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Why can't they believe I can CD???

OK, so I just got off the phone w/ my step-mom and I was telling her about 3 cute dipes I just got. And she says "Well, I don't think you will make it thru the entire diaper stage CDing that baby. You are going to get busy and just be tired of washing diapers."
Why did she have to say this? I would think that the newborn stage would be the hardest - going thru sooooo many dipes daily, and still having post partuam exhaustion. I have made is 1 month successfully. Why wouldnt' I make it? What ever happened to *encouragement* ???? My step-mom has alway been very encouraging in everything else I have done as a mother (except ttc # 2 b4 finishing college). But other than that she has been great. So why is she sooooooooo against me cloth diapering?????
 

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It is so sad that people don't get it...
But don't get discouraged - you went through "the hardest" part(diapering a newborn for the first month).
And you won't find anything more fun than CD - I did not believe it I would like it so much until I tried it!! And yes, I only use gold on UBCPFs on my baby...
 

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I'm sorry your step-mom was so negative - it's a good thing you can come to this board for encouragement!! I think you're right, probably the hardest stage to cloth diaper is the newborn stage. I've heard a lot of people say they'll just use disposables for the first few weeks and then they'll switch to cd's - because it's so hard to cd those first few weeks - and you have done it! Big pat on the back for you!
 

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I just have to agree with everyone - don't let her discourage you! It's sad how many people think cloth is so "difficult" and that people won't keep using it. I had my share of detracter before Harrison was born, saying I would only last a couple months, and here I am almost 2 years later, still going strong with cloth and now even CDing TWO!

You can do it!
 

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Thanks ladies

I really am
ing my cloth dipes. I strickly using prefolds/snappis and proraps/prorap colors. I just got some pocket dipes and
them! I have some AIOs on the way from a momma @ the trading post too. I just wish everyone would give cloth a try
 

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My mother-in-law is the same way about cding. We've been using cloth for about a year and a half now and she still occasionally asks if I'm sure about it and if I'd like money to buy some disposables. Ick. Some people just don't get it.
 

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I know what you mean. I'm 5 mos pg, and when I tell people I'll be using cloth, a general reply is "you'll get sick of it", or "I tried that, then dh said 'why are you doing this to yourself' so we started using disposables".
Thing is, these are the people who were likely using cloth for financial reasons only. The cost factor is nice, but my primary reason for choosing cloth is environmental, and the health of my child is also a big consideration. We live in such a wasteful society that every little bit really does help.
I haven't said much to that effect to these people so far (because of my worry I might make them feel guilty about their choices), but I'm at the point where if I have to hear how I'm going to fail again, I will give them the facts, because you know what? They should feel guilty.
Enough ranting from me - pretty cranky for a first post huh?LOL
Mandy
 

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I'm sorry people can be discouraging!! But dont let them get to you. There are so many nay sayers.

My MIL (who I cant stand anyways) said "you wont last a week" Well she was WRONG! We went to visit them on vacation (they live in a dif state) and I was sure to bring my big pail liner and all my dipes and didnt use any sposies. I made sure to wash in her machine too.
 

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I wouldn't worry too much about. We are society all about convience. The concept of actually wanting to wash diapers is weird (when you can just throw it away). My family thought I was nuts until they realized I was serious about it and actually enjoyed it. Now I'm making them into advocates.
 

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Poo on them. They are just *jealous* of your fabulous mommying skills and *insecure* because they settled for less for their own kids.

so there! continue to share the love here where it is appreciated.


xo pam

(and welcome to new poster mherle!!)
 

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Just had to jump in - I had the same reaction from my daycare provider today when I told her that I am about to start cding. She figures that once I am back at work 3 days a wk I won't last a month doing it. Just ignore the naysayers - you know that you are doing the right thing.

Both my mom and MIL are thrilled that I will be cding - they used cloth in the "dark ages" of pins and rubber pants - to hear their stories. We have pics of my mom hanging up dipes in the snow (I had a sensitive tush).

Dh thinks I'm nuts but sees my wish to cd as an extension of being the best mommy possible. He could personally care less about the env. or cost savings of it.

He's come very far though - he even doesn't blink re child led weaning now! I made him tase some of my breastmilk the other day when I was freezing some ebm that was in the fridge. waht a good sport!
 

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ya know, i use words like that as power to push me further! the more my family would laugh at me or tell me "you'll last a day" "you won't get crap done in that house breastfeeding, changing diapers and doing laundry all day" blah blah frigging blah! its been over 2 years and 2 kids now and they all know to just zip their lips in front of me. if i say i am going to do something, I DO IT!
 

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Had to jump in and say my MIL is the same way! She asked what she could buy to help us (she was thinking a baby monitor, a swing, etc.) I told her that we weren't going to be using those baby gadgets but if she really wanted to help she could buy us a package of cloth diapers.

She thought I meant the Gerber cotton prefolds from Wal-Mart.

Once I set her straight on the actual CD's that people use she promptly went to Wal-Mart and put four packages of Huggies Supremes in the layaway.
: You know, "just in case".

There will always be somebody that has to make a negative comment, but for every one of them there are so many more who think what you're doing is really cool.
 

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Originally posted by phishmama
I always love the line about you'll get sick of doing diaper laundry. Yeah, um, 2 extra loads a week is ohhh so taxing!
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I hate doing laundry in general. I still do it though, sheesh.
LOL :LOL This is the same response I use when my MIL and DH's relatives pooh-pooh cloth diapering. I am due in December and have been getting my stash together. I have gotten the "that'll last a week" and " your whole house will stink" yada yada yada.


Thankfully Mom and my grandmother weren't surprised at all that I wanted to CD.
They expected it! I visited my grandmother last week, and she said " What is the problem? Don't these people have a washing machine?" :LOL

Like the OP, I plan on showing them a thing or two- I will CD for the duration.
 

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Slightly OT - but this summer a mama was admiring my Happy Heinys. I was giving her a demonstration and she was ooohing and ahhhhing. Then she says, "so how much does this all cost"? I gave her an approx. figure for HH + insert. She says, "for how many". Her eyes just about bugged out when I said, "a peice". She says, "OMG! OMG! YOU THROW AWAY A $16 DIAPER?!?!?!?! How can anyone afford *that*!" My dh about fell in the floor laughing. So when we said, NO! you wash them, her response was "EWWWWWW! Why would anyone want to do that?" And dropped the diaper like it was toxic.

Unfortunately, I don't think her attitude is too uncommon. The prevelant thought is "why would you do something that requires more work and might be more "icky" when you can have the convenience of a throw-away - it must be a phase until you come to your senses."
 
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