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I went to get my hair cut on Sat. with the same guy I've been going to for 8 years.<br>
He has never messed up before. He is very well known and I would say important in the hair industry in Canada.<br><br>
He asked me how I felt about the length and I showed him where I would like it. He cut to there and I said maybe even a bit shorter.<br>
That would have been fine.<br>
But then he started cutting the layers. And cutting and cutting...<br>
Because it was never an issue before, I wasn't paying attention. At the end I was shcked at how short the layers were.<br><br>
The main problem is he always wants to cut my layers with my hair parted in the middle. Except I part it more on the left side. Sowhen I put the part where I want it, my layers are uneven. We've discussed this before.<br><br>
My left side looks "OK" but my right side makes me look like I'm in the Dorothy Hammel fan club....AGAIN! Not a good look for a 36 year old!<br>
Seriously, I have layers above my eye level.<br>
WTH was he thinking?<br><br>
My hair was a bit past my shoulders. I'm very upset.<br>
The first thing DH said was"Well, he finally gave you a bad cut. Don't go back"<br>
Gee, thanks. Not that I don't feel fat and dumpy (pregnant) already-but now my hair is ugly too. Thans a lot!<br><br>
WHY do they cut layers with your hair parted in the middle if that's not wear you put your part? I hate looking uneven!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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I'm sorry you got a bad cut. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Sending quick hair-growing vibes your way!<br><br>
My hairdresser, who I LOVE, always asks me where I part my hair before starting to cut. She's been cutting my hair for over 5 years and still asks me, just to make sure. I think you should find someone who puts more value in giving you the style that you want rather than the style he wants you to have.
 

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I don't know. In my personal experience, I can get a few good cuts from one hairstylist, but then they are working from already cut hair instead of long plain hair, and the style just gets wankier and wankier. So I have to let it all grow out and start all over again. But you had longish hair already. It sounds like he just messed up and kept trying to cut to make it right. Then he decided he was done and was going to call it a 'do. Sorry <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Stay away from the hairstylist while pregnant. That's what I've always heard. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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I think this is one instance where you're going to have to go with the cut, and play it up and use molding wax or something. I'm sorry you feel let down and unhappy with your cut. Complain to the hair dresser.
 

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Amen!<br><br>
Got a cut a couple weeks ago. She whacked off at least 8-10inches "damaged"... NOT! Also, when I ask for layers I don't mean 90% one length and the rest less than an inch shorter. That makes my wavy hair look like a poof ball. Thanks.
 

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Yeah, the guy I went to last time, highly recommended, I took in pictures to show him how I wanted it done - how it was done the last time - and he did a great job, but went shorter then I wanted with way more layers and I've been unable to style it for the past month <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: He styled it great - I looked awesome, but I'm not a hair stylist, and I don't have time to go back and have someone teach me a new style. I wanted my old style dammit!
 

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Oh no! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I hate bad haircuts. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Definitely go back to him, tell him (AGAIN) that you don't part it in the middle, then part it where you part it and have him recut it to even up the sides.<br><br>
I hope he fixes it for you and that it grows out quickly...
 

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What is it about pregnancy and bad haircuts? Hair-stylists should be extra careful during this delicate time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> My DH always advises me not to get a haircut when I suggest it during pregnancy. He remembers my first pregnancy, when I got my hair cut 3 times and hated it all three times. I'm not a violent person....but I broke a curling iron in half I was so angry at my stupid hair.<br><br>
Sorry to hear about your haircut. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Does your hair grow very fast? Can you style it differently (parted in the middle) until it grows out a tad?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't know. In my personal experience, I can get a few good cuts from one hairstylist, but then they are working from already cut hair instead of long plain hair, and the style just gets wankier and wankier. So I have to let it all grow out and start all over again. But you had longish hair already. It sounds like he just messed up and kept trying to cut to make it right. Then he decided he was done and was going to call it a 'do. Sorry <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Stay away from the hairstylist while pregnant. That's what I've always heard. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"></div>
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<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I am so sorry this happened Maple Leaf Mama.<br><br>
My hair is not really all one length and shoulder length with waves. I have been growing it out and I feel so free to no longer need to see my hairdresser every 3-4 weeks. (I wore it really short before.) But I am feeling frumpy with my short ponytail and really want more of a style. I am staying away from the hairdresser (though she is a nice lady) because of the pregnancy. Everytime I see a cute short hairstyle I ge tthe urge but... I have no need to see how fat my face is getting.<br><br>
Good luck with the hairstyle, MLM. At least hair grows quickly when you are pregnant. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I'm sorry. I have two basic rules for whenever I get my haircut and they are the first things I say, 1. No Bnags! 2. Must be able to tuck behind ears and have it stay put.
 

