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Hello everyone, I'm new at this and for some reason I feel the need to let my frustrations out on someone other than my husband. Well first of all, I was blessed with a son on Aug. 15,2006. There were several complications just before and still from this day from my pregnancy. It had been 10 years since my last child and I knew I was in for a different experience, but still was soo excited. About 2 weeks before our due date which was Aug 22, I started feeling more sluggish than ever, my blood pressure would either be too low, or it would get a little high. Durring my pregnancy my pulse ran between 100-130 bpm, I'm in the med. field and thats pretty high esp. at rest. Well anyways I had went to see my OB and I measured 40 wks. I had told him that I hadn't been feeling good and started to also develope migrains. He estimated the baby to be over 8lbs at 38wks and brought up inducing the following week. He gave me the option, but my husband told him that he was the doctor and he should know what was best for me. The OB stated that since I hadn't dropped and he measures big that if we waited 2 more weeks he would gain another pound and be harder on me. So of course, we agreed on the induction. On aug 15 at 8am the patosin was started and I started having contractions. The OB broke my membranes to get things going faster. Well about 3 pm I had only dilated to a 4 and stayed that way until he came to check on me around 5pm. He told the nurse that If I had no progress within the next hour, that we would have a c/s. It was about 6pm and I started dilating. About 7pm the nurse said I was crowned and made me start pushing. The ob got there and the baby was +2 and hadn't dropped in the birthcanal. I pushed for over an hour and they finally said the baby was sunny side up, meaning turned up and diagnally. Throughout the whole ordeal the baby and my b/p would drop then gradually come back up. I was in soo much pain and told him that the baby was not comming out. We finally ended up with an emergency c/s. (and this is only the beginning) I remember hearing one of the med. drs. in the surgery room mention something about my heartrate being high esp with all the pain meds ect. Well I was released and went home on fri. Felt sore, but excited to bring Brayden home. It was two weeks to the day, I was breastfeeding my son about 3 am and I felt like I was urinating on myself, I moved the baby and blood was everywhere, it would not stop. I quickly put him on the bed and called 911, I began yelling for my 15 year old and she woke up in and screamed when she seen all the blood running down my leg. She grabbed the baby and the keys and took off to the hospital. 911 was on the phone with me but It would of took longer for an amb. since i live about 2 miles from the hospital. I ran in the hospital screaming "someone help me". They rushed me in the back and immediately began an IV. The ER Dr. stated that he wasn't going to let me die and sometimes after birth things like this happen. But he also said that it was common with natural births and not c/s. He called surgery for prep for a DNC- thinking that maybe part of the placenta was left. My husband finally made it there from work(nightshift) I still continued to bleed non stop for atleast an hour. All my family was there and could not believe the amount of blood that I was loosing. My Ob then got there and examined me, at that time I passed a grapefruit size clot, and the bleeding slowly stopped. Not only did the ER room looked horrible but my house looked like a crime was committed. My feet prints all over the hard wood floors throughout the house as I had scramble for help. Well my Ob called off the surgery and stated I was fine and just needed observation for the rest of the day. They admitted me and he had the nurse walk me during the stay to see if I would bleed again. I had some spotting but that was it. The following Thurs. (3wks after birth) I had an appt with my OB and we discussed what happened, he did not do any exams nor Ultrasounds on me. Just looked at my incision. I asked him If I was going to bleed like that again and he stated "there are no garauntees in life, but more than likely not, that it usually happens 2 weeks out. he asked If I had done any vigourous activity and I said no. Well that day I felt ok, little weak still from the week before. About 6 pm my husband was getting ready for work and I told him that while I was breastfeeding I felt lightheaded and faint. He said just to keep an eye out on it. About 8 pm i pumped my breasts and almost fainted. I called my mom and explained what happened. She stated that I was probably still weak and to supplement with formula. Well The baby and I fell asleep and It was about 1am when I started feeling cramping and something leaking out of me, I was soo scared to get up and check what it was but I had to. Sure enough, I was bleeding again, this time it didn't seem as bad but blood still ran down my legs. I calmly went into my daughters room and woke her up, I said "its happening again" she woke her 11 yr old sister and covered the baby and said "lets go mom". I told her to let me call my OB first. I called him and told him we were on our way to the hospital. He stated "just lay down, let it pass, once the clott passes you'll be fine". I said ok. I laid down and blood still was comming out. My 15 yr old yelled at me and said "your going to the hospital, forget what that stupid dr said" I called him back up and told him I was going, and you know what he said? "if that's what you want to do than do it, It will be just like last week" I said my girls are watching me bleed and my husband is not here and Im going. I got to the ER and the nurse examined me, I had stopped bleeding, but she seen a large clot occluding my vagingal area. It took about an hour to get a room and then another hour for the patosin and all the IV's. My husband got there and I told him that I would be fine just to take the baby home and my mom would stay with me. Well he left and a nurse came in with a breast pump and asked me to pump. My mom left the room to chat with nurses in the hallway. I was scared to get up because I had a feeling that once I did, that i would immediatly start bleeding. Well sure enough as I sat up I pushed that large clott out and began bleeding. I began to feel faint, SOB, disoriented, confused and began screaming. The nurses ran in and began vitals. my b/p was 75/50. I had been internally bleeding the whole time, the clott kept it from comming out. I began to go into shock, and they called the code team in. My b/p kept dropping, I went into seizure, became unresponsive. I vaguely remember my mom at my bed side crying "don't leave me" "don't die". Then I blacked out again, and when I woke up there was my husband and about 10 nursing hovering over me with iv's and another ob instead of mine. He called for an ultrasound and heart monitor on me. He said I had several clotts inside. He pushed several out and the bleeding still didn't stop. I told him that this had happened the week prior. Finally my ob gets there and was freaked out to see what was going on with me. This is the Dr that told me to lay down and it would pass. He was speechless. I received 5 units of blood and my b/p went up a little. I had witnessess see the other ob asking my ob in the hallway "what where your procedures last week? my ob stated well she did fine and I just sent her home. He then asked him "well what are your procedures now? my ob stated the only thing to do is an emergenty hysterectomy. Well from this day I still am having problems, lots of pelvic pain, some spotting, had to see a urologist. I should be going back to work next monday, but I still feel in my heart that there is something wrong with me. I don't trust him anymore, Just think If my daughter didn't make me go to the hospital, I would of just lyed there and internally bled to death. I thank God for giving me a second chance and next week I have an appt with a new ob. Do you think this could of been prevented or was this just a freak accident? sandra
 

