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With my first pregnancy I didn't tell anyone until the end of my first trimester. Things are so different this time, and we keep spilling the beans! We've told our parents, a few friends, and his sister. Everyone has been told it's hush-hush for now (mostly because I don't want my boss to find out on Facebook).
 

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We've told our parents and my sister and his brother. Close family only for now. I guess 12 weeks for public knowledge, but depending on how normal or sick I feel I might tell a friend earlier.
 

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I have absolutely no ability to keep this news to myself. I don't want to keep blurting it out but I can't seem to help it. My criteria is that if I would tell the person I had m/c'ed, then I will tell them I am pregnant. I am not quite sure if I am really keeping to this but part of me just wants to acknowledge that this is happening even if something goes wrong.

So.. I have told my parents, one of my sisters, a few good friends, a colleague, and my mum friends from my old due date club as many of them are also pregnant.
 

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We've told our immediate families, a couple of friends here and there (but nobody local except one person who is sworn to secrecy), and way too many online people to count (but nothing on Facebook yet, lol). I am teaching this summer at church and my co-teacher is pg and due in October, and I think I'm going to tell her a week from Wednesday, when I'll finally be six weeks (I found out at three weeks so even that feels like FOREVER lol). Then on that Friday, there is a young ladies' Bible class at someone's home, and pretty much all the attendees are pregnant there, lol. There were four of us in attendance this past Friday and every single one of us is pregnant, lol. So it will be so fun to tell them. There was a "group" of us pregnant when I was having DS, too, so it'll be fun to be part of the group again. :) Then right after that class, I'll probably come and post it on Facebook, and then it'll be a free-for-all, lol.
 

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I've told my 2 best friends from back home, because I HAD to tell someone!, but that's it. I didn't even tell my dad when he was in town visiting me this past weekend. I'm going to wait another couple of weeks before I tell my parents and we're going to tell DH's family in a couple of weeks when they are in town visiting.
 

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We have told best friends and some family but we are going to be a little cautious this time around because I had a miscarriage a little over a year ago. It is just so crazy because we have only tired to get pregnant 3 times and succeeded all three time on the first try so it still seems a little surreal. Now i just have to cross my fingers for not multiples again.
 

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Only my dh, best friend, and sil know. I'm planning on telling my other sil soon also. I lost my last pregnancy at almost 19 weeks. There is no way I can hide it very long but I'm going to try to hold out until 10 or 12 weeks. We'll see how well I do!
 

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We haven't told anyone yet. It felt strange sitting and talking with my mom yesterday and not telling her. but I've had 2 m/cs and we are feeling very cautious. I'm feeling really bloated though, so I'm not sure how long I will be able to hide it! Actually I have a close local friend who I am thinking of telling soon because she is getting rid of a TON of baby stuff and I want her to give it to me instead
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but I don't think she's very good at keeping secrets, lol
 

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Nobody but my husband and OB so far. I just had a miscarriage in May, so I'm having beta quant screens twice this week. I'd rather wait to see that things are going as they should (at least for now) before we tell anyone, because last time my daughter found out. It was really rough on her when I had the miscarriage.
 

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I had only told a couple very close friends until yesterday when I started bleeding. Now everyone knows.
 

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Dh and I are keeping this to ourselves for as long as possible. (That is why I logged on here!! - its driving me nuts!!) Its going to be tough to tell our friends and family that we are happy about this pregnancy when we've told them for years that we were done at 3.
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Dh has been putting out hints to the kids, trying to feel out their reaction.
 

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With my Bug baby just about everyone knew the day I got the BFP. My husband CANNOT keep a secret and I knew he would blab at work so I told him that he HAD to call his mom on his way to work and I called my mom as soon as I saw him in the truck pulling out his phone...so the moms knew almost simultaneously. I then called a friend who told me she already knew I was pregnant (we'd discussed symptoms/the possibility of pregnancy) and that she'd told her husband that she just KNEW I was pregnant. It just kind of exploded from there. I think the first Twitter/Facebook references happened about a week or two after the BFP, but friends on an online forum were told after the second BFP (four days after the first one).

With my angel baby in February I got a BFP on a Monday morning and planned on keeping it a secret from everyone (DH included) until I'd taken another test on the day AF was actually due (Thursday)...but then I started spotting and lost the baby the day before AF was due. When the spotting happened I told my SIL and when I got the first BFN's I told my husband and my mom. Quite a few people now know about the loss, but it just came out gradually.

