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So my 5 y/o is back in our bedroom on his mattress on the floor after a month of sleeping in his own room. Due to him having night terrors as some may have read on here.<br>
Someone made the comment to me today ( i didn't even ask for anyones opinion ) and said that its really weird for a 5 y/o to sleep with us in our room. And that he may need counseling.<br>
Seriously, the nerve of some people!!<br><br>
I didn't even respond back.<br><br>
Seriously, what is so wrong with my 5 y/o rather sleeping in the same room as us? Most kids have siblings at this age and sleep together in a room, sharing a bedroom. My DS is an only child, and is independent, but when it comes to sleeping, he sleeps better in our room.<br><br>
And maybe this is me being lazy, but i'd pick him sleeping in my room and getting a decent night of sleep over him waking alot in his room, and losing rest at night.<br><br>
But, yeah....according to some people who don't really know us, we ALL need counseling. ROFL!
 

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I can't believe someone would say that to you!! People are so close minded!! People think that it's wierd for my 15 month old to sleep with me! I can' t imagine him not sleeping with us. He's welcome as long as he wants! I know he'll move on when he is ready!! So sorry that someone would be so rude.
 

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The thing that drives me crazy is, i don't even ask for opinions from these people. They just know we all sleep together because they went passed our bedroom to go to the bathroom and saw the extra mattress on the floor.
 

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Are you still nursing? I mentioned to someone that I was hoping to still be nursing my son at 5 years, and they were HORRIFIED. Imagine if I'm still nursing AND co-sleeping. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Seriously, what is so wrong with my 5 y/o rather sleeping in the same room as us?</div>
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Absolutely nothing. Sleep on, mama, sleep on. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Gah! I wonder what they'd say if they knew my 12yo and I are sharing a room!<br><br>
In all fairness, she'd be happy to have her own room if one was available, but with 4 people in a 2 bedroom apt we all have to share. And DD2 and DD1 need space from each other, so me sharing with her and DS sharing with DD1 is working better than me sharing with DS while the girls share with each other.<br><br>
It's also a cultural thing. I recently re-read the Little House series, and Laura didn't have her own bed until Mary went off to college- at many times in their lives the entire family lived in a single room house, and at other times they had 2-4 room houses. Now I'm reading a book about Native Americans during Colonial times- and once again, whole families lived and slept in single room houses. There simply was NO concept of "a child getting his/her own room."
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It's also a cultural thing.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> Exactly.<br><br>
Did early American pioneer families need counseling? Do entire indigenous and other miscellaneous cultures throughout Latin American, Southeast Asian, and African countries need counseling? Honestly, the ethnocentricity of some people astounds me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> Exactly.<br><br>
Did early American pioneer families need counseling? Do entire indigenous and other miscellaneous cultures throughout Latin American, Southeast Asian, and African countries need counseling? Honestly, the ethnocentricity of some people astounds me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"></div>
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I am from europe, and the family i grew up in it was normal. I mean, my aunts, my cousin and I all slept with grandma at one point. LOL!
 

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I grew up in Europe as well.. Slept in my parents bedroom until I was 6ish.<br><br>
When staying for months at a time with my grandparents I slept with them in their bed at various ages (probably around 7-8 being the latest), and I still could care less about sharing a bed with my siblings being in my mid-twenties.<br><br>
No counseling needed here... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:
 

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Someone had made an interesting comment on one of these threads that I thought summed it up nicely- most of us adults don't like to sleep alone so why does our culture expect that babies and children should be any different? I just don't get why people always need to throw out the counselling comment too as if the way they are raising their children is the superior be all and end all. As if.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am from europe, and the family i grew up in it was normal. I mean, my aunts, my cousin and I all slept with grandma at one point. LOL!</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: Ooooops! Didn't mean to leave out my Trans-Atlantic neighbors! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/blowkiss.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Blowkiss">:
 

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Wow, and he's not even sleeping in the same bed! Do these people know that a lot of families actually only HAVE one room in their house and so <i>everyone</i> sleeps in the same room?!? *gasp*
 

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We didn't have one room for sleep, but my db stayed in my parent's bed til a very late age. I wish I had been offered such an opportunity -- although now I'm sure he's very unwilling to speak of if. :|
 

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I think they are the ones that need counseling!<br><br>
My parents did NOT co-sleep, we all had our own rooms from the time we were 6 weeks old. They still let us sleep in their room if we had nightmares, I remember my brother being 7 and sleeping in their room for a month or two at a time when he was having lots of bad dreams.
 

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that is so obnoxious. i can't believe have the nerve to say stuff like that, even if that's what they're thinking! and this is why i'm incredibly careful about who we tell about certain parenting choices, especially extended bf'ing and cosleeping.<br><br>
FWIW, our 5 yo is just now starting to sleep in her own bed (literally - last night was night #2 - she decided she wanted to all of a sudden), which is right next to our bed. DS who is 3, and the baby, sleep with DH and I. We don't have any extra rooms in our home, so until we have the money for an addition, it's a family bedroom whether we all like it or not - and as others have said, world-wide and historically, that is a much more common situation than everyone having his/her own room.<br><br>
growing up we didn't cosleep per se, but were always allowed in our parents bed if we had a nightmare or were sick. and recently at a funeral i had to go to, my brother and i shared a bed - i left DH and the kids at home (i was pg) overnight - and no one in my family batted an eye.
 

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My 5.5 year old son has his own bed in our room. He doesn't like to 'sleep lonely mumma' and I agree with him ! All good in our house... except the sleepless 17 month old, but thats another story ! lol
 

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Sometimes I feel it's the people that don't / didn't co-sleep that need counselling. No offence anyone!! I talk about my own case when I was put in my own room in another floor from young age and then spent many nights coming downstairs sleeping in the living room just to be closer to my parents (their bedroom was next to the living room). I remember only being allowed co-sleep on special occasions. When I asked my mum WHY they had done that she said that it was the way things were done back then, kids sleeping in cribs from birth, that it's only now when people are being innovative and take kids to bed with them.<br><br>
I don't see anything wrong with kids sharing the parent's bedroom. Afterall, it was like that for centuries (at least in most cultures).
 

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My son i 4.5 and he still sleeps in our bed...along withn his little sister and I'm not planning to move them when the new baby is born...<br><br>
I'm all about "messing up" my kids! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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I'm all about "messing up" my kids! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"></div>
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laughup<br>
I am totally stealing that quote, sorry!
 
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