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I have told my 4 closest friends. All via phone as I called them when I thought I had implantation and asked them to pray for me that this was it! hehe...So they all called me back wanting to know if I had news and I told them that I had a bun in the over! hehe<br><br>
Only one 'close' friend I have not told because I felt she was not very positive last time around. She basically laughed and said she couldnt wait until I got morning sickness and on finding out I was planning an HBAC, had to 'inform' me that birth plans never go to plan. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Supportive eh?...NOT!...<br><br>
I am telling my in-laws at the end of the month as DH has taken a few days off and we are going up to see them then. I am telling them in a card via a poem. Its lovely and makes me teary everytime.<br>
I can't wait to tell them. DH got to tell them last time as I was stuck in New York and no where near being able to tell them. I told him to wait until I got to 12 weeks but as it was mothers day at the time - I guess he felt the need to let his mum know! (cant blame him though hehe). I am also looking forward to telling them because last month I was looking forward to telling them on my birthday (as they came to see us) and I had to tell them I had a m/c instead <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">. It will be nice to give them good news! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
And thats it for me...I am not very close to my family as I grew up in foster care but we do chat so whenever I see them on next or whenver they call, I will let them know then.
 

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Hey Ann,<br><br>
My first ds is also a 9/05 baby! I can believe he's THREE already, can you??<br><br>
So far I have told my DH, a local friend (who is mostly an online friend) who used the same RE I've been using, and now my sister. I really don't want to tell everyone yet, although I'm dying to tell my Mom. I won't see her until Thanksgiving though and don't want to share the news over the phone. I'll tell one or two close friends before then, but everyone else after Thanksgiving I think.<br><br>
There's my dilemma of the wedding in which I'm the matron of honor, four days before my EDD. I don't know if I should say something NOW and hope she might be willing/able to move the date up a little <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> or just keep to the plan and say nothing until Thanksgiving. I can't imagine missing my cousin's wedding. . . .
 

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i have told 2 close friends and a couple of random strangers (you know, chit chat at the park).<br><br>
i told my best friend since high school via text and she wasn't too happy with me...called me right up to give me some lessons in texting etiquette. lol<br><br>
my other friend is due to have her third (well, she was 40 weeks last Friday and still no baby) and she somehow guessed over the phone! claimed to have pregnancy clairvoyance. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">)<br><br>
the rest of the family will be trickier as i expect my mother to be in the not so thrilled club -- this is baby #4 and finances are, shall we say, not where they should be. she lives four hours away and i will see her this weekend (i'll only be 5 weeks) and then not again until Thanksgiving (11 weeks). i'm leaning toward Thanksgiving, but i think i'm just putting it off. we'll see if the opportunity arises over the weekend!
 

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My plan was not to tell till thanksgiving but that didn't work so every well. Now just about everyone knows, surprisingly we've gotton really warm receptions! I'll be 7 weeks this week- yahoo!<br><b>Ann</b> I've followed your story and am so happy for you! I know this one will extra supery doopery sticky! Congratulations!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:
 

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Let's see...first I told DF who's thrilled to boot. This is our first so I told him in a cute little way and got it on video. He of course wants to tell everyone in his battery when he gets back (we're living apart since he's stationed in another state). I've told my best friend who doesn't live in the state because I tell her everything. We've gone through lots together including my one and her several m/c's. I told my other friends that live in the same apartment complex with because we're so close. I did tell several people at work unexpectedly because I was possibly exposed to something from one of my little patients ( I work with babies) so I needed someone to take over that care since pregnant women aren't usually given those patients. Though this all happened halfway through the day so it was kind of obvious when I said 'we're doing a workup for WHAT, I need someone to take this baby'. Other than that we want to wait to tell my parents closer to christmas and his parents as well around that time. I've thought that when we take our Christmas pictures for our Christmas cards that I'll do a pic with us that says....Sweaters..$30, Camera $100, Christmas cards $10, Realizing that there are 3 people in this picture instead of 2....PRICELESS lol. I'm sure I'll get lots of confused phone calls. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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hehe!!! I love that!!!<br><br>
I was thinking of another way I could tell my MIL.... I could get some really nice yarn and a baby pattern for something I like (put it in a box as a pressie to give to her ....but to come up with a little poem that can go with it that basically says the knit is for the baby in June (as she knits)...hmmm...<br><br>
Maybe I could steal your idea? lol Yarn £10, Pattern £5, knitting needles £3...A new sweet bundle to wear the cardigan in June - Priceless!
 

