Yeah, I have no idea why people think that way. For me, being a SAHM is A LOT harder than my last job!
Why so anti-SAHM?
Why is it that people don't consider being a stay-at-home-mama as a job or as hard work? My teacher was asking what I want to do after college and I told her, a stay-at-home-mom. She said, "Besides that?" I told her that's the only "job" I want to have (I didn't even want to get into telling that I want to homeschool my kids), and she said, "What are you going to do when the kids grow up and are at school all day?" So I just made up something about being a book editor or illustrator.
Anyway, why are people so anti-SAHMs? I've also gotten comments from other teachers such as, "Ah, so you can just lay around at home all day!" What?!
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Have any of these people ever even seen a SAHM "at work", or even babysat a young baby/child? It is not just laying around the house all day with the ocassional trip to the store or folding some laundry. Just because you don't get paid for it, people think it's not work.
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Anyway, why are people so anti-SAHMs? I've also gotten comments from other teachers such as, "Ah, so you can just lay around at home all day!" What?!
For all the SAHMS reading this:
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I work harder and longer now than I ever worked in the "outside world". I've gotten to the point now that if someone gives me the "that can't be all you do" look, I just sigh and realize how very little some people know about the world
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Yeah I dont get it either..We are raising the next generation.
I wish people would think about that fact when they make such comments.
Give yourselves a pat on the back mamas
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I wish people would think about that fact when they make such comments.
Give yourselves a pat on the back mamas
I support all the SAHM all the way and understand how hard it is but I think the reason why some people don't understand is because..
records show that now more women are stepping up in the education and work ladder, earning higher degrees, which equals earning higher income...so why pick a job that doesn't have an income (SAHM)
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they just never experienced being a SAHM.
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records show that now more women are stepping up in the education and work ladder, earning higher degrees, which equals earning higher income...so why pick a job that doesn't have an income (SAHM)
or...
they just never experienced being a SAHM.
I must be in the minority-I've never had anyone verbalize that opinion to me in real life. I suppose it's possible that they're thinking it-but that doesn't even occur to me, so therefore it doesn't exist for me.
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All I do is eat bon bons all day and watch Oprah reruns.
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: That's what all SAHM's really do, dontcha know.
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/sarcasm
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I think until people give up the notion that it's a JOB or a CAREER CHOICE, that the perception is always going to be this.
Eightyferrettoes said, "Devaluation of traditional women's work in a patriarchal, capitalist society."
But that only solves the issue with OTHER WOMEN devaluing SAHM's. I've lived all over the world and many countries don't even HAVE daycare, but men still have a skewed attitude of being a SAHM and women are less respected by men. That's a whole other issue, but...
I think what hurts us the most as SAHM's is other WOMEN who devalue us. We want them to respect us as people and understand that value is not determined by a paycheck. In fact, there is room for all of us and we just need to respect each other. SAHM's shouldn't disrespect women who work and the opposite it true. Like communism... this mutual respect looks good on paper, but just doesn't work in practice because we're all human.
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Eightyferrettoes said, "Devaluation of traditional women's work in a patriarchal, capitalist society."
But that only solves the issue with OTHER WOMEN devaluing SAHM's. I've lived all over the world and many countries don't even HAVE daycare, but men still have a skewed attitude of being a SAHM and women are less respected by men. That's a whole other issue, but...
I think what hurts us the most as SAHM's is other WOMEN who devalue us. We want them to respect us as people and understand that value is not determined by a paycheck. In fact, there is room for all of us and we just need to respect each other. SAHM's shouldn't disrespect women who work and the opposite it true. Like communism... this mutual respect looks good on paper, but just doesn't work in practice because we're all human.
I don't get that either. I'm at stay-at home mom, and its hard work. My hubby is always telling me how easy i have it. Its just not true. I work harder now than I ever did in the workplace.
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to all the stay at home mommas we rock
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Originally Posted by eightyferrettoes Devaluation of traditional women's work in a patriarchal, capitalist society. Plain.and.simple. |
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So if it was and one can financially afford it, where exactly is the problem?
Originally Posted by CrunchySheba It is not just laying around the house all day with the ocassional trip to the store or folding some laundry. Just because you don't get paid for it, people think it's not work. For all the SAHMS reading this:
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I try to remind myself that when other people "devalue" SAHMs (or anyone for that matter) it generally stems from some insecurity or guilt they have about the issue.
I had to go to away overnight for my Dad's surgery in SF. I was gone for 36 hours and when I got home dh told me, "Well, yeah it was hard but at least I get to take a break at work tommorrow." Nothing like absence to be appreciated, eh?
Raising the next generation is the most important work I can think of
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I had to go to away overnight for my Dad's surgery in SF. I was gone for 36 hours and when I got home dh told me, "Well, yeah it was hard but at least I get to take a break at work tommorrow." Nothing like absence to be appreciated, eh?
Raising the next generation is the most important work I can think of
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