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Sandra - I am so sorry this has happened to you. Thank God for your very wise daughter listening to her own intuition instead of that of the "expert".<br><br>
I would definately get a 2nd opinion on everything. I don't think you need to go back to your ob if he isn't willing to listing to your very valid concerns.<br><br>
Take care of yourself...
 

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Wow, that is some scary stuff. I am so sorry you had to go through all that, especially with a crappy ob. I am praying for you. Thank goodness for your daughter!!
 

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I am so sorry this has happened to you. Feel free to vent away. If I were you I would probably like to examine my medical records as well.<br><br>
If you really want to know who is to blame I can spot several things in your story that were red flags to me. The ER doc was wrong about hemmorhaging happening more with natural birth. It is a well known complication with c/s. Your own OB scares me. If you want to talk about it some more you can PM me.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I would definately get a 2nd opinion on everything. I don't think you need to go back to your ob if he isn't willing to listing to your very valid concerns.<br><br>
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I echo that! 2nd opinions are SO important. Personally I feel that once your trust is blown to this degree you can never get it back. I would switch OB's without question. He put your life at risk! Please take care...
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> sorry you've had such a hard time of it. And congratulations on your son!<br><br>
I would definitely seek a 2nd, and even more opinions until someone tells you something coherent, takes you seriously, and makes a plan to figure out what's going on once and for all so you can feel well again, and take care of your baby. I would not return to that OB and I would tell him why.<br><br>
Get a copy of your chart from your ER visits and birth to take with you on the 2nd opinion appointment.<br><br>
I do hope you can delay returning to work- it doesn't sound like you're physically or emotionally ready yet- it sounds like you still have a lot of healing to do. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Hope you are able to take it easy and focus on your own recovery and nurturing that little baby.
 

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it sounds like you need another opinion because that dr isn't paying any attention to you or giving you top quality care..
 

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(((((hugs))))))<br><br>
I am emotionally upset and hurt for you just reading it!!!!<br><br>
I would definitely not go back to that OB!<br><br>
Have you considered writing a complaint to the hospital? It might help the healing process...<br><br>
Make sure to take extra special care of yourself...you have been through A LOT!!<br><br>
~Charlene~
 

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Oh, Sandra, my heart goes out to you! I've had my share of (seemingly) incompetant doctors, but this seems to be a significant oversight/mistake on the part of your doctor. I think of the massive amount of interventions imposed on women throughout their pregnancies (most unnecessary) and then to see such a casual dismissal of something so serious.. It just doesn't make sense.<br><br>
I hate to be repetitive, but I would get a second opinion as well. Even if you do your own research online first - see what you can find, and move forward with it. While it's true that this could have been some sort of fluke, the fact that it happened a second time shows true neglience - and it can't be excused.<br><br>
Massive hugs and positive thoughts being sent your way, sweetie.<br><br>
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