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Let's see... first, I told my friend who brought the pregnancy test over for me. It was last Thursday, and I was *going* to wait until Monday to test, but my local online group (mostly from my babywearing groups) talked me into testing that day since DH was having a bad day and needed a pickmeup! My friend brought the tests over, and she ate a homemade granola bar while I peed in a cup. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Next I called my best friend, as she's usually the first to know. She wasn't home, so I left a message saying "CALL ME BACK ASAP!!!".<br><br>
After my friend called back, I posted to my local online group, of course. I'd tormented them long enough by saying I wouldn't test when I'd already missed AF and they could see the implantation dip in my chart. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
I then told a couple other online boards and e-mailed my sister (since I'd been telling her about my chart and such).<br><br>
DH eventually found out after 11pm that night when he *finally* came home from work. Thankfully, he gets paid for overtime, so that money goes towards the midwife birth. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> I left the pregnancy test by his phone charger, with a note saying that I hope this made his day better. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> He noticed it! I was scared that he wouldn't. Last time I left him a pregnancy test in a gift bag on a recliner chair since I was leaving the house before he got home, and he SAT ON IT! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">: So I was hoping he'd notice the white pregnancy test next to his phone charger (he *always* plugs in his phone first thing when he comes home).<br><br>
I haven't told everyone at church yet, because we haven't told grandparents yet, and at my church, news can spread from church to church, even out of town. Some of our members have family members at MIL's church 3 hours away. So we've kept it quiet there so far, although I don't know how long I'll be able to do that. Everyone has commented recently on how good I was looking after losing weight. Then this Sunday I started to pooch out, and I noticed people looking at my belly, but maybe I was just paranoid. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> I'm not obviously pregnant, but I am pooched out more than normal, so people who see me occasionally may notice that I've grown.<br><br>
My youngest son is having a birthday on the 1st, and we plan to have both sets of grandparents over for a party. I think I've basically decided to wear something that does NOT hide the pregnancy, and see who mentions it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I know my mom will notice right away. She knew I was pregnant with my first when I was only 9dpo because I wasn't wearing jeans! My mom is amazing. MIL just saw me 1.5 weeks ago, and she was commenting again on my weight loss. So I think when she sees me 4 weeks later and I'm majorly pooched out, it will be quite obvious. I'll be 7.5 weeks by that point, and this being baby #3, I'm pooching out quickly.<br><br>
After we tell the grandparents that Saturday, we'll spread the news at church and anywhere else we haven't spread it yet.
 

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Well, here is my list...<br><br>
Of course I told my DH first. LOL!! I gave him a card with a poem from the baby along with a bottle of wine and my pregnancy test tied to it with ribbon! He of course was shocked it happened so quickly and is getting more and more excited.<br><br>
We had decided we wanted to wait to tell everyone (including our kids) until we saw a heartbeat... but that hasn't worked out so well! My DH managed to tell 3 of his friends and then they told their wives!! We had my DD's birthday party this past weekend and my SIL must have asked my DH something about babies, and his response was no comment. So... she thinks she knows something and announced to the world at church Sunday - "So when are you due" in front of my family, kids and some friends. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
I didn't tell her anything and walked away (probably bright red) to get my son. So... Sunday evening we decided to go ahead and tell the kids because I have an issue with lying. They are SUPER excited and now everyone at their schools know!! LOL!!<br><br>
I decided it was going to get back to my mom soon, so I went to her house yesterday and told her with a card similar to the one that Shy used. It said. Cannon Camera $500.... Printing 20 copies of this picture $7.... Postage to mail this to our family and friends $10 and then when you open it... The look on your face when you realize their are 5 people in this picture... PRICELESS!! I signed it from all of us and "Baby xxx" due June 2009. She loved it!!<br><br>
We went to dinner with some close family friends and we told them last night with a card too. I think everyone is kind of shocked and surprised since they really were not expecting us to have another baby (afterall our oldest baby is 16)!! They have ALL been extremely happy for us though!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:<br><br>
Once I have the heartbeat I will tell my boss, and my DH's family and my extended family.<br><br>
It really is exciting to share the news... and so hard to keep it a secret!! I feel so much better now that some people know... it felt like I was kind of deceiving them in some way. LOL!!
 

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I had a loss in January where we told everyone and had to untell them, so we are taking this very slow.<br><br>
I took the test at 5:30am, and immediate woke up dh to see. We had a mini celebration in the bathroom careful not to wake up our ds or our house guest.<br><br>
That day I told the owner of a dress shop. I am in a wedding the week before my edd (<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yikes"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">, and since I had to buy the dress I had to tell her we needed extra fabric and a much larger size. She talked with the tailor, and we were able to work that out.<br><br>
A couple days later I told my best friend through email. She is not in the area, and while I wanted her to know I was not ready for the excitement that an actual conversation would bring.<br><br>
Almost one week after we got our bfp I told another close friend. I was not planning on telling her for a few weeks, but she told me about our midwife retiring I had to tell her.<br><br>
I plan on telling my brother over the next few weeks. I will probably tell him the next time I see him alone, or I might wait until we get a heartbeat. Not sure yet. He asked me to wait to tell him because of how hard the loss was on him before.<br><br>
Everyone else we are planning on waiting until 12 weeks.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">hehe!!! I love that!!!<br><br>
I was thinking of another way I could tell my MIL.... I could get some really nice yarn and a baby pattern for something I like (put it in a box as a pressie to give to her ....but to come up with a little poem that can go with it that basically says the knit is for the baby in June (as she knits)...hmmm...<br><br>
Maybe I could steal your idea? lol Yarn £10, Pattern £5, knitting needles £3...A new sweet bundle to wear the cardigan in June - Priceless!</div>
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Steal it lol. I think it would be adorable. If only my mother knit or did anything remotely crafty lol.
 

