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Next Friday is our company Christmas party. It is generally not a night of drunken debauchery or anything, but for the most part people have a couple of drinks. And folks know me enough here to know that while I'm not going to drink 8 shots of tequila and dance on the bar, I DO like my glass of vino.<br><br>
I will be 9 weeks. I would rather tell people, I think, than have rumours and speculation start, but it still seems early. What would you do?<br><br>
(I thought about asking the most recent mama at work about her experience, but her dad owned the company at the time she got pregnant so I'm guessing that things were a little different for her!!)
 

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I'd try to grab a non-alcoholic drink while nobody was watching and pretend it was alcoholic so nobody asked...margarita or something? Or, I'd say I was on a medication or something temporarily where I couldn't have alcohol. I wouldn't disclose at work this early for anything, but that is just me. Its not like its inappropriate or whatever, I just wouldn't want everyone to know yet.
 

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I second just getting a non alcoholic drink and playing it cool. Most likely, no one will notice anything, anyway. I always drink wine with dinner when not pg, and neither of our families seemed to notice anything at Thanksgiving. And believe me, they are watching for signs!
 

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I've told my supervisors. I know it's early, but our company is so easy to work with that it's not a big deal. Plus, we work through school systems and generally have the option to collect unemployment through the summer if we want. So being due early July is pretty good planning, and won't affect my job. Also - since some of our students can become physically aggressive, it's best if they know my situation so they can avoid it.<br>
However, if you aren't comfortable yet, you could just say you took some sinus medicine earlier. That's what I did before I told my family...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I would see about making some kind of "mixed drink" with the soda/juice around. Throw a lime/mint/whatever into it and no one will know the difference! Or depending on how you feel about it, you could sip on the same drink all night. The most recent comprehensive studies say that's ok as long as you keep it to less than 2 a week. I told one of my jobs, but not the other one. It all depends on the atmosphere i guess.
 

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I told my immediate boss, my translator/assistant, and my secretary- the three people I thought needed to know and could help me out since I had to cut my hectic level of activity- and BOY have they been helping. I was so nervous to tell, but I'm SOOO GLAD I did. They've helped me shuffle my schedule and workload around so that I can work from home most days and they've just been so sweet and helpful that I'm sad to be ending my contract in January. And as far as I know, they haven't spilled the beans!<br>
Luckily, there won't be much pressure to drink here at our holiday party and no one will notice if little ol' me isn't drinking because, though I work with lots of westerners, we live in a non-drinking society/culture.
 

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I've already told a few people in my office, and I'm only 6.5 weeks! I told my two closest friends because I found out the day before we had this social outing scheduled, and I was bagging on the social and just wanted to get those two off my back <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Then, I told my boss because we had a few all-day meetings scheduled and I had to keep getting up to pee. I thought he had a right to know what was going on. Then, I told one other friend at work because I was like 15 shades of green when he came into my office to chat one day. So... all in all, a whole bunch of people at my work know, but I'm a big talker and would probably spill it if I had a miscarriage, too... Plus, my office is REALLY family-friendly (that's why I went there after having DS), so everyone's been totally cool.<br><br>
That said, if you don't want to tell, order a soda water with lime, but have them put it in a small glass - call it a gin and tonic and you're done <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I wait tables, and I've told pretty much everyone at work, even though it's really early. There's a lot of heavy lifting involved in the job (carrying tables, racks of classes, heavy pans of dishes) that I shouldn't really be doing, and I've just been so tired that I'm moving slow. So I figure I'd rather tell my coworkers (and have their support and love if it doesn't work out), than have them wondering why I'm such a slacker.
 

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I haven't told anyone yet, but I may end up telling my court partner sooner than everyone else, because I'm starting to get "evening sickness"--not throwing up but feeling perfectly lousy right around 6-7 pm (or, if you prefer--right around when municipal court is going).
 

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I'm torn.<br><br>
I'm afraid in this economy that we might be facing layoffs at some point in the next 9 mo. Ironically this is making me more inclined to tell.<br><br>
I work for a LARGE company who is all about being very careful that things cannot be misconstrued when a layoff happens (last reduction we had we had to take a couple of names off the list b/c the list had come out to be most of our older workers and that could be seen as age discrimination).<br><br>
I almost feel like I'd be safer if they knew.<br><br>
On the flip side all of my mgmt is male, and I already have one employee going out on maternity leave in April, so they may not see this as such a good thing.<br><br>
Thoughts on my situation are very welcome...
 

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I second what others have said - try to get a fake drink. Or, get a glass of red wine and sip on it all evening. Chances are, no one will notice.<br><br>
I have told a couple of close friends at work - one is on the same schedule as me (our first kids are the same age, too!) and we have the exact same due date; the other is having a baby literally any minute now - she was induced either Tuesday or yesterday! I'm otherwise keeping it in the DL, I'll tell my manager at 12 weeks or so.<br><br>
I think I'll have to skip our holiday party...I would be amazed if I feel well enough to go out for an evening social event, dressed up in cocktail attire to boot!
 

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I told everyone litterally the day after I found out. First off, everyone is more understanding and supportive and aren't wondering why I'm so tired and sometimes don't feel well, and if something did happen, why wouldn't I want support from my friends and family and just have to deal with it on our own? That's the way I see it anyways, and also I was just too excited to have to not tell anyone for 3 months.
 
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