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DS (3 years 11 months) co-slept with me until a little over a month ago. He's always had his "own" bed and has slept in it for various amount at various ages. When we moved (a month ago) we set up a room all for him. He seemed really happy with it and had virtually no problems sleeping in it. For the first week he had a rough time staying asleep and would come into our room in the middle of the night. I would take him back to his where he would fall asleep with no complaints. The last couple weeks it's been a breeze to put him to sleep. We have a routine (consisting of potty/teeth/pj's/storytime/kisses/etc). Then I lay down with him for 2-3 minutes before leaving the room. He would stay in there and within minutes was asleep. He would sleep all night, waking between 8-9 in the morning. The last few days has not been anything like this. We do the whole routine, same as normal. When I leave the room he's out of his bed within 1-2 minutes. He whines. He wimpers. He will NOT tell me what's wrong (he doesn't have the communication skills to do that, he's got a speech delay). This goes on for hours. Every 1-5 minutes him getting up, whining and wimpering. Me putting him back in bed. Repeat. I've tried talking softly to him, calming him down, while putting him in bed. Doesn't work. I've tried not saying anything to him as I put him back in bed. Doesn't work. I've tried laying down with him for longer. Doesn't work.<br><br>
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Nobody? Crap. And bedtime is in another 3 hours too.
 

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Maybe its all the changes in his life that he is dealing with. When we moved the boys seemed to adjust perfectly but their sleeping habits were affected by the move. Also, a strange room might play into it.
 

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just a <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
my ds is only 16 months.. But I know one thing that has helped alot is teaching him some Sign Language.. they aren't perfect signs but they help so much in him telling me whats wrong or what he needs/wants<br><br>
could you try a new night light? or cuddly teddy? Maybe he is just trying to adjust to the changes
 

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Thanks. I think we found something that works. I'll post here in case others are in the same situation <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Oh, to answer the questions... yes, he's acting normally during the day and no, I do not believe he's coming down with anything (he's been doing this for over a week with no signs of illness or anything).<br><br>
I printed off a picture of he and I together and hung it on the wall right next to his bed so he can touch mama anytime he needs to. I also gave him a shirt of mine that he hugs while falling asleep. But the thing that made all the difference is I took a timer and told him I was setting it. He needed to stay in bed until the timer goes off and then I come in and give him kisses and hugs. I gradually increase the time between hugs/kisses. Yesterday was the first day I did it. He got out of bed a couple times but was put back in (without me talking to him or anything). If he gets out of bed the timer starts again. Tonight it went really well! He didn't get out of bed at all and it only took 4 timers (3 minutes, 4 minutes, 5 minutes and 6 minutes). Both yesterday and today he didn't cry at all. I think it really helps him to know that I'll come back and check on him. He was much more relaxed and calm. Woo-hoo!
 

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Glad to hear that things are getting better. I hope they continue to improve! I'm sure all the changes going on played a part in his sleep habits.
 
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