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Make me feel better. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I do think that we are not going to recieve even a single baby gift and we are definitely NOT having a shower. I come from a traditional "No showers after the first baby" kind of family. It's cool, we've allocated our entire tax refund towards stuff for the baby, but it kind of makes me a little sad at the same time that no one really gives a crap about this baby. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">
 

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I really doubt that anyone will throw me a baby shower this time around, and I actually don't mind not having one... I have a ton of baby stuff; any more would just be excess. I will, however, encourage anyone who wants to send over a meal during the time soon after my baby is born (I'm having a c-section so I'll need to take it easy for a couple of weeks).<br><br>
I don't think that people don't care about the baby, it's just that they figure that by the time you make it to #2 or #3 (or more) you really don't need much more... that might not be the case, of course, but people often make assumptions about these things.
 

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First baby, no shower, as far as I know at least.
 

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One friend said she wanted to throw one for me, but I don't think she has followed up to do anything for it.<br>
I am just enjoying gathering things myself. I am digging the knitting I have been doing, and just getting ready in my non-mainstream way. I do know a few people will bring us food, and that will be great. Dh has mentioned that if even it is just snack foods for me, that will be wonderful.
 

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no shower here... don't have many shower-type friends around and my family and good friends are 1000 miles away. don't really need one anyway.
 

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No shower here, either. I also have a strict First Baby Only shower kind of family. I don't want the stuff, but it would be nice to celebrate/acknowledge the baby/pregnancy.
 

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Me neither. Are all of you participating in the Mama Blessing Swap on TP? I was hoping that would make us feel better!!!<br><br>
We celebrate eachother.
 

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No shower here either, because it's a second baby. We don't need anything and we have friends who will definitely bring food. We'll probably have an open house a few weeks after babe is born for family to come celebrate. It's more fun once the baby's here anyway!
 

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Another first baby, no shower.<br><br>
I moved several hundred miles away from the area where I grew up. I don't really have friends here who are the shower-throwing types.<br><br>
I'm a little sad, but I'm pretty much okay with it. My parents and in-laws have been having a lot of fun buying baby stuff.
 

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No shower here either, 2nd babe and no family and few friends.<br><br>
That's ok, I felt a little wierd about the first shower because it was mostly gals from work and I don't even talk to them at this point. Oh well, it was a nice gesture at the time (I'd just lost all of my good girlfriends due to a change in my world views - like wanting to grow up and start a family.).
 

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I doubt I'll have one, and all of my baby stuff is gone (moved 2x since DD was born), so it would have been nice, but I also don't have shower-type friends and DS (dear sis) who would be one to throw one is having a difficult year, so...
 

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I am not either. We have had to get all new stuff since dd is 6.5 and I gave it all away to friends years ago. I do not feel that the baby is being neglected at all. All of my family ( who live across the country) are thrilled about the baby. My sister even made some cd from diaperkit.com.<br><br>
I think that all of these people that do get pg and expect everyone else to buy all of the baby stuff for them are missing the point. It is not about the stuff! That is not where the love for the mam or the baby comes from.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think that all of these people that do get pg and expect everyone else to buy all of the baby stuff for them are missing the point. It is not about the stuff! That is not where the love for the mam or the baby comes from.</div>
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This is how I feel. We are having a third and I don't want a shower. We have what we need and I can't help but feel that a shower is a socially acceptable call for gifts.<br><br>
I do feel that our baby is being celebrated in other ways though. Relatives will come meet her when she arrives and I'm sure she'll receive plenty of doting and material gifts too. I do understand the feeling that subsequent children don't feel as "celebrated" as firstborns but in my family, showers are really about equipping a family (in the material sense) for the new baby. I wouldn't mind another celebration though -- without the expectation of gifts.
 

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No shower for this girl... and I'm totally ok with it. I had a great shower for my first, a mediocre shower for my second, and this time, I'm loving picking everything myself.... everything is to my specifications.
 

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i want one lol!! i had one with all my others but this time i don't think i am having one, i love showers for me lol i don't have parties for me any other time. but some people mentioned on this time but i felt like i was going to have to plan, and do and buy things for it myself and there was just know way!!! i want to be spoiled cause someone loves me not cause i spoiled myself ya know??<br><br>
i don't even know that anyone will bring us food, i sure wish they would tho! but oh well i will make dh cook, and we really don't need much for this baby <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<span>not preg at moment just being nosey as usual <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
I've never had one <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> with my 1st i said i wanted one, i remember saying something along the lines of i'm fat pregnant and horemonal and acheing in places i can no longer see i want to be spoiled and showered with gifts <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
no one did though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> i got some bits for chloe after she was born but none for me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></span>
 

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i wasn't really interested in a shower. i didn't have one for my daughter, and as a second child - i didn't see the need. my daughter was born overseas and we have none of her baby "gear" but i am uncomfortable with the idea of asking someone else to buy those things for us.<br><br>
however, my friend wanted to throw one for us and i felt very rude declining. so we set things up a specific way - my "gift list" consisted of things we wanted to borrow/used - most of our friends have kids my daughter's age and we're really in the minority having a second. i knew people had things in storage and they would happily allow us to borrow them (in the city we all have small apartments and are always happy when someone else can be using thing things we don't want to get rid of, but can't really store!). so that's what we did. and we made the shower about all three of us - my husband, daughter, and myself - to celebrate the new baby. if you asked my daughter and her friends, it was a "maya's going to be a big sister" party.<br><br>
i would suggest that those of you who want a shower but feel odd throwing one for yourself could do the same - invite families over to celebrate and provide a list of things you'd like to borrow. make the siblings the focus (if there are any) and make sure to specify no new gifts - it becomes the theme of the party and sends people on a little wild goose chase to gather things for you.<br><br>
things i will want specifically i will buy new, myself, but things that are less important to me - like an infant carrier since we don't have a car and aside from the trip home from the birth center we'll never have a need for - i'm more than happy to borrow.<br><br>
i got some great books to read, a pump (so all i need is to buy the new parts for it), a stokke highchair (which my daughter has adopted already), car seat, and loads of clothes! i'm happy because it means less waste in the world, and my friends are happy because they "showered us with gifts" and emptied out their closets, too!
 

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same here
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> No shower here, fourth baby.
 
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