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I didn't with DS1, but I think I'm going to with this one as I discovered (I live amongst the inlaws) that DH aside, I am the only person who thinks extended nursing is just an absolutely terrific idea. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: I was raised in such a manner that I never, never questioned whether or not I would breastfeed and was blissfully unaware that other people might think otherwise until I began nursing DS and ran up against all manner of crap from the inlaws. It was horrible having to deal with them constantly gnawing at me and poor DH had to endure quite a bit of conflict between myself and his family. So, I'm thinking the extra support will be nice. However, the LLL site is currently down! My best friend (also expecting) called the woman who heads up our local chapter, but I'm not going to ask her for the number as I know that the dear has lost it already. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I just started going to LLL meetings again last month. I went to a couple with my first DD for some help with oversupply issues, but now I'm there for the positive atmosphere around breastfeeding. I am tired of hearing about breastfeeding is harder than climbing Everest and enjoying seeing moms nursing their walking talking toddlers very very much <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I am also feeling like my DD (who will be 2.5 when baby arrives) will probably be interested in nursing again, so I thought I'd see if I could loan out "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" just in case!<br><br>
I got some membership paperwork at the last meeting. Why not? It's pretty cheap and includes a magazine <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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I kept meaning to get to some meetings with my other two but never did. I may this time. I would love to get some support for BF twins since people REALLY think that is tougher than climbing Everest<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> . I joined an AP playgoup in my area fairly recently, so that helps too.
 

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I became a member of LLL when dd was 5 months old and attend religiously. The ladies in league are so awesome and that is where I've met all of my friends. It's so important to be around people whose values are similar. I love going to LLL playgroups and seeing nursing babes.
 

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I want to start going but I'm a little nervous. I know I shouldn't be at all. Do you know if DH's can go or is it women only?
 

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I'm sure DHs would be welcome, though I've never seen one attend.<br><br>
I've been going to LLL since I was about 6 months pg. with DD1 - so about 4.5 years now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bigeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bigeyes"> and I love it. I love it before the baby is born - seeing newborns and mamas just gets me in the mood for birthing. I love it when they're teeny, and I love it when they are toddlers. It's just so nice to go and be with other breastfeeding women. I've made some good friends there. I haven't gone in several months since DD2 weaned, though only because I've been really really busy. I'm planning to go again soon, maybe even this week (our meetings are monthly).<br><br>
It's a great resource if you happen to have any problems, and it's a great source of support and nurturing even if you don't.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I want to start going but I'm a little nervous. I know I shouldn't be at all. Do you know if DH's can go or is it women only?</div>
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I know at the LLL by us every 4th meeting is for partners. They usually specify on the meeting roster.
 

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I was 4 months pregnant with Adia when I started going, and I became a member as soon as she was born. I <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> going, because it's somewhere I can get out of the house with dd and talk about things that are important to me. (And she likes playing with the other children... we have a lot of extended nursers in our group.)
 

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I just attended my first LLL meeting last Thursday. I'm so glad I decided to go before I have the baby. They were soo welcoming and I was one of 3 preggo chicks there. (I went with a friend from mothering) We're all due within a few weeks of each other. The group of ladies was really incredible! I had no idea there were so many likeminded women in my general area. Its going to be a huge support for me and I wish that the meetings got together more than once a month!<br><br>
I have to admit it was a bit uncomfortable at first because I have never been around an extended breastfeeder. But I warmed up quickly. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I want to start going but I'm a little nervous. I know I shouldn't be at all. Do you know if DH's can go or is it women only?</div>
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In our area we were told that DH's can't come because some women feel weird nursing in front of other men. Seems sort of contradictory to the message of LLL but I guess if we've got new moms who are trying to work out some sort of bfing issue and would like to practice latch, etc at the meeting it's best that a group of men (albeit breastfeeding supporters) aren't sitting around gawking.
 

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I would definitely recommend LLL to anyone who is pregnant or nursing (or if you have an interest in breastfeeding issues)!! I was nervous about my first meeting too, but everyone was so warm and welcoming that I've continued going and never looked back! I found it helpful starting before dd#1 was born because I'd never really seen women breastfeed, and I got to know the leaders so was more comfortable calling them with questions later on. The support for nursing is so helpful, even if you do have a supportive breastfeeding environment. It's just nice to be around like-minded moms!
 

