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The ladies over at the "Not Mamas Yet" tribe have been kicking around a suggestion that one of the ladies brought up: After having a baby and being inundated with advice, pick two people who you trust to listen to. Everyone else, just nod and smile." The consensus is that this is brilliant advice, but I'm curious to ask mamas: Who are/would be your two people?
 

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ummmm....my godmother, and my Priest and his wife....guess that is 3.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Can I count MDC as one person?
 

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Are we talking "experts" or people we know personally?<br><br>
If it's personally, I'd go with my mom and my MIL. Neither perfect, but they're both mothers and they're among a very small group of people who love my son as much as I do. If experts are allowed, I'd pick Penelope Leach first ... not sure about second, though.
 

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My husband and my mom--both know and love my child, and any advice they give would be with her best interest in mind.
 

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My mother and myself. Mamas have a tendancy to know what's best for their babies. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My mom and my aunt.
 

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I have three: Sledg, Piglet68, and MsMoPls <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I was thinking of counting YOU as one of my people. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> The only other person I could think of is my grandma, but she's passed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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my midwife (who was awsome) and my friend Deon. her and her husband worked with our youth group when I was a kid and she was such a shining example f NFL/AP. She never said a word but her impact was super huge.
 

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I think that advice is just silly. Why would you just pick two? I have had great advice from the following people in my life. I would not be the parent I am today if it were not for:<br><br>
my friend from new mom group<br>
my friend from ppd support group<br>
my friend from grad school<br>
my friend from college<br>
my mom<br>
my mil<br>
my grandmother<br>
my husband<br>
my naturopath<br>
my dd's physical therapist<br>
my dd's rehab therapist<br>
my dd's osteopath<br>
my dd's pediatrician<br>
my neighbor<br>
MDC<br>
Mothering Mag<br>
Child Mag (yes, I do find some interesting items there)<br>
Drs. Sears and Martha Sears, RN<br>
Kathleen Huggins, author of the nursing mother's companion<br>
Elizabeth Pantley, author of the No-cry sleep solution<br>
The authors of Becoming the Parent you want to be<br>
Gordon Neufeld, author of Hold on to your child<br>
Dr. T. Berry Brazelton<br><br>
and I could go on and on but I am taking up a lot of space.<br><br>
If you are stressed out by all the advice you are getting from people, you don't need to limit the advice. You either need to change your relationships with these people or change yourself. If they are constantly giving you advice, either they are annoying or you are in great need of help. Otherwise, the advice you get from the people in your life is only there to help you.
 

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I agree that it's a little silly to just rule out EVERYONE but two people.<br><br>
I listen to everything everyone has to say and then I take what I need from it...I listen to all the advice and suggestions, and then I go with my gut feeling on which is the best course of action.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I agree that it's a little silly to just rule out EVERYONE but two people.<br><br>
I listen to everything everyone has to say and then I take what I need from it...I listen to all the advice and suggestions, and then I go with my gut feeling on which is the best course of action.</div>
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I don't rule out anyone in real life but if i had to . . . but if I were parenting on a deserted island and could only bring two mentors <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Oh gosh, I couldn't narrow it down between friends.<br><br>
I was going to say my Mother. Then I remembered, she is the only that thinks our co-sleeping is ruining my children's futures (seriously).
 

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I wouldn't narrow it down to just two people. I've probably sought advice most often from my mom (although we don't agree on everything she respects my parenting), my dh (not really advice but sharing ideas), the internet, and a few good books. Those are my resources. Anyone I did not ask for advice from are the people I would ignore.
 
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