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Hey folks, I just had to ask this question. DH and I don't want to know the sex of our baby before it's born, which apparently puts us in the minority if I am to judge by the reactions of everyone outside MDC when we tell them. What's funny is that everyone is AMAZED that we're able to wait, like we must be made of steel or something. But honestly, neither of us is in any hurry at all - it's NOT hard, not a bit.<br><br>
So I was just wondering, how many of you DO or DON'T want to know, and why? And if you don't want to, is it hard to wait?
 

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We really wanted to know, and we're happy we found out. For us, it made things much more real to know we're having a girl, to start trying out girl names on her, etc. For me, I felt like the real bonding got kicked into high gear after I found out she was a she.
 

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I didn't find out with my first.. it didn't really bother me much. With my other children though I did want to know. I'm a planner and a worrier so for me it was the way to go. With this baby I really wanted to know because I have 3 boys already. We were pleasantly surprised to see girly parts on the screen. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: Now I worry about it being wrong and her coming out a him either way though I'll be happy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">
 

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If I was planning not to have a US I wouldn't want to know, obviously. But because I know I will be having at least one more US (my first DD had IUGR, and I am very concerned about that this time) I will be finding out if they can tell me. Really, the doctor, the nurses, and the US tech will all know, but not the baby's parents? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Besides, it will mean having to argue with DH about only half the number of names. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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i kind of wanted to be surprised, but dh really wants to know, so we're going to find out if they can tell
 

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Didn't find out with DS1. Liked waiting for the surprise at the end.<br><br>
Found out with DS2. Enjoyed finding out halfway through my pregnancy.<br><br>
Both ways have things to recommend them, emotionally. I wouldn't have an ultrasound *just* to find out but if you decide to have a 20-week ultrasound to gather other, more medically-oriented information, it can be nice to get this little bit of extra info.<br><br>
This time around we're not sure what we'll do. I'm leaning toward finding out, DH is leaning toward not finding out, but neither of us feels really strongly about it. I think DH is changing his mind, too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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I have not found out the sex for both of my DD's beforehand. I did have a US with DD1, but chose not to know, and didn't bother with one for DD2 so that wasn't an issue. My take on it is that there are very few true surprises in life, and this one them. Surprisingly it was very easy not knowing with DD1, everything was so exciting, and I didn't care what the baby was, it was harder with DD2, I really wanted to know. I am so glad that I didn't find out, when they were born and I discovered that their gender, I was just floored, it was such a wonderful surprise. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: And this is coming from someone who does not like surprises. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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We found out with DD, but I regretted it. This time we're going to wait, I'm not even planning on having an u/s.
 

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I knew with the first two dc, not with #3 and #4. We found out this time.<br><br>
I left home stating all the reason why I did not want to know and then when the tech asked if we wanted to know we both said yes. It feels odd to know and I haven't been spreading it far and wide. I feel a bit disappointed in myself but there are good points. My 4 yo is very upset and this is giving her some time, dh was wrong with his guess and he gets to adjust too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I am using the knowledge to clean house and share the bounty I have been saving (clothes and such) but don't think I will use now.
 

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Found out with first two, and liked knowing. DH wanted a surprise and I decided against US, so we don't know this time around *for sure* but we both feel it's a girl--ironically, since we're trying to be surprised here. It has been so much fun! I never want to find out again!
 

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We are keeping the gender a secret with this baby just as we did with the first two. It really drives everyone batty doesnt it? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
We have had multiple u/s with each pregnancy and the tech didnt even look between the legs. I was afraid that one of the docs would slip up but nobody in the office knows the gender either.
 

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After trying to get pregnant for about 8 years, we decided we really didn't need to know. Having to wait that amount of time sort of makes waiting 9 months seem pretty insignificant. I keep telling people that as long as it's not another cat, I'll be happy.
 

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We found out w/dd. With ds I didn't want to but dh really did, so we did. This time we figure we have a boy and a girl, so let it be a surprise! Plus, we are having a hands off pregnancy, so not having an u/s here on out. Just this week though I've been sooooo curious! I'm about 24 weeks and I think b/c I knew w/the others I feel like it's time to know this time! It's gonna be awesome having a VBA2C and finding out if it's a boy or girl at the time!<br><br>
It is driving my Aunt nuts!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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We found out with our first two pregnancies. We have one boy and one girl. I want to be surprised this time.. I don't know anyone IRL who has been able to wait, though.<br>
I hope I can hold out! I think it would be so awesome to be surprised <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I tried to find out with #1 and #2 but couldn't and it drove me nuts.<br>
We found out #3.<br><br>
This time I have this romantic notion that for my last baby I want to wait and maybe even just after the birth I can just have a moment with the baby, skin to skin, enjoying the feeling before anyone announces the gender.
 

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I want to know. I was really blind-sided when I felt sad and angry when I found DD was a girl. It took me a couple of days to work through it. Which is weird bc I had thought I wanted a girl. Past abuse issues, as it turns out; I was afraid she would be vulnerable.<br><br>
So bc it worked out well last time, and bc I ought to get a US anyway bc there is spina bifida in the family, we will ask. Good to have some time to get used to it. For me anyway.
 

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I found out with all of my pregnancies.. I tried to not find out with the last one but I gave in around 17 weeks LOL. yeah I know Im weak.. This time around I dont want to find out but we shall see
 

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We are going to find out just like we did with DS.<br><br>
I can't bear the thought of waiting 9 months to find out!<br><br>
I'm like that with reality TV shows like Survivor and The Amazing Race. I jump online and find out who wins <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I like to plan, I like to know what lies ahead to an extent. I hate getting unisex neutral colours like white, yellow or green for baby to wear. I wanted specifically to buy boys clothes or girls clothes.<br><br>
To me there still will be a huge surprise at the end of the birth to see what my baby looks like. What colour hair or eyes he/she has.<br><br>
I respect other people's wishes to not know or keep the sex a secret until the birth as it is a personal decision. I also expect that same respect in return that I wish to find out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.
 

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im planning to have a UP so, no ultrasound.<br><br>
with dd1 they couldnt tell in the early US, so we gathered funds just to have a second to find out the gender < medicaid would only fund 1 US unless it was deemed neccesary > , i was young and not fully informed.<br><br>
this time, i look forward to the suprise of having no idea other than any feelings have, which dont count for much.<br><br>
not knowing is primative and fun.
 

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Funny, in my DDC so far more are waiting than finding out!<br><br>
We have not found out the gender with any of our pregnancies. This is our 3rd surprise! There are times when I have fleeting feelings of NEEDING to know. And then I come back to reality and know that I am REALLY looking forward to the birth and finding out then just exactly what we have! And it won't just be the gender, then - it'll be the whole package! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I'm so excited, but at times it's hard to wait another 19 weeks. I know it will be totally worth it, though!
 
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