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i likely define 'tone' differently.
My husband and I are both pretty constant and both happy. But, we are responsible for our own happiness, our own feelings, and the feelings of the other do not 'set the tone' for our household.
Both of us practice contemplation and meditation, and i think that these practices of mindfulness set the 'tone' of our household more so than fluctuating moods. We occassionally bicker (due to our own things), but we have never had a fight. my husband tries to 'pick fights' when he's anxious about something, but i disengage that energy by asking him open-ended questions about his feelings and anxieties. he returns this favor when i am frustrated or afriad of something. thus, our household tone is one of peace, traniquility, and joy.
My husband and I are both pretty constant and both happy. But, we are responsible for our own happiness, our own feelings, and the feelings of the other do not 'set the tone' for our household.
Both of us practice contemplation and meditation, and i think that these practices of mindfulness set the 'tone' of our household more so than fluctuating moods. We occassionally bicker (due to our own things), but we have never had a fight. my husband tries to 'pick fights' when he's anxious about something, but i disengage that energy by asking him open-ended questions about his feelings and anxieties. he returns this favor when i am frustrated or afriad of something. thus, our household tone is one of peace, traniquility, and joy.
