[UrbanPlanter]

One reason (not just this reason) is because I am not completely comfortable with being totally "out" about nursing my enormous preschooler.

I have a lot of friends and know a lot of people who are completely unaware that I still breastfeed my son (38 1/2 months; 42 inches; 43 lbs), and I don't really want to deal with whatever reactions or repurcussions I might get if they find out. Some might be supportive or understanding; some might be less so... who knows.

I'm afraid to find out

: (although half the time I don't care what strangers think... the other half of the time, I want to

: )

And this is why this Nurse-In and future advocacy/nurse-ins are so important to me and so many moms around the world.

Because I shouldn't feel this way. I should be like the woman on the Venezuelan phone card who's boob is completely exposed as she nurses her babe. Or like the woman who was talking to that President (of which country?

) who didn't seem to notice that her chest was only half covered as she nursed her babe with her beautiful round breast exposed.

 

[Oh the Irony]

glad i saw it.

 

[AngelBee]

 

[Quindin]

Mama
I know what you mean... I was basically yelled by my Dr for wanting to get treatment for breast thrush because 13mo DS and I wanted to continue the nursing relationship

I dropped that Dr. of course...

 

[kate~mom]

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Originally Posted by UrbanPlanter And this is why this Nurse-In and future advocacy/nurse-ins are so important to me and so many moms around the world.

exactly! the pics were great, i wish more people could see them, but your point is 100% understandable.

 

[kate~mom]

Quote:

Originally Posted by polihaupt I was basically yelled by my Dr for wanting to get treatment for breast thrush because 13mo DS and I wanted to continue the nursing relationship

omg...i am speechless. 13 months is still just a BABY!

 

[Momtwice]

I totally completely understand.

 

[B52Bombshell]

I completely understand...as I'm nursing my soon to be 3yr old. The pictures were wonderful. You rock, mama!

 

[maxwill129]

That makes me so sad that our society looks down on kids nursing past babyhood. I'm sorry that you can't share your pics anymore. I didn't get to see them, but I bet they were beautiful. Good for you for continuing your nursing relationship, though. I think it's great!

Shannon

 

[fourgrtkidos]

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Originally Posted by kate~emmasmom exactly! the pics were great, i wish more people could see them, but your point is 100% understandable.

I have felt the same way. You are awesome Mamma.

 

[Proudly AP]

i understand, too. my dd is nearly 41 months old and i do not let certain people know, either.

basically, my dh, my best friend, and my LLL group know (and my dd, too, of course

)

 

[Wilhemina]

It is so wonderful that you participated in the nurse-in! I hope I would have nursed my 40 lb. 3.5 y.o. there if I had been close enough to get to NYC, but I don't know - If I'm completely honest. I truly understand, UP.

 

[User101]

The whole point of "nursing rights" is that it should be the mother-child dyad (I love that phrase!) who gets to decide what is right for them, and what their comfort level is with things like public nursing, modesty, and discretion. Not random passer-byers or aging talk show hosts. You do whatever you need to be comfortable with your nursing relationship, babe!

 

[Siana]

We're working on changing things

BTW I loved your pictures too

 

[HelloKitty]

I totally understand where you are coming from, but it's sad that you have to feel that way

Thank you for sharing the pics for awhile with us - they were wonderful

 

[PinkPixie]

Didn't see your pics, but I am a long-term bfing mom like you. I feel sorry for you that your pictures were used without your permission on other sites.

Last october I was the only tandem bfing mama at the bfing challenge. Plus, I had the oldest bf child there (older by two years! DS#2 was 37 months). I was determined to bf him there to make a point, even though I wasn't super-confident about NIP with my 3 year old (the only people who knew that I was still bfing him was my mom&dad, my hubby, and my 5 yo).
Well, that day they whole mall found out and they even printed in the capital's newspaper that the challenge included bfing babies from 2 weeks to 3 years. (He He he :LOL , that was my boy!)

I say, long-term bfing mama's got guts! It take courage and determination. Congrats to all long-term bfing mamas.

 

[UrbanPlanter]

Thanks, Mamas

Ok, so these are the only two smilies that even come close to where we are at in our breastfeeding relationship:

:2toddler:

The first one is a TODDLER.

My son is a PRESCHOOLER.

The 2nd one is for family bed/nighttime nursing, which we still do A LOT, but it does not show a big preschooler crawling all over me at night, waking me up bc he is so big and bulky.

WE NEED SOME NEW SMILIES FOR OLDER NURSLINGS, STAT.

 

[UrbanPlanter]

Oops!

I just found this smilie:

:

I guess it's good enough

 

[Parthenia]

Sorry I missed the photos. I totally understand, although I have a big mouth, and have outed myself before.

After dd#2 was born I went to pick up dd #1 from school and got to talking to the principal and some other office folk. I don't know how we got on the subject but I very casually mentioned that I nursed dd #1 until she was almost 5, and that she stopped just before I got pregnant. Everyone sort of just smiled and nodded, and I didn't feel strange until I was in the car with dd's and it dawned on me that I had just outed my EBF self.

I acted like it was no big deal, and so did they. The principal is still very friendly to me, doesn't look at me strangely or anything. Of course they see that dd doesn't have a tail and nothing's wrong with her, so she must have fared well nursing for so long.

It was not the first time I just blurted that out to people I don't know very well.

: If I act normal about it, I figure so will other people, and if they have something nasty to say, I'm ready.

 

[guerrillamama]

UP, I just took down your photo from my yahoo album. Thanks for letting me take it, and thanks for being at the nurse-in. It made me so happy to see you nursing your ds there.

I don't know whether I'll nurse my ds that long or not, but you are one of the people who has made it an option I can even consider, so thank you for that! I totally respect you for it. And I understand how you feel. Even tho mine is only 18 mo, I have already been called "disgusting" for NIP, and I'm sorry to say that I actually have become more insecure and self-conscious about it. But we are all making progress.