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For the past few days, my moods have been a roller coaster of awefulness.<br><br>
One minute I'm raging in my head about something stupid (like DH folding the laundry but not putting it away), the next I'm weeping uncontrollably in my car on the way to work for no reason, and the next I'm joking around and being entirely pleasant.<br><br>
It all seems so silly to me now, since today I'm feeling normal again, but the last few days it's been a hellish ride, and I've sulked around DH and DD, which makes me feel super-guilty.<br><br>
What is up with this new bipolar stage? I don't remember going through this with DD...
 

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I don't currently feel like that, but I have recently, and I'm sure I will again. Pregnancy is hard! So many major changes, physically and emotionally.<br>
Personally I think just taking life one day (or even one half-hour) at a time is a good coping strategy. Hang in there! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I had a rough weekend emotionally too.<br><br>
My DH normally does a good job of calming me down but he's been out of town.
 

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yeah, I'm pretty much a mess, too. I started crying in the middle of a potluck/get-together/huge playdate at the beach this weekend, because later that afternoon, DH was going to be going to his friend's birthday party, and I was going to have to stay home with DD, and she and I had been driving each other nuts. Yeah, just standing there, talking to friends, and started bawling.
 

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Add me to this list! The past week or so has been rough, uncontrollable sobbing at random times. Definitely dealing with some emotional stresses - Dad's cancer, having to put my dog down and wondering endlessly if it's the right thing to do, a lot of unknowns over the next few weeks...but still. Normally, I can just deal!<br><br>
Poor DH, the last thing he needs right now is a fragile wife.
 

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I am feeling the same way! I cried at a one year olds b-day party because my dd was having melt down after melt down. I think I am consumed with the fear that I won't be able to handle two kids. (moms of many are probably laughing at me for that)
 

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I've been feeling more emotional lately, too. I had thought that was gone after the first trimester, but it seems to be back for now.
 

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I'm there too. I am crying over any little thing, happy or sad. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> Total roller coaster, but not ususally around DH. Luckily, I feel better around him. He de-stresses me, just his presence puts me at ease.
 

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Yep here too! I seem cry a lot easier with this pg than with DS. I don't remember crying at the drop of a hat like I do w/her. Wish it weren't so.
 

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Me too! I have been an emotional mess, lots of mood swings. I feel completely overwhelmed between normal stress & worrying about getting things done in time for baby. I'm either agitated or crying. My poor DH & DD's, I think I am driving them all nuts!
 

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Yeah at times. Definitely.<br><br>
ETA - Infact today, right now. I can't concentrate at work AT ALL. It's terrible. Got some bad family news yesterday, went to counsellor today, am feeling triggered. Just trying to make it through the day.<br><br>
I'd rather be in bed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"> This will pass Mamas!
 

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Same here. I keep scareing my hubby and kiddos, they wonder if something is horribly wrong because I am sobbing......" I'm just fine, I promise, just a bit looney with the ability to cry over totally random insignifigant things. Or rage about random insignifigant things and then cry." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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yes i am a rollercoaster but it's rolling between "incredibly uncontrollably angry" and "despondently depressingly sad." Not too many highs in between.<br><br>
Thinking about starting Zoloft... any experiences?
 

