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I, for the last few days, have been feeling just completely exhausted. I mean so, totally and utterly exhausted that I have to sit down or fall down.<br><br>
Two days ago I took the kids to school, made it through another hour until 9am, then fell asleep on the couch until 11.30am...<br><br>
Yesterday, I made it (barely) through lunch, because we had a huge tree coming down in the back yard. Then I fell asleep after that until five minutes before collecting the kids from school.<br><br>
Today, I made it home from school, and then within ten minutes had curled up on the sofa and fallen asleep - at about 8am. I slept until 11.10am... Now, here I am thinking "gosh, I could go for another nap!"<br><br>
What the heck? This is worse than the first tri! Last time I was pregnant I had a completely insane job that required me to get up some days at about 3.30am and stay up until 11.30pm (along with <i>extreme stress</i> - crazy job - I do attribute my daughter's death to that to a fairly large degree, but we won't go there right now) and somehow managed that...<br><br>
But seriously, wow. I'm just exhausted.<br><br>
Should I be taking iron or something? Or, am I just normal. I do work from home, and mentally my job is very involving - but this just seems...just extreme!<br><br>
Anyone else feeling this way?
 

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My husband was home all of Thanksgiving weekend (Wed-Sun) and we both took a nap every day while my daughter was sleeping. This week is *killing* me because my body is screaming "Sleep, Mama!!", but my daughter is saying "Play with me, Mama!"<br><br>
*yawn*
 

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i am very tired as well. but, i think for me it's stress - i've been having these HOLY CRAP! moments every day trying to get things ordered, prep the baby's room, etc, etc.<br><br>
last night i went to bed at 7 pm and it was heavenly. i wish i could do it every night!
 

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All that talk about you napping has me extremely jealous! I wish I could sleep like that! I am at the mercy of two little wild things.<br><br>
I am so tired too. My body is seriously not getting enough.
 

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Aah...yes...other children. I have a DSD and a DSS. DSD is very excited about baby coming and she can't wait. DSS on the other hand is jealous to the point of extreme vindictiveness toward <i>everyone</i> and he is extremely difficult to cope with at the moment. My tiredness isn't helping. He's been very very demanding...<br><br>
He blocked the toilet deliberately about a month and a half ago by flushing a bunch of things down; doesn't want to have anything to do with Bella at all most days; has regressed and had several accidents at school; is angry much much more; doesn't listen a lick; has been getting into trouble for hitting (actually hit <i>me</i> once because I asked him to tidy up); has been getting into trouble for hurting people and then laughing at them... He's been the baby for six years and he's just peed off to the extreme. He was excited when Josie was coming, but then she died and I don't think he thinks Bella is going to survive either. But, the closer we get, and the more prepared we become, the more angry he gets.<br><br>
Oh for a good, free, child psychologist. I'm mentally exhausted...<br><br>
Lately his trick has been to use his new found writing skills to send horrible notes to almost every member of his family. He figured out how to spell "hate" - his uncle taught him after we'd caught on to what he was trying to do and wouldn't tell him how to spell it - and then wrote a note to his grandma saying he hated her, simply because he didn't get his way. In fact it happens every time he doesn't get his way nowadays... We don't spank, and I don't shout - try to converse instead - but I tell you what, it's not fun being almost full term and being berated in note form by an angry six year old stepson.<br><br>
Ah well, could be worse.I do get lovely pictures from DSD afterward, and she (8 yrs old) is being a complete darling, so that's good. I'd probably be in a padded room if they were both like that. They live with us 24/7 and I do most of the parenting as Dad is putting in long hours at work. I think he's simply very insecure and doesn't know what to do with himself much of the time. I feel bad for him but oh boy, am I a total cow for saying that I do love the times he's asleep? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
*tired smile*
 

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Sounds stressful, Jay. How was your step son last pregnancy? Do you think it could be at all related to anxiety over what happened with Josie? My dd didn't handle me getting pregnant with her brother very well (although she's great with him now) and acted out. I have to say I was very thankful that she was in school for most of the day! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
As for tiredness..I"m a walking zombie and it's only been this week. Last week I had energy to burn, my house was always clean, I didn't even need naps. This week I'm burnt out from the minute I climb out of bed. My patience with my son is wearing very thin and I don't have the energy to do ANYTHING. The house is a disaster and I just don't wanna. My poor ds though has been super needy lately partly because he's coming down with a cold and probably partly because I've been so impatient. I need a nap but I needed ME time away from him more so I'm skipping out on his nap but I'm sure I'll be down for the count very early tonight!
 

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I was just gonna say something like mamakins. I feel for you with what you have going on. But I think he is obviously acting out because he's hurt and anxious and everything else. It cant be easy for him. He probably doesn't know what to do with himself or his feelings. You are doing the right thing with being patient with him. He needs the most attention right now, besides you ofcourse.<br><br>
Children push you to your limits and beyond. Sounds harsh, but this is GOOD practice for you.
 

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Tired here too! I have not done much of anything towards Christmas decorating, although I have addressed a few cards. It was nice visiting the in-laws and parents for Thanksgiving as I got to sleep in while grandparents and uncle/aunt got up with kiddos. It has been hard getting back into getting up early to get DS on the bus, then get the 4 year old dressed and drive her to preschool.<br><br>
Jay, sorry your DSS is having issues. I wonder if he craves more one on one time? DS is a first grader and likes having just a bit of time alone with me or DH to play Wii with him, a board game, read to or with him, etc. I wonder if he worries that the baby will take up all of both of your time and leave none for him? For us, sometimes it helps if daddy just takes DS to Home Depot or the grocery store to get stuff and they can hang out together for a bit.
 

