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I couldn't read and not at least send you a <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> . I just don't understand some people... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shake.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shake">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">: I'm a sahm/wahm and i agree... the mommy wars must stop. that woman was a walking ua violation!
 

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what a meanie! chip on her shoulder about something. don't take it to heart.
 

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people like that are obliously unhappy in their life about something. You should feel bad for her. it's sad really, it's very sad.
 

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Wow - way to take your bad morning out on an innocent bystander! That makes me want to cry - ok, so I just cried a little... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> I'm so sorry that someone could judge a complete stranger like that. ((hugs)) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> It's amazing the things that some people can say to people. I hope she feels really bad about it later.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Maybe she knows she's mean to her kids and has to make herself feel better by cutting down better mothers.</div>
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Ditto. She's trying to make herself feel better and justify her own quesstionable childrearing skills.
 

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Wow, as a SAHM I have to say; You did NOT deserve that at all.<br><br>
WOHM are not bad parents. WOHMs are moms doing what they feel is best in <span style="text-decoration:underline;">their</span> situation and for <span style="text-decoration:underline;">their</span> kids. How can we possibly judge each other like this? WOH, SAH who cares? We agree on so much more than we disagree on... you'd think we could all get along. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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What a nasty woman!<br><br>
I do feel sorry for her children and even for her. You know if she passes that level of judgment on perfect strangers she's passing it on her children, too. They're absorbing the lesson that cruel judgment is good, and one day her kids will turn it on her and judge her the way she judges others.<br><br>
Good for you for holding back in front of your DD. I cannot BELIEVE she did that in front of your own DD. How awful! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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That is realy awful. I'm sorry you had to encounter such a terrible person.<br><br>
I think the best way to deal with it is just know that you love your child and that she is wrong. You showed great restraint in not responding, good for you!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm so sorry you and your dd had to witness that.
 

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What a nut. Sorry you had to experience that.<br><br>
IRL, most of the women I know - WOHM, SAHM, WAHM, not-yet-mommies, child-free - are nice and supportive. But then you'll run into someone like that who makes you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"> .<br><br>
I'm an attorney with Legal Aid and had an experience recently where a coworker's domestic violence client made a remark about how at least she stays home with her kids so she knows they'll be ok. In the context it was a slam on WOHMs.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
Seriously, who does she think works at Legal Aid offices? Many of the lawyers and paralegals are WOHMs doing this because it's infinitely more family-friendly and flexible than most law firms.
 

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Wow. Just--wow. What a (expletive deleted). Since I have a bad case of foot-in-mouth disease, I probably would have popped off what you were thinking, only out loud. Don't give her another thought. You are modeling what you want your little DD to be--a competent, capable, self-supporting woman. And that is what is important. For the record, I am currently a SAHM.
 

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that's horrible. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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obviously that woman has no idea what she's talking about. you have a job so you can help support your family and provide for them....that means you don't love them? this woman needs a reality check.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">She just yelled that at random, when you hadn't interacted with her? She sounds mentally ill.</div>
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Honestly, right now, I'm feeling bad for that mom who felt the need to attack me verbally. How unhappy she must be.</div>
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Seriously... you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, and I think it's important for you to take power from this situation. You have the opportunity to look at this woman's behavior and make a choice... be judgemental of <i>her</i> in the same manner she was of you (not truly knowing your situation, nor you, and assuming whatever came to mind...) or forgiving, and being empathetic. Good on you for allowing yourself to feel for her in a caring manner, even in the face of such harshness... she may well be mentally ill, and she might just have a mean case of the Mondays... who knows?<br><br>
If things happen for a reason, what was the reason this was shown to you? What you take into the future from the moment is more important than what was said.
 
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