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Be specific please.<br><br>
If you are going to say "because he's loves me" or he is in love with me, great, but I'd like the reasons or qualities you think he fell in love with<br><br>
Be brutally honest. Hey it's an anonymous forum for the most part so you have nothing to lose!<br><br>
Thanks!!
 

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Well, when we met, I was a wild, hot 17 year old. He was a wild haired, wise hippie man who told me lots of very intriguing stories about Dead tour, aliens, philosophy, psychology, etc. It was love at first sight<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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My husband and I married each other because we love each other, and also because we are very compatible in day to day life. We have many of the same values and are flexible on the ones we don't quite share. Neither of us likes to fight and we usually resolve things after some bitching which hardly ever escalates into a big fight. We have fun doing some things together, and are both fine with the other one having activities and hobbies that we don't share. We're also both very creative and understanding of the creative process - if he's writing a poem or I'm doing craft work, we both try not to interrupt the other one until it's a good time.<br>
We also have great sex. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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In all honestly, because:<br><br>
1) He said he loved me.<br>
2) He promised too (i.e. proposed, we postponed the wedding for financial reasons but promised each other that the delay was temporary).<br>
3) I was six months pregnant with his child and getting married provided us with medical benefits that carried us through the rest of the pregnancy and birth (and beyond until we could get on a non-COBRA plan).<br><br>
Sounds so romantic, huh <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I have no idea. He won't tell me. He never would. I ask him why he loves me, why he wants to spend his life with me, and he just says, "Because you are you."<br><br>
At first, this really bothered me. A lot. I doubted his sincerity. But now -- after 10 years of being close to him -- I realize that he tries so hard not to have expectations of me, and tries to give me space to change and grow when I need to. I don't have to *keep* any particular quality in order to keep his affection.<br><br><br><br>
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I asked DH, and he said "for sex" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
No really, he says because of the "way you think" (<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">: ) and because "You're smart...and stuff"<br><br>
*Easy to talk to<br>
*Accepting of his many flaws. (and the fact I have no flaws)<br><br><br>
Honestly, it wasn't that thought out...we just meshed really well, and were great friends.<br><br>
He also added: "You had gaps, and I had gaps, and together we filled the gaps" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:<br><br>
I on the other hand married him because of his wonderful way with sarcasm and sense of humor. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Well he got tired of taking me out to dinner, lunch breakfast. He thought it would be cheeper to marry me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao"><br><br>
Our morals and standards where pretty much the same, ie saving ourselves for our spouse.<br><br>
We both wanted the same in raising/having children.<br><br>
We are both Christians.<br><br>
He couldnt ever seen to find the right gal for him and I coundt find the right guy for me. That is till we met each other. We knew pretty much from about a month of dating we where right for each other. Met in December married May 2. Though we each where thinking about just getting married while we where visiting a town that had a wedding chapel. We had only known each other about 2 months at the time but neither one of us had the guts to mention what we where thinking. My parents probably would have had heart attacks if we would have said surprise! SO wish we would have done the elope thing though. More romantic dont you think?
 

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Because he's an idiot. :LOL I'm not the easiest person in the world to live with and yet he still loves me. Go figure. LOL<br><br>
The reasons he gives are:<br>
Because I love him<br>
Because he feels comfortable with me<br>
He enjoys being with me<br>
Because he loves me
 

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I'm still asking him that question!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
Probably because I seriously creamed him in College Algebra.
 

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Ok, I just asked Mark WHY he married me and he could only say..."because you are a wonderful person."<br><br>
When I asked for specifics he said.." Why? I could not answer that question, because love is not rational, and cannot be defined in actions or words."<br><br>
What a dork <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:
 

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PS. Are you kind of asking, "What do men look for in general"?<br><br>
I think men want women who are self-confident and have interests, goals, and plans of their own. At the same time, men like to be made to feel special. It's a tough balancing act sometimes!<br><br>
It's kind of like, "Wow, she has this wonderful life, and she's willing to make room for me."
 

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Because I like Star Trek and David Bowie.
 

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Because I asked him to.<br><br>
Really.<br><br>
I proposed to him on Sadie Hawkins day 1992.<br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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First and foremost, because he loved me.<br><br>
He wanted me to be the mother of his children (he told me this on our second date, and i was 16!).<br><br>
He promised to love me forever, and never forsake me (i'm serious).<br><br>
Although we are quite different, and almost opposites, we do value each other and our family above all else.<br><br>
I'm 5'10, and he said he likes to look a woman in the eye. he thinks i'm funny, and he likes the way i think....the way my mind works. in fact, he thinks thats sexy (at least thats what he says).<br><br>
after almost 22 years, i'd say we are doing something right. (i'm just not sure what!)
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"> SEX <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><br><br><br><br>
ok, honestly, I am not sure. Maybe I should ask him.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:
 

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Just asked him, he said:<br>
"Because I couldn't live with out you" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I just asked him and he about fell over laughing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/ROTFLMAO.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rotflmao"> Said he didn't realize married sex would be so hard to schedule. haha<br><br>
But, in truth, I remember him saying it was b/c I truly accepted him exactly "AS IS;" ie. w/old t-shirts and shaggy hair and no ambition but to climb. (Funny, he changed all on his own.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch"> )<br><br>
That, and the fact that I'm self confident.<br>
We LOVE each other but don't necessarily always have to "like" each other or seek each other's approval. make sense?
 

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Some of his words--he thought I was out of his league, and he felt very nervous pursuing me for fear of rejection. But he said he had to try and risk getting his heart broken anyway. (There was no chance I'd reject him.) He thought I was beautiful and sexy, but more importantly, he knew I was grounded, normal, and a good person. I guess he felt that wasn't very common in the NYC dating scene. He thinks I'm sensitive, strong, smart, and funny-and obviously those are qualities he likes to be around <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">.
 

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i really have found a lot of insight in the harville hendrix and helen hunt books about finding & keeping the love you want & giving the love that heals to your kids ... and based on that, i think my husband married me because i had enough of his rather domineering mom in my personality to attract him without comandeering his life and sense of self, perhaps allowing him to work through some of the issues he may have with her...<br>
what he has told me in the past is that he thought i was exciting and independent and sexy.<br><br>
okay, so i just asked him and the convo went like this:<br><br>
why did you marry me?<br><br>
b/c you were hot.<br><br>
and...?<br><br>
b/c i admired your qualities.<br><br>
which were?<br><br>
you were intelligent, you thought like me, you were available and you were hot.<br><br>
dear, silly man...<br><br>
susan, who isn't feeling all that hot seven years, 2 kids, 20 pounds and countless gray hairs later...
 
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