Mothering Forum banner
1 - 20 of 46 Posts

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,903 Posts
Discussion Starter · #1 ·
Off hand, I can think of several members here who are active in LLL. Because I've been thinking for a few months about making a social life for myself, I was hoping to start talking with some of you about LLL. I tried a search to come up with a list of LLL members, but I think it would take days on end. Would any of you be willing to speak up and say your level of activity?
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
19,139 Posts
I am. My DD is 3 and I seldom miss a meeting. I volunteer to make reminder calls so our busy leader (homeschooling mom to 4!) doesn't have to. I just phone everyone who has attended a meeting in the past few months a few days before the meeting and say "Hi... metting is Weds at 10. Same place. Hope we'll see you!" I also help out greeting new people at the beginning of meetings if she has her hands full. Help set up and then restore the room we use. On good days I get to hold tiny new babies for a few minutes while their mom browses the library or uses the bathroom. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,228 Posts
LOVE LLL! I was an active member at home before we moved and the first thing I did when we got here was find another group - and I like this one even more!!!! We have monthly meetings and then all the 'regulars' get together 1x a week for an informal playgroup with the kids - it is SO refreshing to be around moms like myself!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,798 Posts
We go about twice a month.Nursing over 1 yr. and soon to be tandeming...I am the unofficial librarian of our group.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,700 Posts
We have once a month meetings that I attend. While I enjoyed it at the beginning for the actual meeting part, now that ds is older (just turned 1) I go for the social part afterwards. Our group is really focused on the meeting series which seems designed for new munchkin mommas.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
4,743 Posts
I am! I go once a month to meetings and am just starting the process to become a LLL leader. The closest group to me is an hour away so I want to start one in my own area!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,798 Posts
I forgot to mention that other than family and church,LLL is my social life-the one where I can meet folks I most relate to,and have most in common with.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
819 Posts
I am. I haven't missed a meeting in a long time. I'm our group's librarian, so I have to go and take the books every month. I really enjoy the meetings. It's great to be around like-minded moms.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
13,153 Posts
Just FYI, as this might skew your poll, Leader applicants and Leaders are not allowed to say they are, on non-LLL boards.<br><br>
Leader apps are not allowed to say they are, at LLL mtgs either.<br><br>
Insurance reasons.
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
22,696 Posts
<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave"><br><br>
I've been involved since my daughter was about 2 months old, so I guess that is over 4 years now. I was our group's librarian also, but I just retired from that job. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
My first group was in southern CA and now I live in No NV. This group has an attachment parenting playgroup that sort of spun off from LLL members who were looking for something more than breastfeeding support. A lot of us go to both, so between our regular meetings, enrichment meetings and weekly playgroup meetings, there is a lot of social interaction. I love it!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
353 Posts
I can't say I'm a leader on the Mothering boards? This seems a little screwy; I say in public all the time, "I'm an LLL leader." Can you cite that specific policy (just give me the reference; I can look it up)? You should all understand that leader applicants are not introduced at meetings because they haven't completed the training and are not yet "insured" as leaders (explaining all that would be confusing; so they're just not introduced as applicants). Not at all trying to be mouthy here, DaryLLL, I just think it's stating these blanket policies with little or no explanation that sometimes makes LLL seem cultish, clique-y, or plain limiting and weird. In truth, such policies help protect moms and leaders. That said (sorry to lead the thread into the hinterlands!), I love LLL and the people I met there with a 5-week-old babe are now some of my closest friends.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
3,165 Posts
I have been going to two different LLL groups in my area. I really like it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
522 Posts
Leader applicants can't announce in public that they're applicants because of the insurance thing, but leaders - unless they're in a situation where they're wearing their "leader hat" and giving BF information, shouldn't be in a situation where they say " I homeschool and don't vax and I'm a LLL leader." (mixing causes I think?)<br><br>
But that said, I have met some great mommy friends at LLL and I love attending meetings! I've heard that some people have a problem with their individual LLL groups but I've only had positive experiences myself. I think it's a great place to meet AP-minded parents.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,903 Posts
Discussion Starter · #14 ·
I didn't know with quite a few of you that you were involved in LLL, but I knew I didn't know all of you. Wouldn't have started this thread if I thought I knew everyone. There isn't a group very close to me, so I will have a trip to get to the meetings. The list that I have on the meetings has a subject with each meeting. From your experiences, do the meetings stay on topic? Or does it just depend on who is there? Do you find that LLL philosophies differ from Mothering ones very much?
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
522 Posts
In our group the topic scheduled is more kind of a backup. Some meetings there are enough questions and discussions that we barely get to the topic and other meetings we get more into the topic. But regardless of the topic, mothers can ask questions about anything related to BF.<br><br>
IMO, LLL's official stance on things follow the AAP (like if you asked about vaxing LLL's stance is that you should follow the AAP guidelines) but it's a great place to meet other AP moms who would be more like the moms you would meet here on Mothering. And generally after the meetings are over most moms stay for another 30 minutes or longer socializing where you can get into other parenting things other than BF.<br><br>
But I would imagine YMMV across different groups. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