With this munchkin, only a couple friends know so far (the one who had just KNOWN with Bug and then my SIL...DH's brother's wife). I'm planning on surprising DH either today or tomorrow with the first truly clear BFP (had four faint ones, but today's was very clear)...and with a "Big Brother" shirt on Bug. After that we will tell family members and some local friends...but will encourage them not to spread the info around online cause I want to wait a couple months for that...I'm a bit more nervous about my little sprite sticking this time around after losing my angel baby.

Obviously, I am not counting any mothering.com people in my count...cause I've been on the TTC boards for a few months now!!

Oh yeah...and the SIL who knows? She found out yesterday that she's pregnant too and she's due three days after me!!
 

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So I dont know all the lingo yet but haven taken 5 home test all showing positive, just to be sure bought a digital read out and saw pregnant. Waiting 2 days after I should have started my period to tell DH. Right now we are trying to figure out when we should start telling everyone else. We are pretty excited this will be our first together. My DS is almost 7 so we know we need to tell him before anyone. We dont want him finding out by overhearing a phone conversation and we want him to feel a part of everything. We thought we would wait till August closer to 8-10 weeks. We just found out my SIL from out of state will be here on the 17th and now we debating telling DS that morning and then letting him be part of telling my side of the family. MIL had a daughter but gave her up for adoption when she was very young and when she knew we were thinking about TTC she has been crazy about me getting pregnant and it has to be a girl so I kind of want to hold off telling her as she has already been pretty overboard just knowing we were trying but not fair to tell him side of family and not his.

Any suggestions of how to tell an older child? His dad and step mom are due in september and they told him really soon and now has been worried there is not going to be enough room at that house for him. :( DH and I want to make sure this is a positive announcement for him. When DS first found out dad and step mom were preggers he imediately wanted me and DH to have a baby as well but as their pregnancy has progressed he is pretty mum on baby talk anymore.
 

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Just you ladies
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& DH. The one other person I usually tell early so badly wants to get pg after her 2nd 20+ week loss that I just can't tell her.

She's putting it off for financial reasons because her husband does NOT want her working next time she gets pg. I'm hoping she just gets pg soon so I can tell her.

Right now, I'm so excited but just want to keep it to ourselves - plus it's so early still for me.
 

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So yeah, I broke the news to DH on Wednesday evening and we started letting family members know before the weekend. DH has told one of his friends that he works with...who no doubt has told his wife, and I told the wife of another one of DH's friends (we hang out as couples, but I'm not exactly besties with her) when we were in the bookstore where she works today. I've also told a neighbor friend of mine...but that's it. There will probably be a few other local friends and some extended family...but we are telling everyone not to say stuff about it online.

I'm kind of hoping to hold off on telling people till late September. Hoping to get an ultrasound at about 16 weeks and hoping to see if we will be welcoming Nikolas Parker or Penelope Sage home come mid-March (plus I'll be into the second trimester)...and THEN we will announce online to various forum friends and Facebook peeps who are scattered far and wide away from us!! :-D
 

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Almost all of our friends/family know now but I'm still asking them to keep it off of Facebook and Google + because I hate getting that pity look and messages from people that I'm not very close with in case of MC. If this does end in MC I know I will be at peace with it and just try again.
 

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You know, it has varied in all of our pregnancies. We kept Sadie (#6) a secret until I was about 19 weeks along - and that was miserable. Dh works HARD during the summer and I always feel a bit out of touch with him then anyway...and I just felt like I was the only one who knew I was pregnant (and tired, and sick, and...)...but we didn't tell anyone for fear of negative comments. Since then DH and I have come to feel that part of our mission in life is to tell the world that babies are a GOOD thing - they're a blessing from God. So...we aren't hiding it this time. We wanted our children and then grandparents to know first. My sisters know (his aren't local so we haven't seen them yet - and he hasn't gotten around to calling them), and I don't care who else knows so 18yo son and 22yo daughter have told folks - I figure it's getting around. I waffle on posting it on FB...after all, the people I'm close to know...and a lot of the others wouldn't care!
 

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Yeah I think I'm going to skip Facebook this time. I told one more person yesterday. She was going to be part of the group that I tell this Friday, but she's going out of town tomorrow and won't be back until Tuesday, lol, so I told her. She's excited for me. :)
 
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