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I just printed out the meeting info last week. Hopefully I will have a better experience here than I did before I moved. When I had ds, I was basically "banished" from the meeting because I worked. They also were very upset that I was pumping. I never returned. (I had similar experience with an API meeting, so I'm really, really trying to gear myself up for attending....I don't seem to have luck with these meetings!)
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I just printed out the meeting info last week. Hopefully I will have a better experience here than I did before I moved. When I had ds, I was basically "banished" from the meeting because I worked. They also were very upset that I was pumping. I never returned. (I had similar experience with an API meeting, so I'm really, really trying to gear myself up for attending....I don't seem to have luck with these meetings!)</div>
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That's terrible. I'm sorry you had a negative experience! I wouldn't have gone back either. I've always worked, and always pumped, though usually just once a day as I've not had to be away from my babies for more than 4 hours or so in the beginning. I've found LLL really helpful!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I want to start going but I'm a little nervous. I know I shouldn't be at all. Do you know if DH's can go or is it women only?</div>
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At our meetings dh's are always welcome, there's usually at least one and I've seen up to 4 at a meeting before. When I called the first time before I came to a LLL meeting I asked if Dan could come and they said they'd love to have him. He came with me the first time I brought Nathan (when Nathan was 3 days old) and he didn't want to go again but we have many regular dh's who attend. I'd just call you're local leader and ask. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I just printed out the meeting info last week. Hopefully I will have a better experience here than I did before I moved. When I had ds, I was basically "banished" from the meeting because I worked. They also were very upset that I was pumping. I never returned. (I had similar experience with an API meeting, so I'm really, really trying to gear myself up for attending....I don't seem to have luck with these meetings!)</div>
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You know, when I first read the Womanly Art of Breastfeeding I definitely got the feeling that LLL advocates women staying at home to be with their babies. My meeting is not like that at all though - it's a good mix of working and SAHM moms. And they mention at each meeting "if you don't like something you hear please let us know." Which I think is nice.<br><br>
Although it seems that breastfeeding is generally part of a philosophy which includes gentle discipline, child-led weaning, and natural family living (among other things), ultimately the mission of LLL is to support women who breastfeed. Breastfeeding can be mutually exclusive from the rest, and no one should feel excluded because they don't meet some checklist of requirements. Sorry that happened to you - hopefully this meeting works out better for you. Individual personalities can influence the direction of a group.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I kept meaning to get to some meetings with my other two but never did. I may this time. I would love to get some support for BF twins since people REALLY think that is tougher than climbing Everest<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> . I joined an AP playgoup in my area fairly recently, so that helps too.</div>
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Ditto. My best friend is an LLL leader, too, though not in my state, and I feel bad for not having joined up after I had Hannah (especially considering the multitude of issues we had after her jaundice treatment).
 

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I also grew up like you, it was never a question in my mind. My mil didn't love nursing and weaned her kiddos at 6 months. However, they NEVER have questioned me about nursing. They think it is great that I nursed Seth as long as I did. I am very open about it and so they have seen me do it a thousand times! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br>
I have been with LLL since Emma was 3 months old, so 3 years now. I love it. It is such a great support network for me and it is so nice to get together with like minded Mamas!<br>
I am in the process right now of becoming a leader...so of course I would recommend it to ANYONE! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Don't be nervous, it is really a great group! I have seen dh's attend. Actually when I was going with Emma, there was one Dad who always came to the play groups and such b/c his wife worked during the day! But, at our group there have been Dads there a few times. I think it is great for them to go and see what goes on...that we're not just a bunch of weird hippies! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I just printed out the meeting info last week. Hopefully I will have a better experience here than I did before I moved. When I had ds, I was basically "banished" from the meeting because I worked. They also were very upset that I was pumping. I never returned. (I had similar experience with an API meeting, so I'm really, really trying to gear myself up for attending....I don't seem to have luck with these meetings!)</div>
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This makes me so sad because I've had great experiences with LLL, and want everyone to have great experiences too. The leaders/groups I've been with have all been extremely supportive of many different situations that have to do with breastfeeding. I hope this group is more welcoming to you!
 
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