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Why is it that EVERY time dh says "I have to go to the bathroom" he's in there for 10 minutes or more? And it's ALWAYS when we are about to leave the house! Today he was going to go pick up our oldest dd from girl scouts and just as he's about to leave he says "oh no, I have to leave now but I have to go to the bathroom!" I say to him, "can't you go in there and just get it out quickly?" Of course he said "no"<br><br>
I don't get this. Plans get delayed because he has to go to the bathroom? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch"><br><br>
This doesn't happen with me- I just go in there and get it over with and I'm on my way. Do all men do this? Do all women get confused by it? Maybe it's just us????
 

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Your post made me laugh. My dh doesn't do this, but my Dad ALWAYS did!<br><br>
It was a standing joke in our house - if we needed to go somewhere NOW, there was a 100% chance Dad was in the bathroom...sometimes even with the newspaper! And he always took ages...<br><br>
Funny...your post brought back memories of standing at the front door (or sitting in the car) with my very annoyed (but doing her best to hide it! :LOL ) Mom.
 

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It doesn't usually interfer with plans, but dh does take a ridiculously long time in there. I don't know why it takes him so long to do a #2 but it makes me nuts!
 

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:LOL<br>
10 minutes wouldn't be so bad, around here it's alot longer than that. I've tried to figure out why and he gets angry at my questions, ("Can't I even take a dump without you analyzing it? JEEZ!" :LOL) But, I tell him that I want to know if he has some sort of health issue going on, or if it's just that it's his 'alone time'. If there's a biological reason I can increase the fiber in his meals or something. lol If it's an "alone time" thing, I can give him a little space so he doesn't have to hide in the bathroom!
 

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my dh takes 45 minutes to shave and shower. i can be showered, dressed, and have three kids dressed and he hasn't even started putting his shoes on yet. if he also has to go #2...well, forget about being on time. i'm 30 minutes early quite often if he's not with us.
 

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lol my dad did this, too, always when we had to leave & he'd been nagging us girls (4 girl siblings & mom) to hurry up. My DH goes #2 in like 30 seconds, in and out, and that seems weird to me. :LOL
 

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My dh is the same way, it drives me nuts! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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My DH is the same way, but 10 min is fast for him!!! He's in there a good 20 min at least!!! Believe it or not, he ;eft me waiting to go to the hospital while I was in LABOR because he had to go to the bathroom!!! I mean come on.... can anyone beat that one?????lol
 

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Well, I was being nice when I said 10 minutes, lol! It's usually longer but I figured if I stated so it would make him sound like a REAL freak!<br><br>
Keja, my dh is always telling us to hurry up, asking "aren't you girls ready yet?" and then when we are all ready with coats and shoes on, he says "uh oh, I gotta go to the bathroom!" Then we are like Mommiska, standing there waiting while I'm very annoyed. I don't do such a great job of hiding it, though. I figure it can't be THAT difficult to get it over with!!! Just push it out, heck I pushed Madelyn out in 6 minutes!!!! Don't even tell me that you can't go #2 in less time, lol!!!!<br><br>
I will admit that I hide in there sometimes with a magazine when I need a break, but never ever when we are about to leave, so I know that it's not that he needs time alone!
 

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My dh does this about once a day is in there about 15 min or so... when he shower is the same as an above post takes him about 45 min to shower and shave... un reall, i also can shower and dress myself, get three kids dress and one nursed before he's ready do get out the door!!!
 

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I have two theories related to this (my [male] DP does this too):<br><br>
1) They don't sit to pee, therefore have fewer bowel movements, therefore it takes longer (and when they need to do it, they NEED to do it).<br><br>
2) Especially because they know it takes them so long, they don't like doing it anywhere else. So they get into this habit where they check with their bodies right before they leave their one pooping place: "Do I need to go? Oops, yea, there's something there, better hit the pot."<br><br>
It drives me batty. I've been trying to convince DP to sit every time he has to pee, just in case he might discover he also has to poop, so he can get used to doing it more often.<br><br>
Also, and this doesn't apply to families where everyone eats the same, but the typical American male does have a REALLY unbalanced diet, and yea, this is the result...
 

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Oh, goodness, my DH isn't a freak after all!<br><br>
I mean, how on earth can you, every single freakin' day, sit down and take 10-15 minutes to take a crap when you're supposed to be getting ready to leave? He's quite frequently late for work (more like late to leave, he usually makes it on time anyway, just not with time to put his stuff away, etc. before clocking in) because of this. Because he knows how long it takes him to shower, dress, get his stuff together, etc - plans that amount of time, and then sits on the toilet for 10 minutes.<br><br>
I, being a person who doesn't have problems with normal bodily functions, simply go to the bathroom when I need poop, and am out of there in less than a minute. Really. What on EARTH takes so long about it?<br><br>
Oh, and he eats what I eat. Pretty much exactly.
 

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There has got to be some sort of biological bowel difference here!! My dh does this too. Except he always has to go just when I need him to help out with one of the kids. And as for taking things in there to occupy themselves- dh takes the laptop!!! :LOL
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">10 minutes wouldn't be so bad, around here it's alot longer than that. I've tried to figure out why and he gets angry at my questions, ("Can't I even take a dump without you analyzing it? JEEZ!" ) But, I tell him that I want to know if he has some sort of health issue going on, or if it's just that it's his 'alone time'. If there's a biological reason I can increase the fiber in his meals or something. lol If it's an "alone time" thing, I can give him a little space so he doesn't have to hide in the bathroom!</td>
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This is us, exactly! LOL!<br><br>
I've found it's an excellent time for a captive audience speech. I'll steal his Motor Trend or whatever and set out some articles on co-sleeping or vaccinations or whatever I'm trying to get him to agree to do (or not do). It works!!
 

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uhmm.... you guys... i do this. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"><br><br>
honestly (and i'm going to be completely, completely honest here): it's my "alone time."<br><br>
i work around people all day. i come home and am immediately swarmed with people, needs, talking, conversation.<br><br>
when i'm in the bathroom, i can go in, lock the door, turn on the fan, sit down and clear my head and pretend like i'm trying to move my bowels. i am guilty of shouting through the door at my partner, "LEAVE ME ALONE, I'M JUST TRYING TO POOP FOR HEAVEN'S SAKE" when i was not, in fact, actually pooping, but rather just sitting there daydreaming, and relaxing by myself after a long day.<br><br>
my sister sits out on her porch and chain smokes while her kids watch TV to relax. i sit in the bathroom and daydream. and which one of us is more likely to get cancer, eh? c'mon. give the men a break. even if they ARE just clearing their heads... what business of ours is it?<br><br>
maybe your husband does it when you guys have plans because the plans stress him out and he needs a few minutes to himself to chill out before he leaves with everyone? (( just a thought. ))
 

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My DH does too!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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It could be that he wants to go at home before he goes out. But I had another idea since you said he does this everytime you are about to leave the house. I know someone who has panic attacks. Sometimes he cannot leave the house right away. He also has them before getting on the train. I once waited 45 minutes at a metro station after he said he had to go. I send a station attendant in after him thinking that he had gotten injured or ill. Turns out he was having a panic attack and was having troubles with the thought of getting on the train.<br><br>
The panic attack idea was just a thought.
 

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Yes, same thing here! I will be sitting in the van with two kids beeping the horn. It's insane!<br><br>
To make matters worse, my sons (9 and 13) have started taking comic books into the bathroom. Not a good sign. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 
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