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We've decided not to, and I'm so excited! We found out at 18 weeks with DD and while that was wonderful, I'm thinking waiting until birth may be even more so.<br><br>
So who else is waiting? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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Me! I'm not going to get any ultrasounds unless it's medically indicated.
 

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we're trying to hold out too. Same situation with us as OP, we found out with DD, but now I've got a girl, whatever else we have is great!
 

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We are not finding out. I have never found out and thought about it this time but decided to not! It's fun not knowing untill the big day!
 

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I think we're holding out over here, too. We're having an ultrasound on Friday, but don't plan to find out the sex. I'm hoping in the heat of the moment we won't change our minds. It's awesome to think we could know what we're having in just a couple of days, but I think it's even better knowing it will be another beautiful surprise on the little one's birthday! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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We're not planning to find out though I must admit I'm having second thoughts... I'll be glad when our next (and last) ultrasound is over and done with so that the temptation is gone!<br><br>
We didn't find out with DS and I wasn't even curious. He was just "baby," my first and so kind of an abstract idea and so totally sex-less. We didn't even think to look for several minutes after he was born. My mw put him on my chest, bum up, then immediately put a towel over him. I just stared in awe at his little purple head until it was time to cut the cord (we delayed) and then said, "oh yeah, I guess we should see if it's a boy or a girl!!!" It was really funny.
 

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We're not! But like JessieBird I'm starting to have second thoughts...a part of me wants to know because I admit I am not good with surprises! I was always snooping for gifts and begging for clues because in a way not knowing freaks me out and I worry that I won't react the right way(yeah I know it's totally neurotic!) LOL!<br><br>
My sisters baby shower was like an explosion at a Pepto factory even though she spread the word that she didn't want pink! Seriously everything said "Princess" on it or was covered in hearts, bows and ruffles! It was intense.<br><br>
I know that my MIL is freaked out that we are not finding out because "how will she know what to buy??" so when I see her next week I'm going to drop major hints that we would like lots of organic things, most of them are gender neutral so that's pretty easy.<br><br>
Also not finding out caps the spending madness on our end. I've bought 3 things! A sleep sack I found on sale, an organic onesie with and orange squirrel on it with matching hat and an organic swaddling blanket with gray birds on it. I know if I knew what we were having I would be buying a lot more!!
 

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We didn't find out with the last two (the first because they couldn't see, the second by choice). I really liked it that way, and have no regrets about that. It was wonderful finding out for myself at the birth (I told the people attending that we didn't know, and wanted to look for ourselves rather than have it announced).<br><br>
People managed to buy us plenty of gendered stuff - it just arrived after the birth, and we got by quite well for the first week or so on the neutral (or *gasp* wrong-gendered) stuff we already had. And I really like green, anyways.<br><br>
I'm not totally decided this time. We're moving before the birth, and knowing what we want to keep, hand-me-downs we want to accept, and so forth would be useful.<br><br>
Also, we are having an anatomy screen because it seems sensible, what with planning a homebirth an hour from the nearest NICU, and the idea of other people knowing and not telling me irritates the heck out of me.<br><br>
I think I'm going to tell them that they don't have to search too hard for the sex, but if it's obvious, give me a picture and let me interpret it myself.
 

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We are not finding out, although I will do the 20 week ultrasound. I didn't find out with either of my other children-- and just loved the surprise. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We didn't for the last one and won't for this one. It's the most amazing experience!!
 

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We found out with the first two but have decided not to this time. With my first two I just HAD to know. This time, I don't really care that much. It'll be fun!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">We're not! But like JessieBird I'm starting to have second thoughts...a part of me wants to know because I admit I am not good with surprises! I was always snooping for gifts and begging for clues because in a way not knowing freaks me out and I worry that I won't react the right way(yeah I know it's totally neurotic!) LOL!<br><br>
My sisters baby shower was like an explosion at a Pepto factory even though she spread the word that she didn't want pink! Seriously everything said "Princess" on it or was covered in hearts, bows and ruffles! It was intense.<br><br>
I know that my MIL is freaked out that we are not finding out because "how will she know what to buy??" so when I see her next week I'm going to drop major hints that we would like lots of organic things, most of them are gender neutral so that's pretty easy.<br><br>
Also not finding out caps the spending madness on our end. I've bought 3 things! A sleep sack I found on sale, an organic onesie with and orange squirrel on it with matching hat and an organic swaddling blanket with gray birds on it. I know if I knew what we were having I would be buying a lot more!!</div>
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Though we are finding out (this Friday, actually!), I am so with you on all of the above. I'm anti-princess/pink stuff and blue/football/trucks clothing! I worry that knowing the gender will make people buy all of this hideous gendered clothing. I love yellows and greens, and I just don't like character-wear. I thought about finding out and refusing to tell the family, but I just don't know if that will fly. Plus, my MIL can't keep a secret and will do what she wants to do gift-wise in the end. I hope they all bring gift receipts! (evil laugh)<br><br>
I've been shopping for gender neutral clothes at the Goodwill, and I bought a blue sweater the other day for a $1. The saleslady smiled knowingly and said, "Oh! You must have a little boy on the way!" Haha.. The horror of putting a girl in a blue and brown sweater is just too much for some folks, I suppose.
 

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We found out with DD and we are NOT finding out this time. It is exciting to do something different. Everyone I know thinks it is hilarious that I found out once but not this time! I feel more patient this time I guess.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">We found out with DD and we are NOT finding out this time. It is exciting to do something different. Everyone I know thinks it is hilarious that I found out once but not this time! I feel more patient this time I guess.</div>
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This is so similar to me. People find it weird that we found out once and not now. Motherhood has definitely changed me so I suppose that has something to do with wanting to wait.
 

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We didn't know with our last two and won't be finding out this time. Part of me kind of wants to because I have two boys and want a girl but then again, it was the coolest thing to announce the babe's genders the last two times myself. No matter the sex, I'll still be happy.
 

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We've decided to wait. I always thought we would, then when I got pregnant I had a strong premonition of girl and suddenly wanted to find out. That has passed, though, and we are back to waiting.
 

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we aren't doing any sonograms unless medically indicated...so yes, we're waiting! I think it will be an awesome surprise for Dh and I to discover the sex of our baby together, on baby's birthday <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> It's one more special thing to add to what I know will be an amazing day for us!
 

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We are waiting! We waited last time and it was the best feeling in the world to hear DH announce that it was a boy (he caught the baby). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">
 

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I'm just going to flip the answer here, and say that we're finding out so that I know what to buy! But not for the baby <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I have a boy and a girl already, and this will be my last child. So I need to know which of my older two will get sturdy the summer clothes that will be handed down, and which is going to get a cheap 'n disposable summer wardrobe!<br><br>
I also have to start planning on which is going to be sharing a room. Baby will be with us for a few months at night, but naps will have to be in the crib. Long gone are the days when I'll be able to nap with the baby <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> DS is young enough that he doesn't have a clue what's going on, but DD will have to be prepared a bit if there's going to be a crib moving into her room.
 
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