I expect to have my 2 midwives, and the midwife intern.
I'm considering having two doulas, someone to be there for the boys, DH and myself
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I'm considering having two doulas, someone to be there for the boys, DH and myself
Who will attend your birth?
Who do you expect and want to have attend your birth?
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Dp, and oldest dd. My mom will be around as dd's support person in case she decides it's too much. She really wants to be there so we'll see when the time comes. Other than that, I expect there will be a nurse.
We are going to do a home birth and there will be my dh, my mom, our midwife and another midwife because our midwife is an intern and there has to be a licensed midwife at the birth.
No one else. Unfortunately, we just found out that my mil wants to be there for the birth. But we are going to tell her that we are not inviting anyone to the birth and are asking everyone to wait 1 month after the baby is born to visit. That way, we have - along with the baby - have time to adjust to our new life together and I have time to get a good start on breast feeding. We very much hope that she understands and does not take it personally. Either way, we will not be asking anyone to attend the birth.
The only reason my mom is going to be there is because she lives here and I want my mom there! I have the right to decide that I think. It just makes me feel comfortable to have both my mom and dh. She is not a pushy person at all and can be extremely helpful. She also respects our choices/decisions.
No one else. Unfortunately, we just found out that my mil wants to be there for the birth. But we are going to tell her that we are not inviting anyone to the birth and are asking everyone to wait 1 month after the baby is born to visit. That way, we have - along with the baby - have time to adjust to our new life together and I have time to get a good start on breast feeding. We very much hope that she understands and does not take it personally. Either way, we will not be asking anyone to attend the birth.
The only reason my mom is going to be there is because she lives here and I want my mom there! I have the right to decide that I think. It just makes me feel comfortable to have both my mom and dh. She is not a pushy person at all and can be extremely helpful. She also respects our choices/decisions.
My DP, my three boys, and my two best friends, Jen and Tarah.
Just my DH, midwife, any nurses they stick in there... and MAYBE a doula (if I can find an in-training one that will do it for free- we're poor haha). I really don't want anyone really besides my DH- no relatives or friends. They can see me and baby AFTERWARDS thank you very much.
My dh, maybe my mom, my aunt, and my two midwives.
well dp and dd will be with me until it is actually time to push then they will be in the hall. so my ob, her nurse and my nurse will be there. for some reason i'm more comfortable with medical staff then my dp. he just made me nervous last time... plus he got a little dizzy when it was time to push. i would have dd in there but i think it's going to be too tramatic for a 1 year old.
dh and a midwife. hopefully we won't need an ob again. that sucked.
No idea!
I was planning to have another uc with my dp there and possibly the kids if they are awake. But dp and I have just split up so everything is a bit up in the air.
Hope I can come up with a good arrangement where someone can come in time to look after my kids in another room and the midwife is too late or something!
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I was planning to have another uc with my dp there and possibly the kids if they are awake. But dp and I have just split up so everything is a bit up in the air.
Hope I can come up with a good arrangement where someone can come in time to look after my kids in another room and the midwife is too late or something!
Well, my Dh will be responsible for the girls, and DS will be away at school. DH will not be at the birth due to religious reasons. But I have found through experience that I don't like to be alone in labor and like lots of support.
So my mw will be there, and she also has a 2nd mw she does births with as well as an intern. So there will be 3 people on her team - but they know they are there mostly for doula skills and not much else. I may also invite 1-2 of my doula students to come, still deciding. They all need to attend births for certification, but I am not sure if I want my students at my birth! LOL
So my mw will be there, and she also has a 2nd mw she does births with as well as an intern. So there will be 3 people on her team - but they know they are there mostly for doula skills and not much else. I may also invite 1-2 of my doula students to come, still deciding. They all need to attend births for certification, but I am not sure if I want my students at my birth! LOL
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Wow, Ruth! Sounds like you have a lot on your plate! I hope it goes exactly as you'd like!
Originally Posted by Rainbow2911 No idea! I was planning to have another uc with my dp there and possibly the kids if they are awake. But dp and I have just split up so everything is a bit up in the air. |
Ya know what my dream is? To have the baby in the middle of the night by myself, and then to bring the baby to the family bed early in the morning and show everybody!
With Eva's birth, I labored on my own, and my hubby played with Sophia until I got deep into active labor (then my SIL took Sophia until the baby was born), then I just bossed him around until transition when I asked him for advice ... that lasted just a bit, and then I started pushing and he and I caught her. We called Sophia home, and after a couple hours she cut the cord. That was a great birth!
Sophia doesn't want to be at this birth, but Eva kind of does. I feel a bit uncomfortable because I don't want to let her down, but I really want to be on my own....we'll see.
With Eva's birth, I labored on my own, and my hubby played with Sophia until I got deep into active labor (then my SIL took Sophia until the baby was born), then I just bossed him around until transition when I asked him for advice ... that lasted just a bit, and then I started pushing and he and I caught her. We called Sophia home, and after a couple hours she cut the cord. That was a great birth!
Sophia doesn't want to be at this birth, but Eva kind of does. I feel a bit uncomfortable because I don't want to let her down, but I really want to be on my own....we'll see.
I really don't want my mother there. She was relatively okay during my labor was DD, but I knew the whole time she was just waiting for my to lash out at DH, because she thinks it's hilarious when women do that. Plus, I got sick and tired of hearing how *her* labors went, especially when I was laying there closing in on hour 30 (of 33). Of all days, the day I'm in labor should only be about me, DH, and our baby!
That said, I need DH (he's my rock) and want my SIL to be therem partially to prove to her that you CAN have a very intervention free birth, and also because my own sister lives 700 miles away, and SIL is the next best thing. She rocks! Then my midwife and whatever birth center support staff they require.
That said, I need DH (he's my rock) and want my SIL to be therem partially to prove to her that you CAN have a very intervention free birth, and also because my own sister lives 700 miles away, and SIL is the next best thing. She rocks! Then my midwife and whatever birth center support staff they require.
For us, dh and I...and I since we will be at the hospital I think dd will be there but my best friend is going to come to be with her so they can go out if they need to. I don't know, when I was in nursing school I helped with a birth and their 2 year old daughter slept on a little couch the whole time, but I am afraid that if dd were there it would freak her out...anyone give birth at a hospital with dc(s) there?
If all goes as planned, it will be DH and I, and the other girls if they're awake. Last time they slept through most of it, and woke up just in time to see the birth, and we were all in the same bed!
Since we're on #4 our extended family has pretty much figured out that they're not invited. With #1 my IL's were a bit offended that I asked them not to come until we were home from the hospital. With #'s 2 & 3 they didn't even ask. My mother wanted to be there for #3 since we had her at home, but I really don't feel comfortable with anyone but DH. She took it pretty well.
Since we're on #4 our extended family has pretty much figured out that they're not invited. With #1 my IL's were a bit offended that I asked them not to come until we were home from the hospital. With #'s 2 & 3 they didn't even ask. My mother wanted to be there for #3 since we had her at home, but I really don't feel comfortable with anyone but DH. She took it pretty well.
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