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A few weeks ago I started to feel the extreme exhaustion again--it felt like I was back in the first trimester again. I had been geting plenty of sleep and naps to boot, and I don't have any other LOs yet to chase after so I was really baffled as to where the exhaustion was coming from. Then my midwife called and said that my latest bloodwork was showing that I was mildly anemic, even though I haven't changed a thing about my diet. I started taking iron supplements a week or so ago and I've begun to notice a difference, so that's reassuring. Are you sure your iron levels are ok?
 

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Yup, count me in too.<br><br>
I've been tired for awhile, due to DD's horrid night time sleep, but it's getting ridiculous. Night before last I napped for an hour in the afternoon when she did (SOOOOO glad she's taking an afternoon nap again!) and then went to bed at 8:30 because i was so exhausted I was feeling pukey.<br><br>
Today DH "didn't sleep well" and needed a nap...<br><br>
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Where's my nap?!?!<br><br><br>
Wanted to say- JayJay- so sorry! No advice, no clue, just hugs <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Check your iron. I was exhausted, falling asleep every time I sat down exhausted. The MW tested my iron levels and I was super, super low. I bet you are too. I started taking Vit. Code Raw Iron and bounced right back. It's worked much better than Floradix for me.
 

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I'm exhausted, and I don't even have any other kids! I'm still trying to work, though not a full-time schedule. Yesterday I had an appt in the morning and on my way to work, I was passing the house. I decided to stop and lay down for a bit. I figured an hour at the most would do it. Three hours later ... It sure felt good! I don't sleep too well at night at this point, but I sleep fine mid-day if I let myself. I am starting to wonder if the problem at night is sharing the bed!
 

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Me, too! Really been feeling it since a couple weeks ago. I simply cannot get enough sleep, no matter how early I go to bed. During the day it's all I can do to stay awake to entertain my poor 3 y/old- it's almost better if we're out and about, doing something, interacting with people. I can forget about the exhaustion for a while. Right now she's at school and I'm at home trying to get paperwork done (yeah, you see how diligently I'm working on that!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">) and I need toothpicks to prop open my eyes. My iron is fine, though, go figure.<br>
Jay Jay, I concur that getting yours checked can't hurt! Blessings and love to you on this pregnancy - the loss of Josie must have been devastating. It does sound like your DSS is going through something now that it's getting close to the birth - reminders of what happened before and the stress it caused the whole family. This upcoming birth could be very healing for him and for all of you! I know you were half joking about the child psychologist, but a couple of sessions with someone trained in family therapy might do wonders (speaking from my own experience, having been a family therapist and having been a client of one!) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Jay, that sounds really hard with your little guy. Hard for everybody. Maybe his dad can speak with him about some of his anxieties. As for the tiredness, same here with me. I am due on the 10th, and I am feeling so weak and tired. My iron is pretty low, though I am supplementing and trying to eat enough in my diet. It's awful always pushing through this wall of fatigue. I just can't wait for the holidays and a break from routine, but these next few weeks are going to be killer. Even breathing is getting difficult and I'm sure that doesn't help things. So, I think it's normal, but why not take some supplements if they will help and remember it's OK to take things a bit easier!
 

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My CPM's and I figured out that I wasn't absorbing the iron in my prenatals due to my high intake of milk and other dairy (which I can't live without!)<br><br>
So I started taking Floravital... It's a liquid iron supplement plus Vit C to help w/ absorbtion and all the B vits to help with the energy level. It's made a dramatic difference for me. Too bad we didn't figure it out til last month... My hemoglobin looks much better and I feel sooo much better. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> If I don't take it every day I feel tired. It's like a cup of coffee (the energy boost not the taste.)<br><br>
Just thought you might try this. Good luck! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/dust.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dust">
 

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I read this thread last night and literally thought "Poor mamas" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Woke up this morning and got the oldest ready for school, DH took him and came back (he's home for the week).... I started cleaning the kitchen and got uber tired... laid on the couch around 9 and woke up at 11:30... sooo I guess exhaustion has kicked in lol<br><br>
Thank goodness DH was home to entertain the (current) youngest <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I got my Hemaglobin levels checked at around 26 weeks, now I am 32 weeks. Isn't that sufficient or do you guys get it checked again? It was normal then, but slightly lower than my last 2 pg's. I didn't know the connection between iron absorption and eating/drinking dairy???? Is that true?
 

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yes, the tired.<br>
I remind myself that I'm growing a person, it's hard work.<br>
I know my iron levels are good, normal even! I think it's my tea, I put lots of nettles in it.<br>
Jay-Jay I'm sorry about your DSS... it sounds rough. Poor guy too, I wonder what's going on in his head. Sounds like he's really nervous, scared and just doesn't know what to do with himself.
 

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If you are seriously bone-tired, I would def. get your hemoglobin checked. My hg has been fine up until the 3rd tri when it dropped (did same thing with 1st pregnancy) and now I'm taking floradix (same as floravital) to help. It doesn't fix the tiredness completely, but it takes away that feeling like you can't stand up any longer.<br><br>
The 3rd tri is draining, for sure, but I definitely think things like iron and also omega 3s can make a huge difference. Hang in there mamas... we're almost there! Then it's a whole different kind of tired <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">.
 
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