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do they have sympathy cards for loss of a pet but not for the loss of a baby?

do people think that saying "God takes care of THESE things" or "this was God's plan" is okay?

hasn't my father-in-law said one word to me about the loss of my baby, after all it has been months now!

do people say my son needs a brother or sister...why won't they acknowledge that he already had one!

does it feel like I have had to help people comfort me through my loss...essentially supporting them so they can just be around me?

are there support groups advertised for every odd neurosis under the sun but a woman has to search high and low to get support when she loses a child?

does it still hurt so much...

As I approach what would have been my due date, I find myself birthing the grief and anger that I still seem to be carrying. I look around at how our world handles pregnancy and birth loss and I am baffled. I find myself asking why????? Do you?
 

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In the future I plan to design a line of greeting cards for pg loss, but that doesn't help you now, does it?

http://www.aplacetoremember.com./ This place has cards, a memory book and other materials for pregnancy loss.

http://www.october15th.com/ National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Rememberance Day

http://www.ncjwny.org/services_plsp.htm You can get a peer counselor to talk with you over the phone for three sessions. Your partner can have one as well.

Three organizations that does work around pregnancy loss and stillbirths:
http://www.nationalshareoffice.com/
http://www.missfoundation.org/
http://www.stillnomore.org/

Hope some of these are helpful. I'm sorry for your loss.

ST
 

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Flowerbud, I know what you are feeling. I've had the same frustration and anger towards how our culture handles death, especially the death of a child or infant. Keep birthing your anger and grief. Personally, I've found journaling very, very helpful. And I know that some days will be better than others. Heck, sweetie, some moments will be better than others!!!! Just let it come. How you feel is how you feel. There is no right or wrong with feelings, and don't let anyone try to tell you otherwise!
Hang in there, mama. You are not alone in this grief and rage.

Blessings of the summer warmth to you,

Jen (painted horse)
 
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