely be my husband and I and the midwife and maybe just maybe 1 close friend. If it's when my son is sleeping he will be there in a different room, if not he will probably go to my friends house.
 

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It will likely just be DH for the birthing part... I had wanted my Mom there, but she told me she will be there for the laboring part, but once it's time for birthing and me pushing, she wants out... she said she wouldn't be able to watch me go through the pain. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 
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