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Ds has been sleeping through the night (most nights) for several months now. He's 10mo. He hasn't woken to be fed at night since maybe 6mo, but sometimes just wakes up and I have to rock him back to sleep. No big deal, I just rock him for a few min and then lay him back down and climb back in bed with him. For some reason unknown to me, the past few nights have been absolute hell. The problem is he wakes up crying and when I pick him up and rock him and try to lay him back down, he starts screaming as soon as I lay him down. Last night I was up rocking and attempting to lay him down from around 1am to 3:30am. Then he woke up twice more before morning, though I was able to lay him down easier those times, it was still so frustrating. For some reason I have been even more frustrated with this than I was when it was happening many months ago. Maybe cause I'm pregnant, maybe cause I have just gotten used to getting decent sleep at night and now I feel like things are going backwards. Why is he doing this?? He's not teething, not sick, nothing is going on. When will it end? I feel so bad but I have been thinking about putting him in the nursery and trying to sleep train him or something. No flames, plz, I'm just at the end of my rope. I could really use some good advice.
 

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In my albeit limited experience with my DD, I found there was ALWAYS a reason for this kind of thing. Problem was, I never knew until afterwards. But there really was always something afterwards that made me say "ohhhhhhhhhh! Now I see what was going on."<br><br>
It could be developmental (new skills, more awareness), it could be emotional (maybe sensing your frustration), it could be a little bout of separation anxiety, it could be something in his diet (or in yours if you're breastfeeding), it could be a growth spurt, etc.<br><br>
Can DH help give you a bit of a break? When sleep stuff got bad at our house, my DH would take DD first thing in the morning and let me get an extra hour of sleep (sometimes 2 on the weekends)--somehow, it was easier to get through the night when I knew that hour was coming.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It could be developmental (new skills, more awareness), it could be emotional (maybe sensing your frustration), it could be a little bout of separation anxiety, it could be something in his diet (or in yours if you're breastfeeding), it could be a growth spurt, etc.</div>
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hmm... well he has been doing alot new exploring here lately.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Can DH help give you a bit of a break? When sleep stuff got bad at our house, my DH would take DD first thing in the morning and let me get an extra hour of sleep (sometimes 2 on the weekends)--somehow, it was easier to get through the night when I knew that hour was coming.</div>
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Unfortunately dh isn't much of any kind of help. He never has participated in nighttime parenting. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: But maybe if this continues I can get him to at least watch him for an hour or two on Sunday morning for me. Maybe.
 

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What makes you think he's not teething? Sleep was HELL for us at 5/6 mos and DS cut 6 teeth in 3 weeks. You really can't tell.<br><br>
Try to trust him. It'll pass.
 

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oh, hello 10.5 month developmental spurt. My baby is also 10 months. And getting molars. Nuff said. It will pass, just like all the other developmental spurts did. This is a particularly tough one, from everything I've read and heard. Right now is not forever. Repeat, mutter under breath.<br><br>
Is it possible he's thirsty or hungry? You didn't say if you offer to nurse him or give a bottle or even a few sips of water. I've noticed when I wake up with my baby that *I'm* really thirsty since the air is dry in the house, so she is always ready to at least nurse for a few seconds. It's faster to get her back down if she is satisfied on all comfort levels.<br><br>
I know you said your DH is no help, but it may be time for him to learn. When the new baby arrives, he'll have to, so might as well start while you are still an available back up. At the very least, he could watch him in the morning, even while he's getting ready for work. We do that since she only wants me at night during this phase, and the extra hour or two of sleep in the morning really helps.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">What makes you think he's not teething? Sleep was HELL for us at 5/6 mos and DS cut 6 teeth in 3 weeks. You really can't tell.</div>
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He just got done teething and I can always tell when he is by his biting and excessive drooling, which has ceased since he recently cut more teeth.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">oh, hello 10.5 month developmental spurt. My baby is also 10 months. And getting molars. Nuff said. It will pass, just like all the other developmental spurts did. This is a particularly tough one, from everything I've read and heard. Right now is not forever. Repeat, mutter under breath.<br><br>
Is it possible he's thirsty or hungry? You didn't say if you offer to nurse him or give a bottle or even a few sips of water. I've noticed when I wake up with my baby that *I'm* really thirsty since the air is dry in the house, so she is always ready to at least nurse for a few seconds. It's faster to get her back down if she is satisfied on all comfort levels.<br><br>
I know you said your DH is no help, but it may be time for him to learn. When the new baby arrives, he'll have to, so might as well start while you are still an available back up. At the very least, he could watch him in the morning, even while he's getting ready for work. We do that since she only wants me at night during this phase, and the extra hour or two of sleep in the morning really helps.</div>
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Now that I think about it, I do think it may be a developemental spurt. He's really been exploring his little world here lately, and also has started pulling up on everything and starting to walk while holding on.<br><br>
As for him being hungry or thirsty, I don't think so. I guess I could offer a sip of water to be sure. He hasn't taken a bottle in the night since he was around 6 or 7mo. I did finally give him one the other night when I was spending hours trying to get him laid back down, and he did take some of it, but I don't think he really needed it and it only seemed to make him more awake. Maybe because now he's used to a bottle being an indication that it's morning and time to get up, I don't know.<br><br>
I have told dh he is going to have to help when Bella gets here in Aug and he doesn't say anything. He's still not willing to help me now. Finally he agreed that he will start doing the nighttime parenting with ds a week or two before my due date, but no sooner. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br><br><br>
Thanks for the advice ladies. I am pretty sure I know whats going on now. Hopefully it was pass soon, but I do feel better knowing that there IS a reason and an end in sight.
 

