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I plan on waiting for the surprise. I didn't want to find out with dd but dh and my whole family were adamant. This time I am not caving but I am sure that the anticipation will kill me. I am also leaning towards another girl even dh thinks its a girl but theres always a chance!<br><br>
If you haven't found out before how did you handle it? Did you share or do you plan to share names? Did/will you nickname the baby while in utero? Anyone else keeping a surprise that did find out before? Do you have a guess now? Did you guess correctly before?
 

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I plan on finding out but I just wanted to say I applaud your patience!! I envy people who say they have no desire to find out cause I'm already dying to know. I'd consider doing it for any subsequent children though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> Originally my husband wanted it to be a surprise but thankfully he's changed his mind. I could not have handled keeping that a secret!
 

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Haha, thanks no applause needed though because I am strongly battling my patience <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">. I found out at 16w with dd. But having to pay for it out of pocket this time is considerably less attractive and this may be our last baby.
 

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I would love to know, but don't want to find out.... if that makes any sense at all! At any rate, we won't be finding out the gender until the babe make his/her arrival in the world.
 

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Originally I didn't think I wanted to know but the further along I get the more I want to find out. I am not having a great pregnancy and a little perk midway through would be nice.
 

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I have guess correctly both times and we did not find out the sex. This time around I think it is going to be harder but I also still want that surprise at the end. We are also paying out of pocket but we select to have 1 U/S done bc of what happened with DS1. We know we do not need it but it gives us peace of mind.<br><br>
With DS1, we gave up the names and I had a couple of negative responses about our girl name but I am staying firm on it as it is still our choice if this bean is a girl. With DS2, we did not give up the boy name bc we had 2 (1 his and 1 mine) and we cannot agree which to use as the first name and I did not want anyone to influence the choice. BTW DS2 was not named for 30+ hrs bc we still could not agree. I am thinking that I want to keep the boy name a secret this time as well. I already have gone through the name book and DH does not plan to any time soon. I will have a boy name agreed upon before labor this time.<br><br>
I call this LO BB3 (Baby B, our last name, 3 since it is our 3rd), Peanut, Little Bean. I have no feeling yet on the sex of this LO. With my boys there was just this feeling and it never went away.
 

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I have no desire to know and won't be finding out until birth. We did not find out with DS and I really loved the surprise, especially having DH look and announce the gender when he was first born. Even though I have the ability to know it wouldn't change how connected I feel to this pregnancy and baby, and I love preserving some mystery. I'm not into gender specific clothing or a nursery or anything like that so that doesn't make a difference either.<br><br>
We usually pick a handful of names for either gender but we don't decide on one until birth, for DS we still hadn't settled on girl names so it's a good thing he was a boy. We shared our names with others. We did not nickname DS and probably won't nickname this baby, we just refer to it as "baby". I felt very strongly that DS was a boy but toward the end I was prepared to expect either gender, this time around I don't have a feeling one way or the other and would love either.
 

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We didn't find out with our last two children (because we didn't have an ultrasound), but honestly - we were so sure that dd2 was a girl and ds2 was a boy that it wasn't even a surprise. It was sort of like, "Ah, you're finally here." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> I'm pretty sure we're going to find out this time. For some reason, I just feel like we need to check everything out with this baby this time. There is absolutely no way I could walk in for an ultrasound and say, "No - don't tell me." So, if the baby cooperates, we'll find out. I did know with the first two, and it was just as special finding out at 20 weeks as it was at 40!
 

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I'd like to know for the simple pleasure of preparing BEFORE baby arrives. I've done both (found out, and not found out) and the upside to finding out is that I don't have to try and go out postpartum to shop for baby because I want some gender specific clothing. Or worse, everyone else shopping for baby and me not getting to at all. I love to pick things out for my baby :) With all that said, I will still wait to find out. I love the moment of birth where hubby tells me the news :)
 

