[CalebsMama05]

a little background...ds#1 was breastfed until 16wks (ignorance and lack of support/information mostly) and was sleeping through consistently by 5 weeks. So I have had a baby that slept through early.

ds#2 is 6wks (tomorrow!) and I was chatting with a friend online a few days ago and she asked how ds was sleeping. I (proudly) announce that he's still waking every 2-3 hours to eat. she says "he needs to start sleeping through the night"

then the day before yesterday I had Jacob in the sling and he kept crying when I took him out, and when I put him back in he slept. well I was EXHAUSTED (it was a long wakeful night for my poor boy) so I just lay down with him in the sling and we slept for TWO HOURS all cuddled up with him in the sling. I was telling her about it (he's such an ap baby!) and she said "well its time he learn how to sleep on his own" HUH? my son needs more contact wtih mama and he all of a sudden doesn't know how to sleep on his own? why would that even matter? why would she even CARE?

i'm so confused. but then she fed her daughter cereal at 3wks old.

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[Ruthla]

She sounds insecure in her own parenting decisions.

 

[CalebsMama05]

btw we cosleep...most nights he sleeps in his bed for a couple of hours and then we sleep together the rest of the night. some nights he needs me more than others and we sleep together all night long.

 

[mother_star]

All babies are different. Some need more affection and...well they ALL need as much affection as possible. When my ds#1 was born everyone told me NOT to rock him, co-sleep, carry him all the time. I did it all. Don't worry about what others say, do what you feel is right. Mother knows whats best for their child.

Just wondering though, what's wrong with feeding your baby cereal at 3 wks old? Mine was eating cereal at a week old.

 

[CalebsMama05]

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Originally Posted by mother_star All babies are different. Some need more affection and...well they ALL need as much affection as possible. When my ds#1 was born everyone told me NOT to rock him, co-sleep, carry him all the time. I did it all. Don't worry about what others say, do what you feel is right. Mother knows whats best for their child. Just wondering though, what's wrong with feeding your baby cereal at 3 wks old? Mine was eating cereal at a week old.

just my personal experience but ds#1 didn't lose his tongue reflex thingie until 4mos. and she told me her daughter still had it. she says she enjoys cereal though. I have no idea if that's true or not.

also isn't there some kind of allergy risk? I would personally not give my child cereal before 4mos so I haven't looked into early introduction of solids much.

 

[AJP]

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Originally Posted by mother_star Just wondering though, what's wrong with feeding your baby cereal at 3 wks old? Mine was eating cereal at a week old.

Er....not trying to be rude or scare you, but even the very conservative AAP (and probably other medical organizations as well) recommend babies have only breastmilk or formula until 6 months of age. Their guts are not equipped to digest anything else before then. Early introduction of solids, particularly grains, is linked to later digestive problems throughout life, such as "leaky gut" where proteins pass through into the bloodstream undigested and cause a host of problems.

To the OP, people say those kind of things because they don't know any better, they've assimilated and are repeating what they've always heard as standard parenting practice (which in our current society is really twisted and unnatural in many instances, IMO). Read and learn more and more yourself about the principles and reasons behind attachment/instinctive parenting and you'll understand why babies should not be forced into premature independence or made to adhere to a sleep (or feeding) schedule only for the sake of the convenience of the parents. When you're secure in your own knowledge, you'll recognize the absurdity of those unsolicited opinions about your baby's sleep habits and they'll roll off your back. Some babies will naturally sleep for longer periods than others, there is no logical reason to concern yourself with the mythical milestone of babies sleeping "through the night" or sleeping independently.

 

[fremontmama]

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Originally Posted by AJP Er....not trying to be rude or scare you, but even the very conservative AAP (and probably other medical organizations as well) recommend babies have only breastmilk or formula until 6 months of age. Their guts are not equipped to digest anything else before then. Early introduction of solids, particularly grains, is linked to later digestive problems throughout life, such as "leaky gut" where proteins pass through into the bloodstream undigested and cause a host of problems. To the OP, people say those kind of things because they don't know any better, they've assimilated and are repeating what they've always heard as standard parenting practice (which in our current society is really twisted and unnatural in many instances, IMO). Read and learn more and more yourself about the principles and reasons behind attachment/instinctive parenting and you'll understand why babies should not be forced into premature independence or made to adhere to a sleep (or feeding) schedule only for the sake of the convenience of the parents. When you're secure in your own knowledge, you'll recognize the absurdity of those unsolicited opinions about your baby's sleep habits and they'll roll off your back. Some babies will naturally sleep for longer periods than others, there is no logical reason to concern yourself with the mythical milestone of babies sleeping "through the night" or sleeping independently.

Yeah that!