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We have told a bunch of people, but that is because we have a third person involved! Actually we have a fourth (egg donor) but we don't tell a lot of people about that, that is our future child's story to tell, not ours. We have not told my aunt, she tends to be pretty negative (although she is a lovely person), so we are wiating til after the first trimester (we are 7w1d), wehave not told DH aunts and cousins. I have shared with close friends and other friends who have also struggled with fertility. We need all the positive vibes/prayers we can get!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We moved away from all our friends and families about a year and a half ago, so the only people we have told from back home are my sister (she is my best friend, and due about 10 weeks before me) and a good mutual friend of both me and dh. She is kind of like an adopted little sister. There is one very good friend from back home I would still like to tell before everyone else knows, I am still working on dh about that though. We have a common passion for birth (she is a midwife) and she just gets me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Dh's parents are coming to visit for Thanksgiving, so we are going to tell them then and then phone the rest of our family and friends from back home over Thanksgiving weekend. It is much easier to keep a secret from them when we are 1,100 miles away <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Several people we know locally know already. A good friend from Church and our priest already know. It is only a matter of time before everyone else does, it is a pretty small Church <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Oh, and the kids know. I knew how excited they would be and had to tell them right away. My dd has been pestering me to have another baby since right after my 2-year-old was born <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> The day we told her, every time she would look at me, she would grin and say, "I am just so excited!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Well, I told DH right away. The test hadn't even finished processing before I ran downstairs, shaking and hyperventilating, showing it to him.<br><br>
We were happy, to say the least.<br><br>
Then the call to my closest friend, and the internet. I told my boss 2 days later because part of my job involves lifting boxes of books and I really don't want to do that now.<br><br>
We're telling his side on Thanksgiving, and currently debating between letting it slip ("Oh, sorry, can't have wine, it's bad for the baby") or making a grand announcement. After that, we'll tell everyone else.
 

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I'm keeping this one really quiet so far. DH knows, of course, plus one friend at work and one back home. That's it IRL. Of course you all on MDC know, but I haven't even told my parents, or put it in my blog, or anything. I guess after so many losses, I just don't want to get everybody's hopes up again.
 

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We told pretty much everyone... we told our parents by taking a picture of Trevor holding a sign that said "Big Brother in Training"!!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">We have told a bunch of people, but that is because we have a third person involved! Actually we have a fourth (egg donor) but we don't tell a lot of people about that, that is our future child's story to tell, not ours. We have not told my aunt, she tends to be pretty negative (although she is a lovely person), so we are wiating til after the first trimester (we are 7w1d), wehave not told DH aunts and cousins. I have shared with close friends and other friends who have also struggled with fertility. We need all the positive vibes/prayers we can get!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">This is wonderful hun! After this pregnancy (and my child has weaned) I hope to be a surrogate. It is something I have always wanted to do since I was 10 years old. I just can not wait to help make a family by giving them such a wonderful gift!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Wow Ann, it takes a truly special person to be a surrogate and the world needs more of them! We are so blessed to have M in our life and that she is willing to do this for us. This past weekend was Thanksgiving in Canada, and we are definitely thankful for her! I hope you get to reach your surrogate dreams one day and help a family like ours <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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we have told everyone. my husband started it by posting a picture of the positive pregnancy test on facebook.<br><br>
i feel like i have to explain myself to everyone since I am on the verge of falling asleep at any moment. zzzzzzzz
 

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I told dh of course, although he ended up working really late the day I tested so I didn't get to tell him for the longest 24 hours ever! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I wrapped up a tiny little baby jersey, shorts and socks from his favourite soccer team with our last name on the back, along with a card and the positive test. He was surprised and very happy. He just kept saying "wow", hugging me and laughing this funny little laugh. It was very cute. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">:<br><br>
Monday we told dh's Mom on the phone and my parents at Thanksgiving Dinner. We didn't really do anything special. We did a happy thanksgiving toast, then I said that this year we were especially thankful that we'd have a new family member joining us in June. It took them a sec, then they were thrilled. This will be the first grandchild on both sides of the family so there is a lot of anticipation.<br><br>
We are currently playing phone tag with dh's dad and then we need to tell all our siblings. I think I'm going to have to tell my soccer and basketball teams this week too, as they need to know why I'm not playing... after that I think we'll just let the news spread.
 
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