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No experience with Zoloft but yes with Prozac and Wellbutrin. Mommy likes her meds. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Have you tried any meds before? Have you struggled with mood issues in the past? Have you tried posting in the PPD or mental health forums? You might get more answers there. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Have you tried any meds before? Have you struggled with mood issues in the past? Have you tried posting in the PPD or mental health forums? You might get more answers there. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"></div>
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Thank you, surfacing. I have mild depression/anxiety on and off and have for many years. I was on Paxil about 8 years ago which helped me over a particularly rough patch (but was HORRID to withdraw from!). As I recall, I took a long time to adjust to the medication and i am concerned that i will actually get worse before i get better. Right now i am managing to somewhat function... if things got worse i'd have to take leave from work, i think, which i can't really afford to do. I will check out those forums-- thanks again.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> me! I keep getting weepy eyed because I am having sciatic pain and I am paranoid I am not going to be able to do everything I planned on doing with dd this summer...and that means that her last 6 weeks as an only are "ruined" in my mind...I am really starting to get really clingy about her (this will be my 2nd) and freaking out that this is my last time alone with her for the rest of my life, thats such a big thing kwim? lol...I know its partly irrational...but im ok with that lol. I just am feeling blahsy lately too..
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thank you, surfacing. I have mild depression/anxiety on and off and have for many years. I was on Paxil about 8 years ago which helped me over a particularly rough patch (but was HORRID to withdraw from!). As I recall, I took a long time to adjust to the medication and i am concerned that i will actually get worse before i get better. Right now i am managing to somewhat function... if things got worse i'd have to take leave from work, i think, which i can't really afford to do. I will check out those forums-- thanks again.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I had similar concerns about getting on meds having had unpleasant experiences in the past. I was also concerned about not wanting to take a leave from work, wanting to be able to function and meet my responsibilities, not get worse before I get better. The pdoc I went to during my PG with dd2 started me on an infant sized liquid dose of Prozac and we moved up by teeny increments of 5 mg or less. I would still have some pretty strong side effects but they were not so bad that I couldn't function, and I could keep going to work.<br><br>
I've heard Paxil is the worst to withdraw from, and Effexor too, but we are all so different, we respond to meds differently. Not that I'm trying to push Prozac or anything, but it has two different metabolites that metabolize at different rates, it has the longest halflife, so coming off it is supposed to be the gentlest. Sometimes people who are on one kind of anti-depressant will titrate off the other onto Prozac, and then off the Prozac completely when they're ready to withdraw from meds.<br><br>
Can you find someone who specializes in working with pregnant women, or who is woman oriented (familiar with mood problems that can occur during periods of hormonal change like PMDD, menopause, pregnancy, etc)?<br><br>
Hmmm a question for you and all us Mamas: how's the self-care going? Our checklist for healthy bodies and minds: nutritious food (incl. protein and water), a good multi-vitamin/prenatal, adequate sleep, some periods of rest and play as well as work, a daily walk/exercise (even short like 15 min), a laugh, someone to talk to (journalling, a friend). Meditation or yoga also help quiet the mind. Just some thoughts for us all. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug">
 

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Chattyprincess - I think it's so common to worry about how the new baby will fit in our life, how things will change with our relationship with the child we already have, etc. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Your heart will grow big enough for the two of them, and their hearts will grow with each other. You will have not only your dd to enjoy, but also you will enjoy your new baby AND watch the two enjoying each other. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> With time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I too wonder and worry at times about how I'm going to share ci-ci (that's nursies) with the newborn AND dd2. She loves nursing so much, even though we've nightweaned, she still begs me for it as often as she can get it during the day and before bed. How will she take to someone else being on my boob 24/7? We don't have a crystal ball, we'll probably all have some growing pains, but it's not like we're withdrawing our love from the other child. We may have to renegotiate how we show it.<br><br>
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Emotional wreck here too. I am also alternating between being absolutely annoyed about the dumbest things and uncontrollably sad and crying about equally dumb things. With moments of sanity in between. I had my 1 hr GTT today and that led to a complete low blood sugar meltdown in a restaurant parking lot. At least that one was for a reason. Last night I stormed off because I perceived DP had snapped at me about the chicken from dinner. In hindsight it was not a rational response. I find myself teary about everything and feeling very insecure. I don't remember this with my other pregnancies... I hope I find my sanity again soon!
 

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Surfacing........thanks for the self care reminder.......I needed it!<br><br>
Chattyprincess.......I'm feeling the same, I only have about 12 weeks left with just myself and DD and I just want to make the most of it. I'm so nervous about her feeling left out.<br><br>
I'm also with the emotional mamas <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I haven't been doing very well......my anxiety is high and I alternate between angry and sad.......with some happy in there as well. I'm really hoping now that we are done our house hunting and settled back home (for a few weeks) that I'll get some rest and feel better.
 
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