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I loath the whole "black Friday" thing. My intention every year is to spend absolutely no money today. I do actually have to pick up my sons raw milk which is delivered to the local HFS today. But I think supporting my local farmers is a reasonable exception<br><br>
My DH and I don't give each other gifts. I try to limit the amount of stuff we get DS. I get my mom a little something to pretty up her room at the nursing home. I donate money in their name to a food bank for the rest of the list.<br><br>
Anyone else battening down the hatches against consumerism?
 

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We always plan to spend less and I suspect we spend a lot less than many of my coworkers, friends and neighbors but it's tough. There's so much out there to temp us I guess. I do hate shopping which is kind of a good thing. We buy almost all clothes second hand thanks to wonderful second hand places here. I also have no qualms about buying brand names if they've been paid for once before <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I'd avoid them in the store if I had to buy new.<br><br>
Oh, and I'm Canadian so no Black Friday fo rme <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I shop for xmas, and will do online shopping today, but you couldn't pay me enough to go into a store today. Nothing at all is worth fighting with psychopaths pushing and shoving each other over tvs and toys.<br><br>
I'll spend the better part of the day in front of my computer making sure my online prices are staying competitive and ensuring myself a good 4th quarter bonus. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Yesterday I ranted about Black Friday and all the people rushing to get into stores at 5am, then woke up this morning even more resentful because I think that I've finally hit the point of <i>needing</i> a maternity pillow. Sleep last night was horrible and I kept waking up uncomfortable and in pain. I really miss back sleeping. But there's no way I'm setting foot inside Macy's today, which is the only place that I've seen the full-size body maternity Boppy. I might go to Park Slope in a little bit to check the maternity boutiques there and get lunch. I'm thinking it should be far less hectic than midtown and I've been meaning to try on different slings before my tummy gets any bigger (I am much with the growing these days).<br><br>
So I feel like a sell-out, but I think I'm caving. At least they're locally-owned boutiques and I'm looking for something to help me sleep better tonight rather than the newest plastic blinky thing.
 

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I hate shopping, period.<br><br>
I'm actually happy this year because DH's side of the family is doing all shopping off of wish lists. So I know exactly what to get everyone. I've already picked out my online purchases though I haven't ordered them yet. Maybe I'll actually do it today. It's nice to know that this year everyone will actually like their gifts <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
Also, my mom has kind of indicated that she and my dad don't need any gifts. Which is kind of embarrassing for me because for the last TWO years DH and I never got around to giving them gifts. Last year we bought some but we were to embarrassed to even mail them. The gifts sucked. I don't have a clue what to give them. I asked my mom and she said they didn't need anything. I am happy with that but also a little unsure and feel ashamed.
 

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I refuse to shop on Black Friday... I spent each Black Friday during HS and college on the other side of the register working, and there's no way I want to relive those days! I'm at work today with the rest of the skeleton crew taking it easy... might do a bit of online shopping on my lunch though, since it seems that Amazon has dvds crazy cheap this weekend.
 

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<i>Never</i> in the stores, but a little bit online. Old Navy...I couldn't pass up their jeans sale. I used my shopathome.com link and will be getting 20% of my purchase back via a check in the mail. I also used a 10% off code & got free shipping so my family is all stocked up on jeans for the next size up.<br><br>
The best thing is that once they outgrow them, I take them to the local consignment shop and they give me $6 credit for each pair of Old Navy jeans. So all together, after the 10% code & 20% back from shopathome.com, they cost me $7.20 a pair. This means for about $1.20 a pair ($7.20 purchase price - $6 credit from consignment store), I have outfitted my boys in brand new jeans for a year. The makes my pocket book very happy.<br><br>
Oh - and their maternity jeans are on sale for $15! So sale price + discounts = $10.80 a pair for maternity jeans. I can wrap my head around that. Hmmm...I wonder what the consignment store will give me for those once I am done with them.
 

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I do not shop on black Friday and do not shop a lot in general. I pick up my kids clothes at a consignment sale. I also picked up a few toys this time. I like the consignment sales because I feel like I'm reusing what is already out there and not buying something brand new. This will be the first year I will try with toys. I don't think my kids will care one way or the other.
 

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I am Canadian so we have our "Black Friday" on Boxing day after Christmas. DH and I rarely go out anymore, unless we have a big ticket item to purchase... which is rare. We might go out later in the week but usually don't end up with much stuff.<br><br>
Honestly DH and I are pretty frugal but I for the most part I would rather spend the extra cash to go when I can think straight. That is why I would never go unless I had a specific item in mind. We did that one year and got a DVD player (when they were expensive).
 

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Another Canadian here - so no sales for us yet. I don't like shopping anyway- I buy anything I can second hand or swap it on freecycle... shopping in malls drives me insane LOL. It's nice because my family (siblings and mom) tend to either make something for each other for Christmas, or find something special at second hand stores. We never end up spending a bunch - but they are always thoughtful presents. Unfortunately DH's family is another story. They like their material goods - but I don't cave and give them a handmade item, which they seem to appreciate. DH has also changed his attitude toward Christmas spending over the years and has pared down when buying for them. He actually has started helping me make whatever I am working on. I think this year it's a little more important to him since the baby is on it's way!!
 

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What is Black Friday? In Australia it is any Friday the 13th.
 

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I worked OTH today, so one good reason not to attend the sales. Reason #2 = crowds - can't stand them. Reason #3 - we are making a family effort to cut back this year, partly out of necessity and partly out of wanting to give our kids more than objects for the holidays. We're taking some of the money we'd normally spend on gifts and will be taking a 3 day mini-vacation in January instead.<br><br>
And to the poster referring to the pregnancy pillow - I dug mine out of the guest room closet a few nights ago, and then wondered why in the world I ever put it away?! LOVE that thing!!
 

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merchants and the media have used it instead to refer to the beginning of the period in which retailers go from being in the red (i.e., posting a loss on the books) to being in the black (i.e., turning a profit). it is the 'kick off to christmas'.<br>
i get how lots of us are opposed to going and think it's crazy, but i actually love it. when i was younger, my mom, aunts, grandma and my cousin and i (same age) would go up and shop. we had a blast...we would listen to the christmas music, shop, go for lunch, ect.<br>
i think if you want to shop for people on your list and you don't have any 'set' item on your list it can be a great time. i actually went today with my grandma and i bought stuff for the baby. usually the lines go quickly and if you don't need a certain item...there is nothing to fight over...i wouldn't do that.
 

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I actually went shopping on Black Friday for the first time ever this year: my sister needed some diet coke <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">, and we needed to get some new Phase 10 cards to keep us busy while I waited for a doula client to call back in active labor (unfortunately for her, I'm still waiting!). We pulled up to Kmart at about 10:30am, and were in and out in probably 15 minutes. I guess all the crazies had gone home by then <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">.<br><br>
For Christmas in general, we get each of our kids one small thing. DH and I don't exchange presents either. We draw names on my side and his side among the adults; after our new little one arrives next year, we'll have enough cousins on both sides to draw names among the kids, too (just one more reason to have another baby!). One big improvement this year: in years past, at DH's grandmother's house, we bought small ($5) gifts for each person (20 people), which meant spending $100 on crap and coming home with a basketful of scented candles and homemade beef jerky. This year, each adult is bringing a $15 gift, and we're playing a number-drawing/present swapping game. So, only $30 spent, and only one scented candle to bring home <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">!
 
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