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Ok....finally I have a chance to sit and hopefully get some advice from like-minded people about the issue I am having.<br><br>
Dd is 28 months and nurses all the time. For some reason for the past I'd say 3-4 months I can't stand it!! Really I can't stand anything near my nipples at all anymore! I know for sure that I am not pregnant, so that can't be the problem. I just cringe everytime she wants to nurse. Since she does nurse so much and she is a little older now I try redirection and 'sometimes' it works, but she is a VERY strong-willed child....so usually I just nurse her everytime she wants. I really planned on child-led weaning and I still do (well I don't have a choice b/c she is so strong-willed and nursing is so important to her that it would be tramatic to wean her, so thats not an option). She still wakes up a few times at night to nurse and I HATE it. I think another one of the reasons I get so annoyed is that she has to switch sides constantly while she nurses, that is a habit I let go on from when she was an infant...<br><br>
So, I don't know if I should just suck it up and deal with it until she weans (which I am sure she will be at least the 4-6 yr range at least). Or will this phase pass? HELP!! I going crazy!!
 

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My ds is 26 months and still likes to nurse too. I have been reluctand lately and some times just cant stand it. I have decided to night wean as that is REALLY driving me crazy since he latches on and won't let go and I can't sleep comfortably all night. Im hoping that stopping that will allow me to be ok with daytime again. I wish I had more advice.
 

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I've found this article helpful: <a href="http://www.askdrsears.com/html/2/t022900.asp" target="_blank">alternatives for the all-night nurser</a><br>
It's specifically about night weaning toddlers. I like the advice "If you resent it, change it," because it reminds me that I don't have to just put up with a situation that's making me unhappy.<br><br>
I also occasionally get really annoyed by my ds's nursing, and he's down to 1-2 sessions a night. Sometimes I just want to yank him off the boob and run screaming down the hall, you know? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wild.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wild"><br><br>
When it just gets to be too much to bear, I usually do de-latch him and offer him an alternative to "niy-niy". That might be walking around and rubbing his back or rocking in the rocking chair or having daddy hold him. I tell him "Enough niy-niy, mommy needs a break." Sometimes he goes for the alternative, sometimes he doesn't. But even if he does get upset, I still feel tons better when I can take a break if I need it.
 

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Thanks!! I am going to try setting some boundries. May-be try telling her she can nurse while I sing a song but when it's over she has to stop....things like that??
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> My DD is the same way! She is so strong willed, and nursing, especially night nursing, is starting to grate on my nerves.<br><br>
During the day I can tell her that we'll sing 2 songs then she's done, and she's OK with that, but night time is a different story. She absolutely will not put up with being told that the milk is sleeping at night. She's a fighter.<br><br>
I think if I could night wean her I could handle day nursing better. If my poor nips could just catch a break! I know that she still needs to nurse, and I have no intention of weaning her, but sometimes I just need a break.
 

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I too have become annoyed with night nursing. Last night, for the first time, I used a suggestion someone mentioned on another thread about using a soft light on a timer. Anytime the light is on, it's ok to nurse, and when it's off, that's when "milk's sleeping, no milk right now".<br><br>
I set the light to turn off at midnight and come on at 2:30am then turn off again at 4:30, etc. Basically on for 2 hours and off for 2 hours and so on. My plan is to gradually extend the off time and decrease the on time.<br><br>
All day yesterday, I told ds what the plan was and what the light meant so he wouldn't be suprised in the middle of the night.<br><br>
I wasn't too optimistic, as ds is very strong willed about night-nursing and has never really took no for an answer, but......<br><br>
It actually went much better than I expected. The first time he woke up it was before midnight, so the light was still on and I "it's ok to drink milk, the light's still on" and let him nurse. However, when he woke up at 1am ish, the light was off and I said "the special light is off, so that means the milk is sleeping, no milk now" he wimpered and asked a couple of times, but then actually rolled over and went back to sleep!!!!! wow.....that's NEVER happened!<br><br>
Anyway, this pattern continued the rest of the night, with a few protests, but I never gave in until the light was on. I was just shocked that he didn't have a major fit like he usually would in the past if I attempted to deny milk in the middle of the night.<br><br>
Well, we'll see how tonight goes. I am cautiously optimistic.<br><br>
HTH<br><br>
Laura
 

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Thanks!! It's going ok. She is doing well with me singing a song etc... But I still have to go through great lengths to distract her onto something else....sometimes I am just too lazy I guess and give in. We will see how she does tonight?<br><br>
Thanks for all the advice!
 

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since I am going thru some older threads I posted, I thought I'd put an update here....<br><br>
it seemed to definetly be a phase (for me) b/c it doesn't bother me like it was.<br><br>
there are times now when I will tell her she cannot nurse at the moment and she may get a little upset, but I am better now at finding a way to distract her or help get her mind off of it.<br><br>
it's better at night too, I think alot of it has to do with her getting older and understanding better.
 

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I find it important to let off some steam sometimes, and when I do, I have a whole new perspective about nursing. When I feel a need to cry, I try to go out in the hallway in the night, or I cry with my husband in the morning. After a good cry (sometimes only 1-2 minutes), I realize that somewhere deep down I feel resentful that my baby gets to breastfeed when I didn't ever get to. I also know that constantly being touched and needed can be "restimulating" for women, since many women have been touched in ways we didn't want to be in our lives. So, my recommendation is to see if you get some new perspectives after giving yourself a chance to have some feelings (and not judging yourself for having them!). You may still decide to make some changes in how often you nurse, but the decision may be a little lighter and easier.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I've found this article helpful: <a href="http://www.askdrsears.com/html/2/t022900.asp" target="_blank">alternatives for the all-night nurser</a><br>
It's specifically about night weaning toddlers. I like the advice "If you resent it, change it," because it reminds me that I don't have to just put up with a situation that's making me unhappy.<br><br>
I also occasionally get really annoyed by my ds's nursing, and he's down to 1-2 sessions a night. Sometimes I just want to yank him off the boob and run screaming down the hall, you know? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wild.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wild"><br><br>
When it just gets to be too much to bear, I usually do de-latch him and offer him an alternative to "niy-niy". That might be walking around and rubbing his back or rocking in the rocking chair or having daddy hold him. I tell him "Enough niy-niy, mommy needs a break." Sometimes he goes for the alternative, sometimes he doesn't. But even if he does get upset, I still feel tons better when I can take a break if I need it.</div>
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Thanks for posting this article. I have been so frustrated by my DD's constant night nursing. I know she isn't hungry, but it is comforting to her.
 

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Just a quick note to suggest that sometimes getting aggravated by nursing is the first sign for a woman that she is pregnant!<br><br>
3 cents from a midwife,<br>
Melissa
 
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