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We didn't know anything when our son was born. We are instinctive earthy people by nature so some things that I'd do again (like bfing and co-sleeping) came very natural, but there are so many things that I'm going to do different this time.<br><br>
One thing is birthing my way. I'm not going to use the fetal moniter or birth anywhere that won't allow me to stand and move. I'm going to buy a COMFORTABLE sling that actually works like a sling instead of settling for one that was totally awkward for both of us. I'm not going to buy a ton of 0-3 month size clothing! If I do birth in a hospital I'm not going to let them take my baby to the nursery for even one second!!!<br><br>
There's still a lot left to learn . . . but anyone else happy to know what they know now?
 

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I am! I am doing a UC/UP this time after homebirths. I feel I was so ignorant when my first was born 18 years ago.
 

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Absolutely! I was so unprepared last time. And the hospital birth I had as a result was horrific.<br><br>
I've had 4 years in between of learning, healing, and exploring options, and it feels like this time around will be soooo much easier....as long as life doesn't throw me anything too unexpected, and you know it never does that.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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i agree about the sling. i would like a really good one this time. any suggestions out there???<br>
i also would like a co-sleeper, as i didn't sleep well with baby in the middle.<br>
i'm also happy to know that i am human, and if things don't go exactly as i planned them, i can let it go. i had a beautiful homebirth planned with ds, and ended up with the exact opposite. i am going to try to go with the flow more this time. and not beat myself up if i don't have the ideal birth.
 

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Wait until the baby's born and then try out several different types from friends. Also keep in mind that some newborns don't like any carrier and you won't find the right one until 2-3 months. Things like mei tais seem to be more popular with babies who can sit up well than younger babies.<br><br>
I'm leaning towards starting with a wrap because of the versatility. Plus, if it's a total washout I can reuse the fabric.
 

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I think that though we have been into co-sleeping, babywearing and breastfeeding just because it felt natural, I have learned enough to completely change my life around over the past 18 mths. The two biggest things that stand out for me right now are that this time we're having a homebirth, and we won't be circumcising if we have another boy (no flames please). We had DS1 circ'ed because of medical problems DH and DH's father & grandfather had - DH's father & grandfather had to be circ'ed as an adult for problems. DH managed to avoid it, but the problems they have seem to be genetic. We've now decided to cross that bridge if and when we come to it, rather than take a preventative action that may not be necessary.
 

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yes ask to try some if you have friends every every baby is different my dd loved any type of sling, the boys were more finicky about what they liked and didn't also depending on the size of child and how they move around or like to see out etc.<br><br>
But I am getting an ergo this time <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br>
maybe a mai tai too...<br><br>
I'm also going to learn to pump this time (after five years of breastfeeding) I am really horrible at pumping...<br><br>
I am glad I know how to cloth diaper so there's no worries there only excitement on my fluff order.
 

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I don't know ANYTHING so I'm going to try everything. LOL
 

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I am so glad I found MDC before this baby and that I have educated myself about circ and tandem nursing. I'm already totally on board with bfing, gentle discipline, co-sleeping, babywearing, delaying solids, and other things but if I hadn't found this place I might not have had the confidence to nurse through pregnancy and tandem nurse, or to challenge DH on circ.
 

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Me, definitely. I nievely thought I could control a hospital birth the first time and was just too lazy to consider other options. I thought "what's the point I am going to have a natural birth no matter what." Well it worked out okay but it also sucked. I ended up with a basically natural birth but had the OB on call threatening me with a c section so this time I am going homebirth or birth center.
 

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I definitely feel a little wiser this time around. I was blessed to discover MDC before the birth of my first, but there are things I feel more at peace about, such as my birth experience. I had a lovely home birth, but was under the very deluded impression that if I had the perfect attitude, it wouldn't hurt, and that painless birth was my responsibility. It hurt, and I felt like I'd done something wrong, until I told the midwives how I was feeling and they laughed and said, "It would have hurt a lot more with a bad attitude, trust us!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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