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all the AP moms i know, do not get a good night sleep while all the non-APers get 8-12 hours of sleep (and they're well rested and so are the kids, thus everyone is happy). AP moms have to deal with frequent wakings, DC not be able to self soothe, etc.<br>
it's been over a year of not being fully rested so you may be able to guess what i am thinking about.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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Who are these mythical creatures of which you write? I've never heard of anyone with a child under the age of 2 getting a regular good night's sleep. It is true that children wake more if they cosleep and extend nurse but that does not mean all formula babes and crib babes are sleeping 8-12 hours every single night. That is an exaggeration or a lie. Don't sweat it.
 

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i've gotten tons of sleep! i can nurse in my sleep and i'm a SAHM so if i need to i can nap with my dd. most cosleeping moms i know get lots of sleep.
 

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nope, no lie. i've witnessed it with my own eyes.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I got the best sleep when ds was a little baby. The best of my adult life probably. Until he was about 12 months old it was very hard for me to get up without him waking up...so his bedtime was my bedtime. I wouldn't really wake up when he nursed so I got great sleep. The only time I ever really woke up was in the first couple of months when he would poop in the middle of the night and I would change him, but half the time I didn't remember doing it anyway.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">nope, no lie. i've witnessed it with my own eyes.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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Then you are referring to a small subset since you do not actually know all the non-APers. Take it from experience. There are mamas out there who are not getting a good night's sleep and are not APers and there are APers who are getting good sleep. But, generally, cosleeping and extended nursing at night do prolong the time baby wakes up at night. Night weaning and putting baby in her own bed do help them sleep through the night sooner. Not a guarantee, but it is more likely. However, AP is a committment. This too shall pass. My 4 year old was finally in her own bed as we brought a new baby home in June. So, I guess I have another 4 years of not sleeping through the night! Just kidding but she did wake up until she was nightweaned at 2.5 years. I hope to wean this baby sooner just so I can get more and better sleep sooner. And, I hope this one will move to her own bed sometime sooner than age 4!
 

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I would get lots of sleep except I get up to pump. DS has slept through the night since 3wo (he's 4mos). He also soothes himself - sometimes I can't get him to sleep but when I lay him down he closes his eyes and sleeps. I also nurse him to sleep and wake up later with a cold nipple from which he was attached!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">does not mean all formula babes and crib babes are sleeping 8-12 hours every single night. That is an exaggeration or a lie. Don't sweat it.</div>
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very true, we have both ff and bf THE SAME BABY, and no sleeping thru the nighht here!<br><br>
Also, some 'non AP' moms bf, so I don't see the real point here except to dig a deeper trench ..<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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My daughter started sleeping through the night (by which I mean, sleeping from the time she went to bed until the time she got up in the morning) when I night-weaned her at 18 months. I remember how glorious it was to finally be able to sleep through the night myself again!<br><br>
I honestly think it might be possible to night-wean my (7 month old) son sooner, but I'm really not sweating it at the moment -- many nights, he only wakes up once anyway, whereas my daughter used to wake up about three times when she was this age. So I'm not feeling particularly sleep-deprived, and I'm enjoying nursing him once in the middle of the night. It's only when his sleep is disrupted and he wakes up two or three times that I get a little loopy!<br><br>
We're not a co-sleeping family; we feel that every member of our family sleeps better when the kids sleep in their own beds, although of course we are extremely responsive to our children's needs during the night.<br><br>
But anyway, yes, I do think that most non-AP families place a much greater value on sleeping through the night, and are willing to use different strategies to make that happen.
 

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I do know several moms who get a good night's sleep, who have kids that are put to bed alone in their own beds and sleep all night. (Whether they are AP or not is up for debate. I personally don't think so, but it's kind of a continuum rather than black and white, YK?)<br><br>
Anyway, these kids also tend to be addicted to pacifiers well into their 3s and 4s, and/or have weird habits to make them feel secure - anything from hair twirling/plucking (and eating!) to get to sleep, to extreme rituals involving how many stuffed animals they need in the bed at all times, blankies, monster checks under bed and in the closet....<br><br>
My AP kid took almost three years to sleep through the night, but at least he's not afraid of the bedroom and doesn't pluck himself bald. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug">:
 

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You know, I sleep better now that I did pre-baby. I've got a decade of insomnia, restless legs, and disturbed sleep under my belt (fibromyalgia and chronic anemia do that). And once I got pregnant, I was suddenly able to sleep. It was glorious. And I can still fall asleep!<br><br>
Sure, I wake up a few times to help DS latch on, but if the bed is big enough, I sleep well. I used to awaken every 20-60 minutes in the old days, but now I only wake up for engorgement or a rooting baby 2-4 times a night.
 

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Sorry <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: I'm sleeping pretty well here, at least for now. My son usually only wakes up once during the night (before 5:30 am) and I barely wake up for that. Then he wakes up at 5:30 or so and usually goes back to sleep by 6:00 and sleeps until 8:30 or 9. Then sometimes I take naps with him during the day...<br><br>
I do have a lot of experience just sleeping when I'm tired, not at a certain time, because I was a shift-worker for many years, so I think that helps. Sorry you're not sleeping well, I hope it gets better.
 

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Borh of my sons nursed all night! My 1st son night weaned at 17 months when I was 4 months pregnant with ds#2- it was soooooooooo wonderful to sleep again through the night for the end of my pregnancy. My 2nd son is 10 months and woke me over 6 times last night! I'm exhausted today. But........ we're still ALL co-sleeping! It sure can be tough at times. I used to be able to nap the next day. Easy to do with 1 child but not always possible with 2!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
Best wishes..... it is hard to be sleep deprived!
 

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just lurking....but doesn't it just depend on the child? dd is 15 months..she slept THROUGH THE NIGHT from 2months until 6 months..and has been up every 2-3 during the night ever since...I thought I was lucky at first..10 hours straight.. one day it will happen again. oh and she slept through the night while cosleeping when she was 2-6 months. I think teeth mess up the whole sleeping sound routine<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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No idea, since I get a good nights sleep every night, even with ds's night nursing. the only times i have bad nights sleep is when ds or me is sick.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">i've gotten tons of sleep! i can nurse in my sleep and i'm a SAHM so if i need to i can nap with my dd. most cosleeping moms i know get lots of sleep.</div>
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All the AP moms I know (including me) get plenty of sleep. I personally thing BFing and cosleeping is easier than waking up during the night, walk to a nursery and make /feed bottle for 20 mins.
 

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My son (10 months) sleeps about 8-10 hours straight. Then wakes up to eat and then sleeps for about 2 more hours and then he is up for the day except for one nap that last anywhere from 45 minutes - 2 hours.<br><br>
We don't co-sleep. If my son wakes up and cries I nurse him, but alot of the time I'll hear him wake up at about 1 a.m. and just play in his crib for about 30minutes and then he falls asleep by himself. He really only wakes up alot during the night when he is teething or sick and needs his mama.<br><br>
I guess that's just the way we've always done it. I put him to bed from day one when he is just starting to nod off and then jerks himself back awake. We have a routine -- I tell him it's time to go to sleep, we go to his room, close his window and blinds, turn on his white noise CD, I give him his blankie that he likes to sleep with and then I lay him in bed, cover him up and rub his tummy a few times and then say "good-night", walk out of the room and close the door. He rarely cries.
 

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Maybe you've already seen this, but this article really helped me when my DD was waking a lot. <a href="http://www.mothering.com/guest_editors/quiet_place/141.html" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/guest_edito...place/141.html</a>
 
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