·
Premium Member
Joined
·
22,696 Posts
It is up to the leaders to keep the meeting on topic. I have noticed that people do bring up things that really aren't in line with the LLL philosophies, so the leaders gently bring the topic back into focus. It's hard, though, because people want to discuss things that are important to them and will stray into other areas.<br><br>
I was giving a little presentation on the seminars I saw at the International conference for an enrichment meeting. At one point I mentioned a statistic given by the presenter of the seminar on attachment theory. Someone jumped in and said that this statistic was due to the fact that we vaccinate so much in the US. A little debate almost ensued, but fortunately got cut off quickly. I stayed out of it. It was just annoying because we weren't having discussion and I was irked that she jumped in with that comment when it is not a part of the LLL philosophy.<br><br>
The idea is that everyone needs to feel comfortable there so that they feel supported in breastfeeding, and we aren't going to debate certain topics that are debated on this forum. However, the ten concepts include things like loving guidance, healthy eating, the baby having a need for his mother that is as great as the need for breastmilk. I've been to numerous meetings where things like sharing sleep are recommended by leaders and other members. Different moms do different things, so some moms use cribs, and I've heard other moms talk about how they used pacifiers with no problems, or they prefer c-sections to vaginal births.<br><br>
Of course, after the meetings you can stand around, have refreshments and talk about things like homebirth, homeschooling, cloth diapers, pediatricians, what have you, so that is always fun. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
19,139 Posts
There is always a "stated topic" ie, "Bringing Baby Home" (establishing a nursing relationship) "Your toddlers nutritional needs" (Extended nursing, early food ideas, etc). We usually spend a bit of time on that topic. But then the Leader always throws it open to anyone who has any questions, concerns, etc... That is often the most lively part of the discussion. Mom's relating their experience, encouraging each other... it's great! The leader keeps it "on topic" in terms of keeping the discussion focused on the breastfeeding aspect of any situation. She doesn't refuse to discuss weaning issues just because the topic is centered on a newborn or anything like that.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
137 Posts
Another LLL member here! I love it--we have a meeting topic, but always have interesting side discussions on the topic. Then we usually go out for lunch afterwards and talk about other stuff related to just being a mom at home... Then there are a couple of the "hard-core" AP moms (like myself) and we get together outside of the league meetings...
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
116 Posts
LLL has been a great place for me to make like-minded friends with young children and an invaluable source of information and support. We meet one evening a month for our regular meeting, which covers a series of 4 topics, one each month. The leader is good at keeping us on track with the monthly topic, but is always open to questions, especially if new people are attending. We always socialize at the end of the meeting.<br><br>
Then, also once a month, we have a morning planning meeting, which is mostly a play group. We discuss a wider variety of topics than just breastfeeding.<br><br>
I always look forward to both meetings and always leave feeling like I learned something new, either about BF, parenting, nutrition, or life in general!
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
9,341 Posts
i am active in our local group. helped it get started up, because there wasnt a "local: one in my area at the time. was the librarian last year, but have passed the torch ( oh my aching back, lol)
 
1 - 20 of 46 Posts
Top