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We've never found out before they were born and don't plan to this time either. I was pretty sure my last baby was a girl b/c my pregnancy was exactly the same as the previous two (girls). We don't really pick out names until I'm full term b/c we NEVER can agree until we have to, lol. As for preparing, with my first pregnancy I bought some girl stuff, some boy stuff, and some neutral stuff. I opened and washed the neutral stuff and waited till after the birth to exchange the items I didn't need. Since we've had three girls I have lots of girl things so I will go and buy some boy clothes to have on hand. Oh and for some reason, it doesn't bother me to wait till birth to find out the gender of my own children but it DRIVES ME CRAZY if someone else does this--I'm not patient when it comes to my friends <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We didn't find out with ds1 and we won't be finding out with this one. I've only ever known with the adoptions.<br>
I've only gotten very little flack about it, but maybe it's my personality. People usually don't give me much flack. I'm sorta the don't-back-down type. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
When my friends asked me if I was going to find out with this one and I said no, they just said that as soon as I was feeling up to it, they were giving me a shower. If it's a girl, they're giving me a "huge party with no boys and all pink." As my friend put it, I'll be swimming in pink. Gee, do you think they want me to have a girl?<br>
I also fear that if I had an u/s and it showed a girl people would go even crazier. I swear, the hardest part about having all boys is being pregnant and people wanting to know what you're having.<br>
When ppl asked me what I was having with ds, I just looked them in the eye, and with a confused look, said, "a baby!"
 

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I did not find out with my daughter and I won't with this bean either.<br><br>
I never had a sense when I was pregnant with my daughter whether she was a boy or a girl and I don't have a sense this time.<br><br>
I kept names private with her and will do so again this time around. Insofar as nicknames, things like "the bean" and "the peanut" and such do just fine.
 

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I found out the previous two times, but I'm not this time.<br><br>
I think the suspense will kill me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Not planning on finding out this time, and honestly I have no desire/need to. Since we don't really do gender specific there is no need for planning... baby will sleep with us so we don't need a nursery, etc..<br><br>
We did not find out with DD1, and it is in my most favorite memories ever to have DH announce to me that we had a daughter <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
His condition for DD2 is that he wanted to find out. It was just so anticlimactic... We already knew she was a girl, had a name picked out, etc... she was even born on her EDD. I really missed the anticipation and surprise.
 

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I'm all for the big surprise at the end<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Actually with my ds I asked if I could look for myself to see the gender(it was a c-section), and the nurse ruined it by saying what it was.<br><br>
This time I'm planning a homebirth with a midwife and one of my greatest joys will be looking myself to see the sex. Like opening my own present<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
I've never been good at predicting, but both times my mil was sure of the sex from the beginning of each pregnancy, and she was right<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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We didn't find out what we were having when we had DS, and we're not going to find out this time either (unless we find out it's twins... then I'm going to need to know.)<br><br>
With DS, I had a strong feeling that it was a boy all along, and I was right. This time though, I'm not really getting a vibe at all. Dunno what that means. Maybe I'll start getting a feeling about it later on.<br><br>
We went into labour with a short-list of 3 boys names and 3 girls names. I don't really like the idea of having a name firmly picked out until I actually see the baby. So when DS was born, we looked at him and decided which of the three names we had narrowed it down to fit him better. We will likely do very much the same thing this time.<br><br>
As for whether it's hard or not, sure it was! I had three ultrasounds, all at or later tha 21 weeks. So I could have found out the sex easily if we had wanted to. But somehow the excitement of finding out on his birth day won out.
 

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Oh I think my family would kill me we have 9 granddaughters between me and my two sisters... this is gbaby number 10 and all eyes are on us for a boy.... I think if I made them wait longer they'd hurt me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hide.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hide">: I will have to think on that though.... it would be neat.
 

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We are waiting. We did not find out with dd and I liked that, though I really felt like I knew it was a boy all along. But this one I'm still not sure about. We did have some funny nicknames that rhymed with our last name with dd. They weren't really the names we were going to name him (or her if it was a her) but it made everyone laugh because we didn't share our names with anyone! Will probably do something similar with this one. Still sort of referring to it as "it" though. I don't think he/she minds...it knows I love it!!
 

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We can't easily find out as we're using a DEM, no ultrasounds unless we really think it's needed for some reason. Men in my husband's family seem to almost exclusively father boys though, and according to Shettles boy seems likely there too. It'd be cool to have a girl for a change but boys are wonderful and that's probably what we're getting.
 

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I think so and I think I am in the same boat! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I may do the 20w U/S I haven't decided. I would like to know, but It doesn't really matter, it will be what it will be! I'm just tired (already) of calling him/her "it" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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