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<p>Seriously.  Hubby has a potluck at work today.  So he informs me of this at the kids' bedtime LAST NIGHT  "i don't know what to take..."</p>
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<p>then he's grumpy at me wondering what I bought with some cash he gave me anyway and how he doesn't have anything to take.</p>
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<p>Well....I would've been more than happy to discuss options that I could bake or make--like a crockpot of chili, some brownies, cake, I don't know, whatever.  On like WEDNESDAY even.</p>
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<p>*I* happen to have a life with the kids too--and we were not home when he got back from work because I took them to a party at CEC that the oldest was invited to.  So we got back pretty much at bedtime.  And I actually crashed with the 2 year old.....because I'm 38 weeks pg and chased him around CEC for a good 2 hours!</p>
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<p>So, does anyone actually think this potluck 'crisis' is MY problem?  lol</p>
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<p>i don't think I've been out of the workforce *that* long....I know we used to put our notices to sign up out probably even the Friday before, maybe for one on Friday, Monday.....there's no way he didn't know.</p>
 

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Nope not your problem. Dh works FT and I work PT while kids are in school so I usually take over pot luck duties. But only if I have notice. Otherwise it's "I guess you'll be getting up early so you can pick up some chips and salsa on the way to work"!
 

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<p>asbolutly not your problem. If my husband was acting all grumpy in this situation, I would tell him to suck it up and take accountability.  Im happy to help, but its your responsibility to make the arrangements since its YOUR workplace.  NOT MINE.  You screw it up, not my problem. </p>
 

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<p>nope. I would probably hand him a box of brownie mix and cake mix and tell him to have fun. I need at least two days notice.</p>
 

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<p>I would gladly take over the entire responsibility of the potluck dish... but, what could I do at bedtime the night before??</p>
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<p>He can be grumpy with  himself for forgetting, but I forbid him to be grumpy with you. He'll have to swing by the grocery store and pick up a premade plate of veggies on the way. (Though I would be very annoyed at that, too, those things are expensive).</p>
 

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<p>I don't think you'll find a single person who thinks this is your problem. Your DH is just mad at himself and taking it out on you. He's a grown-up, he can figure this out all by himself. </p>
 

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<p>Nope. Not your problem. If dh is invited to a potluck, he cooks. Brownies. His only potluck food. But he cooks it and brings it. Sometimes, if he's stressed and I have time, I'll make something for him. But as he's a WAHD and I'm a WOHM, he usually has more time.</p>
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<p>Your dh was probably grumpy over forgetting and was taking it out on the wrong target. I, of course, never do that <span><img alt="hide.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hide.gif"> (says the woman who managed to yell at all 3 other family members last night, including my dh <em>who was not home at the time</em> (and so got an e-mail rant)).</span></p>
 

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<p>Of course it's not your problem.  He should have done it anyway with you being 38 weeks prgenant.  My DH has a potluck next Wed. and he already knows what he is bringing.  He did ask me for help but he will be doing most of it.</p>
 

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<p>Of course not.  We have a guy at work who does this every time we have a potluck.  He signs up for something and then forgets to ask his wife to make it and ends up bringing nothing.  So now we just sign him up to bring chips, which he can pick up on his way work.</p>
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<p>I'm sure my dh would love for me to make stuff for him to take to potlucks, but it's his deal so he does it.</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Alyantavid</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1280509/who-thinks-this-is-my-problem#post_16059287"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I'm sure my dh would love for me to make stuff for him to take to potlucks, but it's his deal so he does it.</p>
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That's not even the part that would bug me. My DH knows that I love cooking/baking, especially party food, so I'm always happy to make something for his potlucks, and he knows he can count on me sending homemade muffins and granola on his camping trips. It's the late notice and misdirected anger that would bug me. I mean, what did the OP's husband expect her to do about it at bedtime the night before the potluck? Drag her 38-week pregnant behind to the store and then stay up late making something? </p>
 

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<p>I'm more than happy to make stuff for my DH to take to work. I love to bake, he's not a good cook. It's all good.</p>
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<p>But the night before?????  At bedtime????  I think my response would have been, "So pick something up on the way. They have a really nice selection at Safeway."  And if he said ANYTHING back, I'd just ask how long he'd known about it.</p>
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<p>Nope, not your problem.  He should of asked you a long time ago.</p>
 

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<p>DH used to occasionally beg me to make rather complicated and fiddly dishes, because his coworkers liked them - but he always had the grace to ask as a favour, and go out on his motorbike to pick up any ingredients we didn't have, <em>and</em> to give me notice. Your DH could have boiled some eggs and cut up some crudites or something, in a pinch.</p>
 

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<p>No, it's definitely not your problem ~ he has hands <img alt="winky.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/winky.gif"></p>
 

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<p>Not your problem at all.</p>
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<p>This seems an excellent opportunity for him to learn to make hard boiled eggs and/or deviled eggs which are the best emergency back-up potluck food, IMHO - because everyone brings chips when they otherwise forget.</p>
 

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<p>Nope, not your problem. Bad timing, you are very pg, come on! He should be grumpy at himself.</p>
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<p>And I love deviled eggs!</p>
 

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<p>Heck no! It's not the asking that's the issue, it's the timing. He can make friends with the folks at the deli counter at the grocery store. Or a box of doughnuts. Everyone loves doughnuts.</p>
 

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<p>I think you should've helped. When he finished getting the potluck dish ready to go, you could've had a nice serving spoon ready for him to take. Hope you got a good night's sleep!</p>
 
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