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Just a quick rant, if I may . . . .
My DP and I have been in a monogamous (not that that really matters) committed relationship for over TEN years. We own a home, and he has a wonderful job with insurance which covers all "domestic partners," regardless of orientation. We are disgustingly happy and get along better than anyone we know. Our friends are constantly coming to us for marital/relationship advice -- we've even done interventions with friends on the verge of divorce.
My point? We are a loving, responsible couple who are deliriously excited about expecting our first baby, and despite the fact that we "look" just like any married couple, the fact that we have chosen not to have that piece of paper has resulted in rudeness from others. So far, one friend and a couple of relatives, upon hearing the news of the pregnancy, bluntly ask if we will now "do the right thing and get married"
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Why does it matter? Why do they care? And why in the HELL do they feel that it is appropriate to ask?? As if we are going to love this child any less, or be any less capable as parents, if we don't get married?
Grrrrrrrr . . . . . Anyone else been through this?
My DP and I have been in a monogamous (not that that really matters) committed relationship for over TEN years. We own a home, and he has a wonderful job with insurance which covers all "domestic partners," regardless of orientation. We are disgustingly happy and get along better than anyone we know. Our friends are constantly coming to us for marital/relationship advice -- we've even done interventions with friends on the verge of divorce.
My point? We are a loving, responsible couple who are deliriously excited about expecting our first baby, and despite the fact that we "look" just like any married couple, the fact that we have chosen not to have that piece of paper has resulted in rudeness from others. So far, one friend and a couple of relatives, upon hearing the news of the pregnancy, bluntly ask if we will now "do the right thing and get married"

Why does it matter? Why do they care? And why in the HELL do they feel that it is appropriate to ask?? As if we are going to love this child any less, or be any less capable as parents, if we don't get married?
Grrrrrrrr . . . . . Anyone else been through this?