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Stylist here<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:<br><br>
I will admit that their are times when I forget where someone parts their hair esp if they changed it. We go through the exact same thing with our own hair. I have had my friends screw up my hair plenty of times.<br><br>
I learned to repeat everything the person is describing to me in my head when they first sit down and do the "hair talk". Then before I start to cut I repeat all the things they said so we have a clear understanding.<br>
I even write notes if they are going to return with specifics on how long or short or layered or comments for next time. You could carry your own card with this info too.<br><br>
SECRET;there are combs that have measured inches on them in the salon and the stylist can pull the hair up and show you how much an inch , 2, or 3 is. If they know you are measuring they should use it. If they don't- tell them "show me what 2 inches looks like to you" have them show where it will end up with the comb if they cut it that length.<br><br>
Hair shrinks when it dries so ask for a little less off<br><br>
If you think they are an air head and don't listen or get caught up in conversation say " I think I want this length on my crown but let me see before you do it to make sure"<br><br>
Pictures are always good to have however most of the time they aren't exactly what someone wants i.e.: I like her length but her layers are too short, too many ect. or I like her layers in the front but I cant see the back. Her hair is curly and mine is wavy ect. It ends up being very different from the pic most times.<br><br>
I don' t get defensive when someone tells me step by step what they want because they know their own hair. If someone gets snotty with your request or instructions ditch them. They just want to do their own thing. If they can't do the style or if it wont work on your hair they should be able to explain why.
 

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I'm so ticked. I think I will end up wearing my hair in a clip for the next 2 months. (DH said it looked kinda cute pulled back-the day after it was cut. Then said just don't wear it down. And he wondered why I was so pissy with him?)<br><br>
I just got back from the park and wore a hairband. The layers on the right side kept poking me in the eye.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br>
i hate it.<br><br>
My stylist is a know it all b/c he is in such demand for talks , judging etc.<br>
Every time he has cut my hair for the last 9 years, he will turn me around in the chair, give me the mirror and say: "Enjoy" like he just finished a work of art.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
He will always ask how I feel about the length, but obviously I will have to give him more instruction from now on. I think he has been "doing" me for so long that we both just assume too much. Boy did it bite me in the ass!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
His last major screwups:<br>
8 years ago he cut my sister's hair 9She was in town and I always raved about him)<br>
She asked for a bob.<br>
He cut her hair 1 inch long in the back and gave her side burns and an old lady poof on top.<br>
She was heart broken. And that was just before my wedding!<br>
To this day, she can't look at the pictures)<br><br>
Then on my wedding day, he opened the shop on a Sunday and did my wedding hair. Which promptly started to fall out about 2 hours later and created mass chaos!.<br><br>
But other than THAT<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> He's been great. Until this weekend.<br><br>
I actually did consider going back and having him restyle it for me (Which again, I wasn't paying attention to) but it takes months to get an appt.<br><br>
I think I'm just destined to be upset if it's down and feeling like I'm 16 if it's up in a clip.<br>
Lovely!
 

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I went to a new stylist the other day. I was very excited about it since it had been about a year since I'd had my hair cut. I'd last had my hair cut pretty short, and it grew out <i>really</i> well, and this time I just wanted it a little shorter, but I wanted some chunky layers, too.<br><br>
The cut I got I'm not sooo crazy about. And when she was styling it afterwards, she used a straight iron on it (my hair <i>really</i> doesn't need any help being straighter - trust me), but she was going through my hair so fast I could feel a few hairs at a time getting caught on the edges and breaking. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Then she put waaaay too much product in it and my head felt crusty to touch. The hair I have on the top of my head is very thin (like, it's almost a bald spot), and it pulls out more easily than the rest of my hair, and I'm sure it's even <i>thinner</i> now, but I had no idea how to speak up about it - and I'm a terrible wuss about that kind of thing IRL. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
It's not as extreme, but I feel your pain.<br><br>
I found a girl I liked who did my hair <i>perfectly</i> the last two times, and we really clicked as far as knowing what I wanted. I should have gone to her again. Why, oh why, <i>didn't</i> I??<br><br><br>
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I've never really understood this. I asked a hairdresser once (who was in the act of doing just that) why and she said so the two sides would be even in case you wanted to part it in the middle.<br><br>
Well, if you never part your hair in the middle - and I never do - then that really doesn't make sense, does it? JSo just on the off chance that maybe, once in a blue moon I might part my hair in the middle, then it would actually be even? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">What is it about pregnancy and bad haircuts? Hair-stylists should be extra careful during this delicate time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> My DH always advises me not to get a haircut when I suggest it during pregnancy. He remembers my first pregnancy, when I got my hair cut 3 times and hated it all three times. I'm not a violent person....but I broke a curling iron in half I was so angry at my stupid hair.<br><br>
Sorry to hear about your haircut. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Does your hair grow very fast? Can you style it differently (parted in the middle) until it grows out a tad?</div>
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Post partum is just as bad - I went from shoulder length to really short when dd2 was about a week old. (I have only had my hair that short once, and didn't like it for long, but did I think of that???) I came home from the hairdresser hysterical, to the point that dh couldn't calm me down and had to wait for the midwife later that day to get me down.<br><br>
And it wasn't a bad haircut in general. Just on my hormonal head!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm sorry you got a bad cut. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Sending quick hair-growing vibes your way!<br><br>
My hairdresser, who I LOVE, always asks me where I part my hair before starting to cut. She's been cutting my hair for over 5 years and still asks me, just to make sure. I think you should find someone who puts more value in giving you the style that you want rather than the style he wants you to have.</div>
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Every stylist has asked me that question.
 
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