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Gee, isn't he helpful! (sarcasm)<br><br>
I don't mean to offend, but I would honestly have to reconsider having any more babies with a man who refuses to help parent his own children.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">In my albeit limited experience with my DD, I found there was ALWAYS a reason for this kind of thing. Problem was, I never knew until afterwards. But there really was always something afterwards that made me say "ohhhhhhhhhh! Now I see what was going on."<br><br>
It could be developmental (new skills, more awareness), it could be emotional (maybe sensing your frustration), it could be a little bout of separation anxiety, it could be something in his diet (or in yours if you're breastfeeding), it could be a growth spurt, etc.</div>
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ITA. I always assumed too, if he had been sleeping well obviously he was capable of doing so, so if his sleep was disturbed there was SOMETHING giving him trouble that was waking him up, kwim?<br><br>
Just try to get through it, it won't last too long <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Gee, isn't he helpful! (sarcasm)<br><br>
I don't mean to offend, but I would honestly have to reconsider having any more babies with a man who refuses to help parent his own children.</div>
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Are you kidding me? I didn't "plan" on having any babies at all with him! Yes, he is totally useless at night, but he has gotten better about helping out with ds as he has gotten older. He actually changes 1 or 2 diapers a week! The only way I can get him to do that is by insisting that ds will become "weird" and refuse to ever be changed by anyone but me if he doesn't change one every now and then. But now ds is SUCH a daddy's boy that he races to the front door the minute dh sticks his key in it and dh can't resist him so he does spend alot of time playing with him, that is when he's actually home. BUt as for all ds's care (feeding, bathing, bedtime, etc) it falls to me.
 

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It seems to me that your baby might have an ear infection. I do not have time now to read the whole thread, but screaming at night, especially, all of a sudden seems to point to this. I remember when someone told me that whenever he heard his child scream at night he immediately knew that they had to deal with another ear infection, and I thought that you can't tell that easy. But I learnt only few months later that that's true. Our son had repeated ear infections over 3-4 months and this was the sign: screaming at night and he would cry even more when I tried to put him down (it was because the fluid was pressing on his ear drum). He used to go to sleep drinking from the bottle, but with the ear infection that was not possible anymore, so the sleep went downhill big time for us.<br><br>
We used Wally's Ear Oil from GNC and few courses of antibiotics and he finally got over them. Also, I read in the mothering magazine that breast milk can help as well, in case you breastfeed.<br><br>
JMO: check his ears.
 

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A, and our son seemed perfectly fine during the day, I don't even remember if he had a fever at all. At naps he was a little fussy, I thought he was just tired, later on I found out why he could not lay down easily...
 

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I'd have to second the ear problem. It might not be an infection, it could just be fluid in his ears. Both my kids get that every once in a while and they're really grouchy at night. My 5 month old had it a couple weeks ago and I wondered what in the world was going on with him because you can usually lay him down awake and if he's sleepy, he'll go right to sleep. Every time I'd lay him down he would start crying, so I knew something was wrong. 2 days later after he woke up from a nap, about 1/4 tsp of waxy fluid had drained out of his ear and he was back to normal.<br><br>
It also could be the growth spurt thing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">s to you, I know how tough parenting can be when you're pregnant.
 

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I think it's a developmental thing. I have heard *several* moms of 9-10 month olds complaining about this very same thing. I, too, have spent a few nights telling DD that she is very lucky that I don't believe in CIO!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> DH walked in one night while I was telling her that she doesn't know how good she has it, that I snuggle her and walk with her and rock her and sing to her (etc etc) while she cries. There are nights where the sleep training sounds easier, aren't there?? Don't feel badly about that - we are human and of course we are going to have those moments where mainstream looks good. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Just hang in there, I'm sure it will pass. If you feel like something might be going on more than the usual developmental stuff, maybe call your doctor?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think it's a developmental thing. I have heard *several* moms of 9-10 month olds complaining about this very same thing. I, too, have spent a few nights telling DD that she is very lucky that I don't believe in CIO!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> DH walked in one night while I was telling her that she doesn't know how good she has it, that I snuggle her and walk with her and rock her and sing to her (etc etc) while she cries. There are nights where the sleep training sounds easier, aren't there?? Don't feel badly about that - we are human and of course we are going to have those moments where mainstream looks good. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Just hang in there, I'm sure it will pass. If you feel like something might be going on more than the usual developmental stuff, maybe call your doctor?</div>
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Thanks for this. I totally agree it's developemental. Last night was a good night, so maybe (hopefully) we are getting over this hump.
 

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After I posted earlier, I realized that the past week has been better, so there is light at the end of the tunnel! Your babe will go back to his regular sleeping habits. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I think they like to shake things up a bit and keep us mamas on our toes.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think they like to shake things up a bit and keep us mamas on our toes.</div>
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Too true! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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